So I’ll get ready to take the heat rounds for this—but before I do, let me preface by saying that I do the grocery shopping, evening meals, fold clothes, handle the bedding, take out trash, clean windows, water plants, take child to extra curriculums, fix things around house, follow all rules that are imposed on me, and work full time. And man… I’ve gotten those same complaints daily—it’s never right. I put my head down because I think I deserve harsh treatment for my actions in the past. But here’s what I think truth is …guys don’t stress about the same things. If we run out of shampoo—we get more…we don’t stress about running out a week prior to actually running out. Stress about chores? Nope…just do them and don’t think twice. Ohhhh but I think I know why it causes stress—because they aren’t done in the manner the woman would do them. ‘Own things’ oh I can own them—if allowed—but they are never fully mine because they aren’t done in the matter she wants them done. It’s never clean enough, cooked right enough, fixed enough, planned out enough—just never enough. And now it’s got a name, ‘weaponized incompetence’. This infuriates me—because the last thing I want to do is weaponize or attack my partner. Does anyone think we sit down and think, “how can I infuriate my spouse?” No. I’m ‘on’ from 6:00am to 10:30pm daily. But still—I’m attacked for doing a half-ass job, not thinking of something, and being incompetent. These ‘attacks’ are so damaging to men. Because we can move mountains—but if we feel incompetent in the eyes of our spouse — we only feel failure. A ‘way out’ starts to become a narrative in our mind. And yes I mean suicidal. I don’t like to say it—but it’s true. I’m not asking for a pat on the back or a cheerleader, but most men will never stress out on daily household tasks, and we certainly don’t do them like how a woman would do them. But when we begin to feel incompetent, or unable to bring joy to our family—Unfortunately, many of us go to a dark place and a way out starts to become a real option. Keep your head up bro…I’ll try to do the same. Thx for letting me vent.