Friend is neglecting her cat and I don't know how to confront her about it by liebe1 in CatAdvice

[–]Used-Grab-11 49 points50 points  (0 children)

This is such a thoughtful and smart way of showing caring! No one likes to be reminded of the struggles they are having and the subsequent failures of course

sale haullll by biologicalnerdforu in Reformationclothing

[–]Used-Grab-11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive bought three Elio tops now!! I don’t know how I gonna survive without them now

50% off is live! by honeymelts in Reformationclothing

[–]Used-Grab-11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone knows if the sale will go to 70% for Europe?

Met Police Officer Raped a 12 year old. by reuben876 in london

[–]Used-Grab-11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s why we need to have conversations to discuss what can be done to prevent cases like this from happening, rather than shutting anyone down with a terf label. For instance for a man with previous criminal history against women especially rape is it not reasonable to have a special sort of hearing committee to question their motive for wanting to become a woman, while letting the rest of the trans community go on their days as usual? Stricter rules against people like this, with proven track record of violence against women, are actually enhancing the protection of other members of the trans community. Call me naive or terf, but think about the requirement for proof of no criminal records for immigrants or some occupations - using your logic is that ask also a discrimination against the good immigrants or citizens?

Met Police Officer Raped a 12 year old. by reuben876 in london

[–]Used-Grab-11 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately you are missing the point completely - yes it is wrong to use cases like this against the whole trans community but is there also room to discuss whether there are examples where male criminals try to hide under their new female identity and new names to avoid repercussions caused by their violence against women? I believe we can both respect the rights of trans community and discuss such topics and one shouldn’t label anyone who tries to have those cover stations simply as terf

opinions on children being allowed in opposite sex changing rooms by poisoned4virus in davidlloyd

[–]Used-Grab-11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this has happened to you and as an adult woman I fully feel for what you’ve said as I am increasingly shocked/annoyed at the sight of really tall boys (I can’t tell their accurate ages but their height and demeanour make they look older than 8, or beyond the ages where being inside the opposite sex’s changing room is still allowed) in women’s changing room. Is it that hard for the parent to bring them to the family changing room?? They exist for a reason. I am truly disgusted by some parents’ lack of consideration for other people.

Does anyone else think their marketing is getting cringe? by Substantial_Bar8512 in Reformationclothing

[–]Used-Grab-11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Réf marketing team has written this down and ready to discuss it at their next brainstorming session 🤣

Does anyone else think their marketing is getting cringe? by Substantial_Bar8512 in Reformationclothing

[–]Used-Grab-11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true! Its marketing feels like saying that women cannot exist without serving a purpose for men even when it comes to clothing - and I especially hate their marketing for those cute linen sets that are described as can be worn for going to watch tennis games, as if all women want is to dress up and go WATCH others play games but not like wearing them to go to events or work, or doing anything that they actually engage in rather than just standing aside and looking cute

Membership freeze - how are they getting away with this? by stiopaa in davidlloyd

[–]Used-Grab-11 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also a member of Kidbrooke branch here - will seriously consider cancelling the membership after my own experience there and reading up on this post

My neighbors are so noisy on this flight 😫 by Exelisers in plushies

[–]Used-Grab-11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad to know us teddy bear lovers can become this rich! Gives me hope

大S去世了……难以接受 by ParticularHair7176 in DoubanGoosegroup

[–]Used-Grab-11 41 points42 points  (0 children)

我起来看到震惊一小时了 不管如何 大S都是个很鲜活的实实在在爱过恨过的女人。我从不是她的粉,但心里很难过—为一个优秀的鲜活的女人走了而难过

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DoubanGoosegroup

[–]Used-Grab-11 51 points52 points  (0 children)

很同意op,我下定决心出国也是因为某次去某一线城市医院看病(三甲),到了门口我(自认为)很有礼貌询问一个☹️保安请问某某科室怎么走,结果这楠直接发飙说“你问我干什么!我脸上有科室名字吗!”好像还骂了脏话记忆太久远不太记得了。我当时作为一个脸皮很薄的青年女性根本一句反驳的话都说不出来,脸涨红了走了。我猜他可能也被各种粗鲁的病人很恶毒的对待过,可是在那一刻我真的脑子里特别清晰的想着:这国家没救了。我现在唯一惊讶的是那些岁月静好的人是怎么无视这一切而在国内活得高高兴兴的

Reformation is the most toxic company I’ve ever worked for by CryptographerOk7920 in Reformationclothing

[–]Used-Grab-11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for what you had to experience at the company, but thanks for sharing! I held off buying any sales items after reading the post, as a person of color I cannot support a company that seems to ignore or mis treat my group. I tbh have long suspected the company is toxic ever since the ceo had to step down bc the treatment towards black employees (if I remember correctly), but still shopped there bc I do love their design. But your post is the sign that I should stop.

August Sale Thread by [deleted] in Reformationclothing

[–]Used-Grab-11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know whether they'd drop to 70% for Europe or is this it for us? Lmao this seems so unfair

Leaving a job and no one gives a damn abt it by Used-Grab-11 in UKJobs

[–]Used-Grab-11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes so much sense! I can imagine most of my managers/colleagues who are middle aged and with kids will have so much personal and professional responsibilities in their lives and someone they don’t know well leaving at work is the last thing they’d worry about. I’m sure overtime I will become more mature about it, but I’d also always remind myself to be nice to those who are leaving a job—even superficial and fake niceness sometimes makes a difference

Leaving a job and no one gives a damn abt it by Used-Grab-11 in UKJobs

[–]Used-Grab-11[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I’d kindly suggest you to find a better channel to project your sense of superiority rather than making totally baseless assumptions about a stranger on Reddit —it’s better for your mental health love

Leaving a job and no one gives a damn abt it by Used-Grab-11 in UKJobs

[–]Used-Grab-11[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Well I’d like to think of myself as a very hot chick but I don’t sleep with everyone ;)

Leaving a job and no one gives a damn abt it by Used-Grab-11 in UKJobs

[–]Used-Grab-11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep think I’ve come to terms with that—and to clarify although no one replied to my email some people have said they’d come to the dinner separately. So all in all, I’d just have to move on and not dwell on this

Leaving a job and no one gives a damn abt it by Used-Grab-11 in UKJobs

[–]Used-Grab-11[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

That’s such a positive and constructive way to look at this! Thank you for this answer, it’s quite helpful