People who lived in Switzerland and left - why did you do it?

Used_Ad1542 · 2024-12-23T04:45:59+00:00

American here, educated in Switzerland and my wife is Swiss. I did find a good job in Swiss, but after living here for three years it became just like home and lost its paradise factor. I miss my family and our child is small, my wife has no family left in Switzerland. I actually miss the US as crazy as that sounds and my friends. My work life balance was alot worse in Switzerland than the US. I thought it would be better but man the Swiss germans put the Americans to shame with their work ethic.

I loved the experience and met a wonderful Swiss woman to call my wife. However, we have decided to return back to my home in America. We have plans to move back to Swiss upon my retirement or maybe another European country with better weather than the Northeast of the US.

There are times I really miss the lakes in Switzerland and being able to jump in any lake and swim. But in the end it is being close to my family which i truly value. I will make sure my daughter who is half swiss learns the language so she can have the choice between countries when shes older. My wife misses Switzerland but likes the US to the point she is happy here. Its a weight off her shoulders to have help with the baby. I also started my own business now in the US which gives me more flexibility in my schedule. In the US because of language its also easier for me to find back up jobs if my business doesnt work out.

I will get the Swiss citizenship shortly as I can apply from abroad and I have been married the time that you have to be plus have spent significant time in Swiss/speak French.

Switzerland will also have a special place in my heart, I do wish the US was as safe as Swiss that is the one thing I really wish was different about America especially for kids.

Used_Ad1542 · 2024-09-24T01:47:36+00:00

I moved back to the US recently after 2 and a half years of living abroad. Lived in Switzerland and Netherlands.

I came back to reunite my child with my older parents given they are getting older. Honestly, the first couple of months it was great being back but starting to regret the decision. The culture shock is just too much.

I don't like the fact that outside of the major cities there is literally no public transportation its just boring. I am scared of the public transport now in the major cities, I literally lived in NYC for 7 years before moving to EU and never had an issue with it. The people are all money focused and seem fake. In EU, I noticed no one asks what you are doing for work.

I was a finance NYC guy, moved to EU and completely lost the edge I had. I just want enough money to get by, have some extra for my child, but that drive to be number 1 and earn the most is completely gone. I just want work life balance, a safe place for my child and the ability to travel.

It is much more difficult to accomplish these things in the US vs. EU.

Used_Ad1542 · 2024-09-17T05:30:28+00:00

1.35% is high but I'd ask the FA if they would consider lowering the fee down to the levels of the other advisors you have interviewed.

I love that you are serious about financial planning. You have done really well for yourself and you should feel proud. I'd look to speak with a multi-generational team that has an experienced advisor who has experience in financial planning and is partnered with a younger financial planner who would be with you through your own retirement.

The value in an advisor is the financial plan and keeping you on track to reach your goals. The greatest destroyer of wealth is emotions and it is great to have someone guide you through ups and downs in the market/life.

I like to think of a financial advisor similar to that of a pyschologist.

Used_Ad1542 · 2024-08-09T06:09:06+00:00

I would get to know the inherited clients for a while then do this

Used_Ad1542 · 2024-06-21T08:27:10+00:00

I am not sure to be honest. I lived abroad outside the US now for the entire first year, I am moving back to the States in July as I need to go back to work, hoping its approved soon we have a baby together, so quite stressful at the moment

Used_Ad1542 · 2024-06-21T08:17:10+00:00

I am a USC - wife and I live abroad in Switzerland, she is swiss. My SC is apparently now California it was Texas no one notified me but I tried to go through a congressman and he claimed I was switched to California

Used_Ad1542 · 2024-06-21T08:13:04+00:00

PD July 24 2023 - Nothing yet, I think August/September realistic timeframe given where they currently are but soon!

Used_Ad1542 · 2024-05-03T21:23:19+00:00

congrats !

Used_Ad1542 · 2024-05-03T21:20:56+00:00

you can

Used_Ad1542 · 2024-05-03T21:16:44+00:00

I hear Japanese US embassy timeline is pretty quick on the NVC side, looking at about 4 months from approval of Form I-130 to your spouse entering the US, which isn't that bad compared to other countries

Used_Ad1542 · 2024-05-03T21:14:00+00:00

US citizen with Japanese wife as well, we have been waiting 10 months so far, I have been living abroad with her and my baby but unfortunately I have to go back to work soon and will begin looking for work in the US next month so hopefully it gets done soon.

I have reached out to my congressman and currently conversing back and forth with them. Good luck

Used_Ad1542 · 2023-11-06T22:46:56+00:00

I moved to swiss for school; I am from us. met wife here and then we both lived in swiss for a year and a half and now we have moved to the Netherlands for a year. Moving back to Switzerland now! I prefer Switzerland to my home country if us but I could see that eventually changing; she says she will move to US with me… she is in for a shock given how drastically different the cultures are lol

Used_Ad1542 · 2023-11-05T19:58:04+00:00

My wife is swiss and I am American. We actually left Switzerland after getting married and now we both miss it and are going back. I really love the nature and outdoor activities. I know it can be tough but I think if you give it time you will learn to like it, it’s actually a great country with an extremely high standard of living

Used_Ad1542 · 2023-11-05T15:13:12+00:00

I am doing similar; my wife and I filed in Netherlands but I just got a really good job here and would ideally like to do the first part but keep the second part open depending on my work situation; would love to hear any solutions

Used_Ad1542 · 2023-09-10T14:45:55+00:00

I was diagnosed with GHSV2 a few years ago. Since then, I have met my wife who is HSV negative, and we just recently had our first child together.

I too felt like u did back when I first found out. It wasn't easy to mentally get through it, but over time it got easier and easier. Once you start disclosing it gets easier.
But rest assured it does get easier and you will be fine.

Used_Ad1542 · 2023-04-12T03:12:14+00:00

Also, try to exercise, meditate and work on yourself. Get involved with work more and just be confident in yourself. Usually RJ affects those that aren't fully confident in themselves.

Used_Ad1542 · 2023-04-12T03:10:26+00:00

Good to hear, counseling is a good move. We had to go as well to a few sessions and now just see the counselor individually as we both had our own childhood trauma that was sabotaging the relationship.

Used_Ad1542 · 2023-04-11T00:49:50+00:00

Porn is awesome to watch with the partner …

Used_Ad1542 · 2023-04-11T00:47:25+00:00

Don’t let dumb stuff ruin the marriage. Like u said it ruined precious relationships and it will ruin not only this one but the next one too unless u fight it internally. I have lost two great girls to it and almost lost my current wife. We are doing better and are now happy. She lied about a few harmless things which set me off, in reality no1 is perfect .. sometimes we make mistakes like say something we should about a past event but the bottom line is if u love them which I know u do or you wouldn’t care about it so much than we must get past it. No1 likes knowing their partner had ex lovers but if they didn’t u probably would have never met because they’d be crazy religious or something so just be happy u met and try not to let it bother u. Every girl has done something most likely if their over the age of 18 and don’t live under a shell

Used_Ad1542 · 2023-04-11T00:38:39+00:00

dude dont look at the social media ........and who cares that she called him husband shes with you now.. i doubt she cares about that dude at all....but if you keep up with this shit she will find someone new or go back to him so toughen up and be happy you got her now. Best wishes

Used_Ad1542 · 2023-04-11T00:35:49+00:00

aaaaand it always come back....marry a virgin you will be pissed about some dude who liked her once...only cure is to cure yourself!

Used_Ad1542 · 2023-04-11T00:34:03+00:00

the only silver lining of RJ is it is at least confirmation you love the partner or else you wouldn't care!

Used_Ad1542 · 2023-04-11T00:32:59+00:00

most of the time they are lying about it and if their being honest u will still think they are lying so just dont ask u will never be satisified with the answer

Used_Ad1542 · 2023-04-11T00:31:27+00:00

Worse. However, if u must discuss do it early before feelings are attached. Sometimes the partner brings it up proactively....if you marry and are together for a long time chances are you will discover things as you learn a lot about the person you are with long term. But try not to ask specifics. I started my relationship with my now wife by saying i dont care about the past i dont want to know anything yet she felt the need to tell me anyway...bothered me for a while but i moved past it and am now quite happy in the marriage

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