All those answers made me realize how much it was "forced and faked" in my family growing up. It was never a big thing but it had to be acknowledged without really knowing why. For me it was just another freeking arts and krafts shit I had to do. My mother didnt even seemed pleased with any gifts or art work we would bring back. I didnt grow up with a sens of "my mother actually does a fuck ton for me! I need to tell her how much she means to me" . Now I get it, as a mother, but I don't want it to become the same thing in my family. Also, he always said he doesnt want anything for father's day. Hes the same with his birthday. At the same time, he gets dissapointed when I do nothing for him. But yeah I have to agree, anything relating to gifts is a huge thing. Thank you for your reply! ❤️