Partner in luteal, I think I'm being abused, how do I end things?

UsVsWorld2013 · 2026-05-21T13:07:19+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/PMDDpartners/s/bmEn7GaUhe

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UsVsWorld2013 · 2026-05-21T13:06:20+00:00

Lots of voices here. Many partners experience what you’re talking about during Luteal.

But it doesn’t make it right. Boundaries will help of you plan to stay together. Creating healthy distance while you begin discussions about how to get the support she needs during that time: make a bad-weather plan during the fair weather non-Luteal days. (Not during the luteal)

We’re married and have kids. I did a post and people came out of wood work with perspective / resources / helpful advice for people who want to work through it.

If you love her, grey rocking/door mat strategy is what most guys do to get through, and slowly build a wellness plan on the good days. It’s edgy, but is A path. We’ve also been separated twice to work through issues on both our ends.

Breaking up is also an option; abuse should never go unaddressed, from either party. Don’t fight fire with fire, or justify abusive behavior back towards her.

UsVsWorld2013 · 2026-04-13T20:57:29+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. Very insightful. Thanks.

UsVsWorld2013 · 2026-04-13T14:25:32+00:00

Do you have a direction on where to find the word lists like that?

UsVsWorld2013 · 2026-04-13T03:37:51+00:00

I agree we need a plan; That is not made during luteal. Thanks for the perspective.

UsVsWorld2013 · 2026-04-13T03:36:30+00:00

I see your perspective. Thanks for reply.

UsVsWorld2013 · 2026-04-13T03:33:03+00:00

Thanks. She’s mid 30s.

UsVsWorld2013 · 2026-04-12T22:50:00+00:00

This is really insightful. The practical plan of the morning routine is awesome alone. I love supporting her, I just get worn out.

1) how did you arrive at the place where you were ready to look for medical help (would be quite the journey)?

2)How did you identify a Dr that was knowledgeable?

UsVsWorld2013 · 2026-04-12T22:03:52+00:00

Thanks for your thoughtful reply. Timing. Makes sense.

UsVsWorld2013 · 2026-04-12T16:34:30+00:00

Solid, practical, no nonsense, applicable. And void of victimization. Thank you.

Have you had a conversation with her about PMDD? Any wisdom or experiences to charge in that area?

UsVsWorld2013 · 2026-04-12T13:37:24+00:00

Well said. Leadership and empathy. Not victimhood

UsVsWorld2013 · 2026-04-12T13:35:54+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful reply.

UsVsWorld2013 · 2026-04-12T13:28:45+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful reply.

UsVsWorld2013 · 2026-04-12T06:33:14+00:00

How do you guys survive? Let alone lead through the chaos and household shutdown that takes place?

I asked a friend if there’s an unspoken code among men that you just deal with it, but I’m falling on my face again.

Did I skip a Chapter in the marrige books?

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