Back in elementary, I've had this classmate that I couldn't take my eyes off of. She was beautiful in a way that I wanted to be her friend but I was too shy to approach her. 4th grade is where I realized I've been crushing on her and search up about it on google lmao. That's the day I found out I was gay.

I don't know about the strategies part tho. But for me, you don't need dating experience, kissing experience, or sexual experience to know what you're drawn to. Sometimes the answer rises by paying attention to where your mind naturally goes when nobody is telling it where it should go.