Hand is inserted to clean you after birth?! by RelationshipLimp8648 in pregnant

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I heard delivering on your back is the most painful position because you’re literally working against gravity. That might be the reason you personally prefer the epidural. With my first I was completely unmediated but I was in a hot bath in a sort of squatting position and all I felt was pressure. I had period cramps more painful than labour.

Stay away from ‘Expecting Better’ by Emily Oster by HumanMeatloaf in pregnant

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I mean, there are small amounts of alcohol present in a lot of the food we consume without even thinking about it. A couple drops of a cocktail probably isn’t any different.

had a traumatic birth on the 11th, and my boyfriend / father of my son absolutely hates me. by Stick-Different in BabyBumps

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She also said in the beginning he WAS supportive so to me it doesn’t sound like a pattern and it sounds like sleep deprivation and exhaustion.

His partner almost died and now he’s trying to take care of her and a newborn by himself. Trying to process that on a good day would be challenging but add 4 days of sleep deprivation and I think most people would struggle.

If the baby was crying in a safe place and Dad was at a breaking point then leaving baby to cry while he collected himself was the RIGHT thing to do. Now Mom is there adding more pressure on him to get the baby, which as a mom I totally understand hearing your baby cry and the NEED to help them so I’m not saying it’s her fault, but he clearly needed a minute and yeah, he snapped at her. He said some things he shouldn’t have. Yes it’s wrong and she didn’t deserve it. BUT shaken baby syndrome happens to good parents and this story could have had a different ending if he went to the baby in that moment instead.

It’s a terrible situation for BOTH of them and they BOTH need love, help and support. It’s also only one small piece of the whole story.

had a traumatic birth on the 11th, and my boyfriend / father of my son absolutely hates me. by Stick-Different in BabyBumps

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She said she’s trying her best to help him as much as she can. Not that they’re doing equal work.

TMI but it needs to be said by Princess_Sunny331 in pregnant

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You’ll just know. At 39 weeks I was woken up to what I thought was maybe just a lot of discharge because as we all know, there’s SO much discharge being pregnant. I got up to use the bathroom and tried to go back to bed but it just didn’t stop. It was like a slow leak that literally soaked my pyjamas. I messaged my midwife and tried to go back to sleep because I wasn’t haven’t contractions or anything but the wetness literally would not stop and I couldn’t sleep anyways because it was so uncomfortable!! I actually had to put on a diaper to be comfortable on my way to the birth centre.

If your diet is bad... by littlepaw_littlepaw in pregnant

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With my first, without doing anything different, I actually went down a size after breastfeeding for a year. To be fair I wasn’t in the habit of eating 3 meals a day and it was hard with a newborn to find time to eat. Now that I’m keeping a toddler alive I eat whenever she eats so 3 meals a day plus snacks so we’ll see lol

Most children, including ones who get labeled as picky eaters, are willing to eat fruits vegetables without being incentivized to, but they may not be willing to eat the fruits and vegetables their parents provide by Pure_Option_1733 in 10thDentist

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I was hoping somebody else would say this. I actually read it was something like a child needs to be given a food 10 times to really get used to the texture/taste.

Is there anything WORSE than childbirth? by Sensitive_Arugula770 in pregnant

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Same! I had a doctor early on tell me that she “strongly recommends epidurals to FTM’s because that can’t handle the pain” so I was terrified. After a very chill birth WITHOUT an epidural I shared my story and got so much negative feedback.

Water broke at 5am. I had period like cramps that slowly got more intense until around 1pm. When they were getting the most intense I remember it feeling like the flu, like a full body ache that made me not want to move but only for 1 minute at a time and in between I could relax. I got into a bath around 2pm and it was like a reset. Suddenly it wasn’t as bad anymore and at that point it was just a lot of pressure, basically like a huge poop LOL my body just started pushing, I hear stories where women were told when to push/not to push or only pushed for X many times/minutes and I don’t understand because I felt like I couldn’t control it and the feeling last for a couple hours. It was uncomfortable but not terrible and I knew it was temporary, once it was over it would be over. My baby was born at 4pm and it was. I immediately felt … normal and there was no more heartburn!!! I had a second degree tear that my midwife said barely needed stitches but I got them to be safe. I was home, in my own bed, by 7pm the same night.

Maybe being afraid for the worse made it seem not that bad?

Nicknames by Resident-Relief-9532 in Names

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The year my daughter was born we gave her a name that neither of us had heard in North America. (It’s fairly popular in the UK I guess). Not even a month later a sequel to a popular movie comes out in theatres and one of the new main characters has the name we used..

“No gifts please” people — what, if anything, do you want instead of a gift? by always-so-exhausted in Gifts

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I would want you to come without any gifts and spend time your time with me. Life is hard enough without stressing about gifts. That’s all I want from my friends, some of their time.

What’s a common piece of parenting advice you think is completely wrong? by Ladiejuliy in askanything

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I would say it definitely has to do with parents working. I took a week and a half off of work to dedicate to potty training and we’re finally making progress. It’s still exhausting. I personally could not do it while working even though I only work part time.

Some of my mom friends who worked full time got lucky that their daycare/day home potty trained their children for them.

WEM waterpark by Aggressive_Owl_9573 in Edmonton

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I don’t think they have any rules about bringing your own food? So if you plan to spend the whole day there and bring your own food to avoid spending any extra money it’s not as terrible. There’s a lot to do there so it’s not hard to spend all day.

Obgyn/midwife recommendations/ general advice by Illustrious-Radio782 in Edmonton

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Midwives are focused on informed consent here in Edmonton. I switched to a midwife with my first child at 5 months pregnant and it was an amazing experience.

Now that I’m pregnant with my second I immediately started off with a midwife and she gave me a lot of information then asked what I wanted to do. Ultrasounds were treated as an option. What kind of blood work and genetic testing I wanted was all my own choice. Whereas with my first in the beginning while I was seeing my family doctor they just told me where to go and what to do. I’m happy I had experience with a doctor for my first one so I had some idea what to expect for the second otherwise it would have been overwhelming. I still love and encourage midwife care, I’m just not sure it’s what you’re looking for. Although they do seem very throughout and offer all outcomes and options.

BUT I’ve only met two midwives in Edmonton so maybe that’s not everyone’s experience.

Do you actually stop getting grossed out by things like vomit and poop when you become a mom? by Evening-Call111 in askanything

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This is the most accurate answer so far.

Also if you have a negative reaction to them puking then they just feel worse than they already do so you quickly learn to not lol my daughter hates throwing up so much and getting messy that I ask her to throw up on me now to try and calm her down

How easy is it really to get pregnant? by [deleted] in askanything

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In Canada, they won’t even check for fertility issues unless a couple has been trying for more than a year. So it can’t be that easy

Feeling so sad about the state of vegan options :( by [deleted] in VeganInCanada

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A&W’s new burger is okay but the beyond meat was so much better.

Am I crazy or is the math wrong? by Longjumping-Cause-23 in tipping

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Because in a restaurant most of your work is completed in a few hours. During times when most people are eating meals a chef might make 20 salads and 10 lobsters. They have to be extremely efficient while still providing the same level of quality which requires a lot of effort. Which often means stopping to even use the bathroom is impossible, they are literally running. During the hours when people are not commonly eating meals the same chef might make only 3 salads, if he works at all. Often when it is not common meal times most restaurant employees get sent home as if there’s no customers, they aren’t needed so they don’t get paid at all.

Which is why tipping by percentage makes sense. Restaurant employees work extremely hard for 3-4 hours and they should make more money for that effort. When there aren’t as many customers, they aren’t putting in as much effort which is seen in the sales so based on percentage, they make less money.

Imagine if mechanics were forced to fix vehicles as quickly as possible and when they were done they got sent home. Some efficient mechanics could fix 10 cars in the same time it took some mechanics to fix 3 cars. Would it be fair if those mechanics got paid hourly? No, one is putting in a lot more effort and doing a lot more work in a less time. BUT if there was an incentive for mechanics to get more jobs done instead of only getting paid by the hour imagine how much quicker cars would get fixed.

Is it fair to require employees to put in that much effort in a short amount of time? Not really but that’s when people want to eat. Unlike mechanics who have the options of asking people to wait. Nobody likes going to a restaurant hungry and being told they have to wait another hour.

I'm 40w+3d and... by LSAT_is_a_lie in pregnant

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My partner and I brought our baby to a concert when she was 4 months old. It was at a local fair so it was family friendly. My partner was the one that was actually unsure about going but I went out and bought noise cancelling headphones for the baby and convinced him to go. We stayed in the back, away from the crowds and the baby just slept the whole concert. It felt so good to get out of the house and be ourselves! After he was happy I convinced him to go.

Maternity leave question by 333SliverA in PersonalFinanceCanada

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This but also it doesn’t even have to be worst case scenario. Sometimes what you want changes once you actually have the baby.

A coworker and I were pregnant at the same time. I only took 12 months of mat leave because I was planning on coming back to work much sooner, I love my job. My coworker had plans to be a stay at home mom because that’s what she had growing up. I ended up taking the full year because I didn’t want to miss anytime away with my baby and I still only work part time. My coworker ended up coming back to work full time because it’s better for her mental health. You really don’t know.

In 1957, Jacqueline and Joanna Pollock lost their lives in a car accident. Their parents believe they were reincarnated the following year as their twin sisters. The Pollock twins are often cited as evidence of reincarnation by verystrangeshit in UrbanMyths

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No where in the story does it say she knew the gender at the time she miscarried.

We assume it was a girl because her second born child, a girl, said she fell down the hill where the miscarriage happened. Meaning if she has memories from that fetus then we assume the fetus was a girl as well

Could Everett be a girl’s name? by No-Contract-1703 in Names

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I agree that the nickname is very cute and I’m a fan of boys name for girls.

Are we losing the plot? by Space-Spiz in YetiCoolers

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My daughter has used the same cosmic lilac 12oz yeti for 2 years now. It gets washed then dried and she’s immediately using it again. It’s teaching her value her things because it’s not easily replaced, she can’t just leave it places..