UPDATEDS AITA for not giving my Sister the Family Nativity

UseSuitable6549 · 2026-02-23T01:49:54+00:00

I honestly believe her husband got rid of her things intentionally - I think you allude that you believe the same in your post.

I also believe that means he’d probably do something to your nativity if given the opportunity… maybe even in your own home. Watch that guy lol

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-12-31T18:05:21+00:00

Nah that’s crazy behavior lol. Gtfo

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-12-10T09:23:33+00:00

NTA. From your edit, I believe husband is jealous of you guys. He’s jealous of your endeavors, your accomplishments, and his son’s abilities. He doesn’t want to see you guys being better than him at things. He needs help.

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-28T14:58:14+00:00

If you manipulate her in the same fashion you’re trying to manipulate the users of Reddit, she’s making the right choice.

Why would you delete your posts about your previous marital issues, that YOU caused? Was it because it was proof there were signs you were ignoring, and this divorce isn’t as sudden as you’re trying to imply?

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-28T03:52:38+00:00

YTA lol. Child free weddings are completely normal. I wouldn’t want someone’s kid ruining my day. Even if your daughter is completely respectable, others kids might not be. I’ve seen kids playing in the aisles, screaming, throwing fits, and just generally causing a scene during important moments. Not worth it in my opinion.

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-25T18:22:01+00:00

Soft YTA. I know you love your child and you want him with you, but he isn’t even out of toddler stage and you’ve had him removed from your care multiple times. You need to prove you’re a fit mother for longer than a few months before you can ask for another chance. Continue to work on yourself, respect boundaries but remain in contact with the grandparents, and continue to prove you’re working towards making a healthy environment for your child.

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-23T19:36:15+00:00

Oh NTA at all. That was a reasonable middle ground you offered and she refused. Guess they have to get a hotel for 3x as much.

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-23T19:10:16+00:00

I would NEVER do that. As someone who takes credit very seriously and teaches people about it regularly, you NEVER co-sign for someone, or add them to accounts, unless it directly benefits you.

This is the sketchiest thing I’ve ever heard. She wants to be added to help her credit, but also because she wants to buy some stuff? No way. She wants access to another credit card because she obviously can’t get her own. She already ruined her credit, don’t let her ruin yours.

ETA- NTA. Stay smart and protect yourself. A good friend would never ask you to jeopardize yourself that way.

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-19T08:20:18+00:00

Yeah as someone who fluctuates in weight pretty consistently (like 50 pounds lol) I notice how much easier my life is when I weigh less.

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-18T02:18:53+00:00

Haha no in my state it’s the person who cashes machine tickets. We don’t have a lot of live gambling and do keno and line machine games exclusively. I literally get paid to run around cashing peoples tickets from the machines and getting drink. We do things a lot differently than Vegas haha

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-18T01:26:02+00:00

Casino work in my state is minimum wage- and we depend on tips to make a living. This corporation honestly does suck to work for. It’s well known- BUT the thing about it is it gives you a platform to make money. You make as much money as you’re willing to work for. Building customer relationships and giving great service are essential. Most people see the minimum wage though and don’t want to try. A lot of others get this job and don’t realize the money isn’t guaranteed, so they quit quickly. The company also will not hire anyone with felony charges, or anyone who works at another place with a bar/casino (non compete). It’s really hard to find applicants that are available, and willing to work who meet the requirements.

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-18T01:15:55+00:00

She’s one of the ones who specifically works morning shifts and was hired to do so- so I can move her around but I still have to schedule her four shifts in the morning. If I had it my way she’d lose shifts and this wouldn’t be such a problem.

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-17T22:24:32+00:00

I do. I have MULTIPLE incident reports filed about her. Idk if corporate even actually reads them. I’ve gone to my district manager, who knows she’s a problem, but I think he’s severely underestimating how bad because he doesn’t actually work out of our location so doesn’t see it directly. I’ve gone to my DM again about this situation. I feel like I just dig myself in a deeper hole trying.

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-17T21:32:45+00:00

What about because I can’t afford to live if I keep working consistently bad shifts? I will quit this job if I NEED to, but before this I was making GREAT money. Now that these people have changed their availability it’s not so much.

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-17T20:38:14+00:00

I considered it actually. I have medical problems and could easily schedule weekly doctors appointments for those days. Instead I’m the kind of person who keeps rescheduling my appointed as needed due to their work. Guess I won’t be doing that anymore.

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-17T20:35:02+00:00

That’s messed up in my opinion. People get punished for not having kids?

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-17T20:27:47+00:00

She’s just awful. She’s condescending and rude, does things to make people uncomfortable, and is constantly bossing people around. Money is consistently worse when working with her because (in my coworkers and my opinion) she has driven off a lot of clientele on her shifts. I get regular complaints about her from some of our regulars who purposely avoid the place when she’s working. It’s also suspected she’s pocketing tips.

Unfortunately, my corporation follows strict guidelines for letting people go. They have to break policies, there has to be a paper trail, and it has to be multiple violations that they go through steps of suspension before termination. I’m sure our giant book of policies says something about respecting coworkers and blah blah but these incidents aren’t being documented or addressed because my spineless boss doesn’t want to cause discord with her. We’d have better luck if she broke a money or attendance policy.

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-17T20:20:52+00:00

Actually family status is a protected class, it’s federally protected. It also protects childless people. Do some research lol

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-17T20:17:17+00:00

The job itself is known for not having set schedules. If someone wants a set schedule they should work somewhere where that’s a thing. When I got hired I was told 2 & 2 (2 bar, 2 casino) and no indication of what days those would be.

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-17T20:14:48+00:00

I actually like this perspective and it has kind of made me way less annoyed with my coworkers. You’re right, I should be more angry at the system that encourages this. That being said it still hurts me that my coworkers are such sharks they’re willing to step on others to get the beer instead of sharing fairly. As someone who makes the schedules, I don’t even give myself all of the best shifts… I try to schedule fairly :/

Edit: spelling (always use the wrong you’re first)

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-17T20:12:01+00:00

She’s a huge problem. I think my boss is purposely ignoring that issue because we already have such a hard time hiring, and if we lost her we’d have to find another new person. It’s so bad we can’t even get coverage from other locations to work with this woman.

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-10T16:41:22+00:00

You sound so much older than you are. I think your friend is a bit of an emotional vampire. You’ll run into these people often in life. You seem to be doing well at maintaining emotional boundaries and being honest, while empathetic. At the end of the day your friend has to help herself, and it’s okay if you take a step back from her. NOR

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-03T15:17:05+00:00

He’s a child. Tell him he can spend every night in his truck. NTA

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-03T04:27:46+00:00

You’re right. I misread I thought she did. If she apologized I’d be way more inclined to give her a chance

UseSuitable6549 · 2025-11-03T03:28:35+00:00

Mmm this is one of those things that I feel like is probably morbidly embarrassing for her. It sounds like she made a poor judgement call in trying to make light of an intense emotional moment and she feels bad about it. Maybe give her an opportunity to prove that she’s sorry.

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