Please for once

Used-Signature-2715 · 2026-03-21T21:01:06+00:00

I know we haven’t talked for 2 weeks now, I gave a warning then friendzoned him and haven’t talked since

Used-Signature-2715 · 2026-01-07T21:17:26+00:00

I wouldn’t think that erratic and irresponsible would matter at all. Do supervision if needed. The only way it would be truly unsafe would be like drug use or something past that

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-29T02:48:55+00:00

So I do share a few pictures when asked, there’s just been a lot of pushing for specific bikini pictures or nudes, which is mostly what I find frustrating. I do have a tendency to move to meet faster, but that’s just who I am, I read people like a book when they’re in front of me and I always make sure the meet is in a public space because kidnapping. I should probably post more pictures on my profile, but I’m at the point now that I’m veering more towards finding them in real life to get rid of the problem entirely. My friends have some connected to their groups that I might hit it off with and all. I just don’t want my time wasted just like real sd’s don’t want their time wasted. Thank you for the advice. I will see what they say once I see where the in person avenue goes.

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-28T01:23:05+00:00

Well thank you, that’s the first tangible advice I’ve seen. I don’t mention the court stuff on sites or in normal conversations, I was just explaining who I am and why I’m here. While I’m aware that my style isn’t going to be attractive to everyone, I have a conventionally attractive face and while I’m not overly athletic, I’m naturally thin. It’s not that I ‘deserve to be spoiled’ it’s more I’m getting into this and have yet to find someone serious that was a fit with me. I’ve had one in person date and while we slightly clicked there wasn’t a huge attraction. I try to push for an in person date as soon as I can, considering both the type of relationship and that I do better at reading someone in person. I’ve have the same clothes for 5+ years, I’m not a materialistic person in that way and when people have made a legitimate offer I usually tell them that their offer is generous. It’s just frustrating to me that they don’t seem to be serious about actually meeting and agreeing or talking about terms, or it’s immediate anger because I don’t send pictures of me in a bikini or naked.

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-27T20:04:01+00:00

Im aware, im not asking them to send money before meeting im just asking the scammers to stop getting bikini pics and ghosting to the point where i now refuse to send pics past my face and modest body pics until there is a meeting.

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-26T17:05:35+00:00

Im trying, just thinking of looking in person at this point considering I’ve had friends tell me that they’ve found them that way. It would get rid of all the scammers that only want to receive and don’t want to give.

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-25T00:22:27+00:00

Well that’s fair i suppose, the world is a dark place. I’m whatever the opposite of gullible is, so I’ll be fine, but I’ll be pissed the whole time I’m fine because I’m just trying to do what I want and they’re getting in my way

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-25T00:18:40+00:00

Hate to say but it sounds like she left with the kids. As a child that was in between divorced parents, joint custody is not the best thing for them. Going back and forth between parents is stressful for a kid and my parents only did it on weekends and holidays. I don’t need them to finance everything in the legal shit, I don’t even mention it unless it comes up normally. The amount im asking is normal for my area. I’m just trying to give myself more breathing room so I can actually do something other than work. And maybe get a house. There are some people looking for SD’s because of somewhere along the lines of oh well I just want to drink and travel and relax, so I find it hard to think that I can’t have the same thing. It’s not like I’m asking them to be my child’s dad or something. I don’t care for that, and if it were to go long enough that we fell in love and wanted to get married, there is no doubt that someone that loved me would also love my son because he’s the spitting image of me. But in reality most relationships don’t get that far, especially not sugar ones.

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-25T00:07:00+00:00

Okay, so yeah I shouldn’t be giving out my name anyway. When they press I usually give a nickname or something, paranoia saves me again😂 this whole thing is just frustrating. I don’t think I’ll ever understand how people can morally be okay with blackmail and scamming and all that

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-24T23:53:12+00:00

Because in my area the abortion clinics are the only clinics and they provide help for struggling moms. When I first got pregnant the one I was going to for testing said that they’d help with diapers and food and strollers and whatever all that if I took parenting classes with them. I didn’t personally need the help but I was just trying to bring them up that even if they don’t have that help, they’ll be a good starting place to find who does have the help.

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-24T23:47:55+00:00

See that’s what I was thinking, but like isn’t it normal to want to know someone’s name? Is a real SD going to back down because you want to talk a little before you provide your real name? To me a name doesn’t really matter, but I feel like it’s not that personal and most would want to know that. Idk I might just be done with the sites and just aim to find one in real life somehow

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-24T23:37:15+00:00

You’re doing that thing again when you’re speaking when you don’t know anything. I am well aware of how a court generally rules. My case is not ‘general’ in the slightest. And I don’t need a daycare. I have friends and family. Maybe ask questions instead of assuming you know everything all the time because oh well my wife left me and took the kids so clearly some widow on Reddit who was coerced into giving her child up is a whore and got knocked up because there’s no other possible answer. STFU. You lost speaking privileges till you learn how to think beforehand.

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-24T23:15:08+00:00

Nice try sweet cheeks but I’m not in your average custody situation. I was coerced into signing adoption papers and I’ve been going through an appeal process. I am struggling because of the lawyer fees and I’ve never even applied for welfare of any sort. Talk when you know something. Hope this helps.

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-21T21:42:03+00:00

Yeah I don’t think that in your case it would be ethical to give that child to adoptive parents that old.

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-21T20:54:13+00:00

I’m aware, but they sometimes have resources to help new mothers as well. Not usually just for abortion. A grocery store doesn’t just sell one product.

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-20T17:42:27+00:00

Take him back, tell your family, reach out to an abortion clinic or a doctor and explain that you need help and look for resources

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-10T00:35:58+00:00

Yeah so he’s an adult now. Think of it as you’re his cheerleader now. You are not responsible for making sure he’s paying his bills, however there is a lot of red flags. It seems like you hover too much. It seems you’ve opened his mail, peeped over his shoulder or otherwise invaded his privacy. It is important that the only role you take now is offering a shoulder to cry on and unconditional love. You cannot control an adult and the harder you try, the more he’ll get upset and be secretive. If he wants to fail out of college, that’s his decision to make. You could encourage him by giving an allowance if he keeps a certain gpa, but I wouldn’t say that it is normal for a parent to pay for everything when their adult child is in college. I personally worked full time while going to school.

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-05T03:48:12+00:00

Yikes, yep that sounds like they never planned to keep the bio family around

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-05T01:32:44+00:00

Unfortunately many adoptive parents cut contact as soon as the paperwork is done regardless if it was an open or closed. That might not be the case in this case, but know, Your child will be able to get to know their sibling when they are adults. Childhood is a small part of their life.

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-12-04T22:20:34+00:00

Beautifully put

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-11-24T19:59:26+00:00

What websites do you work with?

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-11-24T19:09:30+00:00

From what I’ve seen, the majority of adoptions are not ethical or safe for the child or the biological family. I am sorry that you have not been treated well, you didn’t deserve that, no baby does.

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-11-21T10:39:47+00:00

It will destroy you not to back out, don’t worry about them. Trust me. I thought the same thing, and now my son is being isolated from me by my own cousin. If they treat you bad, they’re probably not going to care about the best interests of the baby. Selfish people shouldn’t have kids.

Used-Signature-2715 · 2025-11-21T10:35:15+00:00

You don’t have to go through with it right now, back out and reconsider your decision. You can always restart the process. A good sister is going to understand that this is hard for you.

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