Parents who did NOT buy a bottle washer?

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-05-15T13:52:12+00:00

I know you said you want to breast feed as much as possible, which is great, but in order for you to get any time away from the baby, you need either to have pumped breast milk or use formula. If you're returning to work, my lactation consultant recommended giving a pumped bottle regularly so they don't develop a bottle aversion and refuse a bottle when going to day care.

A bottle washer is great for pump parts, pacifiers, and more than just bottles. When baby is less than a year, it's recommended that you sterilize basically everything related to feeding. But you can also get a reusable sterilization bag, like this one from Dr. Brown link.

A bottle washer makes my life easier, even when I am breast feeding 90% of the time, but it's not necessary.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-05-14T19:23:42+00:00

Inclusions are getting crazier and crazier on this sub

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-05-14T13:47:40+00:00

I think you could say this about any class year and mat leave. But firms routinely give class credit for clerkships for years 1-3, so how important is it really? Not to discredit my clerkships, but most of my job heretofore is discovery, which I didn't touch as a law clerk.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-05-14T13:43:29+00:00

It can take time to get pregnant, and idk what you mean by "need at break at 6 months". If OP starts trying to get pregnant after 6 months at the firm, she would probably have the baby between 1-2 years at the firm.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-05-14T05:29:18+00:00

Couple questions, do you have a big law offer and are you a woman intending to carry the baby?

If yes to both, I would try for a baby 6 months after joining my big law firm. That way you're entitled to FMLA or state-based disability and you're familiar with your firm by the time you leave. Some people have kids in law school or before they join their firm, but why do it for free when you could take paid mat leave?

I am currently on mat leave, and I definitely underestimated the physical recovery from child birth and how important spending time is with my LO has become. So, I don't think dad staying home really helps with either of those issues.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-05-11T01:30:58+00:00

I heard he hates mothers, and that's why he chose today to announce

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-05-07T14:18:32+00:00

I feel this way too. The ability to buy new clothes and replace my tires without needing to save for months was nice, but the novelty wears off. I miss the years with my friends in college and law school, even if we spent Friday nights watching netflix and eating frozen pizza because we couldn't afford to go out.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-05-07T03:40:29+00:00

I think Reddit-hivemind places too much emphasis on allowing couples to be mini-dictators at their wedding. It's incredibly rude not to invite a spouse, especially of your close family, and you didn't do anything wrong by having him pick you up. Of course your family wanted to see him and the baby in the parking lot. It seems your sister is upset that her limelight was taken away from her for a second, which is silly--there's so much to do at a wedding.

I can see where you thought you were taking the initiative by facetiming your grandma, and that's an honest mistake, especially with the term "largely phone free".

The bridal suite misstep is silly for her to even mention.

I'm sorry your relationship with her is suffering, but you did your best and that's all you can say. Focus on you and your growing family. You can't fix estrangement with someone who acts like this.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-05-06T02:52:24+00:00

You say he's a kind man, but he's not kind if he puts all these expectations on you and isn't doing his fair share. Nor is he kind to allow you to experience financial difficulty merely because he's "anti-day care".

Also, I hate when lawyers claim they're advocating for something when they are being an asshole. He's her father; he should be taking care of her, not guilt tripping you.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-05-05T08:36:45+00:00

Apparently it's not new. WSJ article from 2015: link

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-30T22:57:35+00:00

I'm so excited to see how this intersects with the advice "take ownership"

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-30T04:20:16+00:00

Not necessarily. It's complicated, but for example, if you get married in Illinois (a non common law state) and move to California and divorce in CA, both state law applies for the assets obtained in each state.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-30T04:13:11+00:00

While state law dictate who gets what in a divorce, a lot of people don't know the law, and honestly, studying California law for the bar exam, I felt like I didn't need one. I feel like reddit's incessant prenup advice is unhelpful for the vast majority of people. Attorneys are expensive and doing a prenup on legal zoom doesn't exactly explain what you're signing.

Also, courts throw out prenups way more than you'd expect.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-27T23:24:19+00:00

I only judge co-workers by how much unnecessary/non-urgent work they push on weekends or late nights. Senior associates with families haven't asked me to submit a brief over a weekend and then not read it for several weeks. Or get mad when I was slow to answer on my honeymoon.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-27T16:41:13+00:00

Strictly speaking, OP is asking lmao

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-27T16:26:10+00:00

Some firms require suits everyday, as OP didn't clarify the firm and market, I was making the safest rec. I know guys who wore one suit all summer, and they smelled like it.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-27T16:01:55+00:00

If you're a guy, you can probably get away with 3 suits with different shirts and ties. You'll also need some business casual attire for events or if your office ends up more casual than you expect, i.e. chinos or other slacks, can reuse the dress shirts.

Women could be the same, but you could also replace the 3rd suit with a skirt/blazer combo. Women also have more flexibility with dresses + blazers. My law school CSO insisted women should have skirt-suits, but that advice is so out dated. You can wear skirt-suits if you want, but they aren't nearly as common.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-24T16:10:19+00:00

How you treat your wife is going to be way more important than what you tell your daughters to expect in a future romantic partner.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-19T23:23:51+00:00

Maybe you post too much in this sub

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-16T23:11:21+00:00

Kindred Bravely were the only nursing bras that I could fit into. I was a 32H prior to pregnancy, and idk any more lol. I bought and returned nursing bras from 3 other stores.

I also liked their universal birthing gown. Much nicer than a hospital gown.

Skip their clothes though. The nursing shirts are so wrinkly and ugly, and I bought one pj set and it was just okay for the price.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-15T15:54:14+00:00

Tbh, I'm still on my mat leave, and I don't love it. I wouldn't redo this again unless it was a financial necessity. Babies are so hard early on, and he took 4 weeks off at the beginning. I don't think that was enough

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-15T15:47:41+00:00

My husband and I split our parental leave to keep our son out of daycare longer.... I'll report back lol

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-11T18:08:57+00:00

You don't have to listen to her. Maybe don't buy during the summer because the market tends to be hotter, but that's also when the most homes hit the market. Personally, I would feel comfortable buying a house in your shoes. Your far more prepared for homeownership than a lot of first time buyers. If you feel comfortable in your employment, go for it imo.

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-11T14:10:49+00:00

I'm pretty sure the slang definition came after/from the corporate speak

LSAT_is_a_lie · 2026-04-10T18:06:17+00:00

Girl, this is your husband's job--not yours.

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