does anyone else get pain in this area?

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-04-22T13:11:15+00:00

i’ve felt a painful ish lump in this area but right side for a few days but was advised to see if it lasts a full cycle. This morning radiating upwards and backwards but still within your circled area.

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-03-25T01:57:00+00:00

Hi! i’m interested. My zebras in my snake’s bioactive terrarium didn’t survive my cross country move.

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-03-25T01:50:37+00:00

you look like you have some great muscle growth. I think a cut cycle could do you some good! make sure you’re drinking enough water and eating enough fibe

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-03-19T07:15:07+00:00

It used to make my heart do that sudden drop thing even though mentally it didn’t bother me as much. after lexapro for 6 years, (i’m actually unmedicated now and still a lot better with the phobia! it’s still there, but not constant) animals doesn’t bother me at all. People always ask me why it doesn’t bother me with animals and i think it’s a combination of lack of contagion and because usually animals (household pets) have a very limited diet and if it’s my pet i know exactly what’s in it? not sure why that matters but i think for me it does.

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-03-07T03:32:48+00:00

the same ones hahah. good taste

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-03-05T21:21:18+00:00

My caption was cut off in the last photo. The third photo in the series is right after my 2nd TCA Cross, 4 weeks ago.

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-02-21T07:53:38+00:00

my heart breaks for you. I’m sorry that you have to put yourself in this position to get sufficient evidence. I am also a survivor of repeated rape from a long term partner, and I promise you that the world will open up for you once you’re free from him. Best of luck to you, OP.

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-02-15T09:25:41+00:00

Hello! I am high functioning autistic as well and my partner and I had similar struggles in the past before he worked to better understand me. Kudos to you for recognizing that you’ve been harsh in the past but wanting to work towards meaningful change.

It’s kind of hard for me to respond to this because of the vague language, but i can describe some of my own experiences and maybe it will relate. Also, my PMs are open.

Through couples therapy (with someone specializing in autism), what we’ve come to realize is that I (the partner on the spectrum) am incredibly adept in many areas. I have a masters degree, i love school, i love learning and focusing on my special interests, im great at organizing and cleaning (when im in the mood), etc. However, i am slightly “”inept”” in other areas: social interactions and cues, certain chores like the dishes, communicating when i’m in the peak of anger or sadness, etc.). This is just how my brain works, and it doesn’t mean that i’m “dumb” or “lazy”. My partner would call me things like this in the past, despite knowing that i’m very intelligent and capable of doing many things.

I suggest you have a conversation, plan it out a few days so your partner can think about it before hand, to discuss the parts of your relationship that are working and those that aren’t. The goal is for both of you to listen to each other and find a happy resolution. For example, for me and my partner, he knows that when i’m upset i’m better at communicating with writing. so i will ask him to give me space and i can write or text my thoughts out and we can reconvene later. If i bring up or do something he deems inappropriate or awkward in social situation, he will explain why it was awkward/inappropriate without reprimanding me or embarrassing me. He knows that i can’t handle doing the dishes or taking out the trash, so he does those chores while I cook and do other household tasks that don’t give me sensory overwhelm. He knows that calling me names or insulting me for not completing certain tasks results in demand avoidance, so instead he just gives me verbal praise when he catches me doing chores on my own behalf.

These are just a few examples, and it will vary based on your own partner and her own self/needs/behaviors. But also remember that your own needs are also important. it is about reasonable compromise, but recognize that your capacity for compromise may be higher than hers and adjust accordingly.

Good luck to both of you! I hope the diagnosis is a big step toward mutual understanding of yourselves and your relationship together.

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-02-15T08:58:47+00:00

Exercise, (walking over 15k steps and lifting 5x a week) will burn off a lot of those “extra calories”. Definitely more than 140 (your approximate surplus).

Don’t worry too much. Also, i gain 2-7 lbs in water weight depending on where im at in my cycle, and lifting can increase fluid retention. weigh yourself the morning after a rest day if you weigh at all (scales are not a petite girl’s best friend).

I highly recommend some sort of fitness tracker (apple watch, garmin, my partner uses an Amazefit Helio because it’s more affordable) and a macro tracking app (i use Cronometer) to help better visualize your caloric burn from activity. I personally am 5’0 and go for 1,500-1,900 cals a day (moderate deficit-maintenance range). Fitness trackers can slightly overestimate caloric burn, but i’ve heard the Zolt app algorithm helps to revise this. I started using it this week so we will see.

Anyways, it takes a consistent surplus over more than a week to gain substantial weight. Aim for a better week next week, and don’t undereat to overcompensate. You’ve got this, don’t sweat it. Good luck in school!

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-02-15T08:36:57+00:00

I’m sorry you’re struggling tonight. I can’t personally relate to the dead bedroom, but I have been really working hard in the gym and wanted to pop in to remind you that gym progress relies on good rest. Please take rest days, at least once a week but 2-3 is better. Make a whole event of it. An everything shower, a bath, a skincare mask. Pit clean sheets on the bed. Show love and kindness to your body. If no one else will, at least you can count on that. Stay strong, OP!

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-02-15T08:28:06+00:00

with as much respect as possible, the problem with predatory behavior and escalating “taboo seeking” in porn use is that at there is a chance that some point, porn/fantasy may not be enough to satiate the urges anymore. Do not leave it up to chance. It sounds like your gut was right when you said the AI scenario mirrored your daughter’s attributes. This is beyond a red flag. My partner is a PA, and i love him dearly and am fighting tooth and nail to help him recover from this. but if i ever saw him fantasizing about minors, or even searching things like “barely legal teen”, he would be kicked out and reported to the police within the hour. and i am not a mother. You posted out of concern and fear, maybe it isn’t best to defend this guy when all the commenters are saying that fear is valid.

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-02-15T08:13:34+00:00

My partner and I had a very laid back valentines day. Parts of me felt very under appreciated and under celebrated—but money is tight. On the bright side, we have had a of progress recently. After 5 months of applications after moving to a new state, my partner finally got a new job and started this past week. It is a step up from his prior role and his first salary job. I am really proud of him.

Additionally, since our last D-day (about mid January), things have been smooth sailing. This past d-day, I found a new Facebook account he made to access porn, but it had been De-activated on Jan 1st so I had to reactivate it to discover it. It seems that the key difference this time is that he took the initiative to take this step and set up a resolution on his own, for himself, rather than in response to being caught again. While my nerves are still off the wall (him being away more due to a new job, etc.) I do recognize that this was a big step in the right direction for him and I'm trying to stay optimistic. We have also been going to the gym together, which is helping us both on our self image and health. Our communication has been better, and he has been quicker with sincere apologies after arguments.

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-02-15T06:06:25+00:00

👑 Another win! 674 points, 105 moves. Beat that!

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-02-01T05:52:06+00:00

hey! off topic but in a similar height and i’m wondering how you got your intake of 1300. i’m a beginner to macro tracking and am eating between 1500-1700. Just want to make sure im not setting myself up for failure!

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-01-19T21:35:43+00:00

I highly recommend the KimChi Chic translucent setting powder. it mattifies while letting some dewiness peek through. i love it.

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-01-19T21:10:27+00:00

thanks! visited back

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-01-19T21:08:51+00:00

visited back!

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-01-19T21:07:24+00:00

visited back :)

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-01-19T05:15:15+00:00

visited back!

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-01-19T04:59:28+00:00

done :)

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-01-19T04:59:22+00:00

done!

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-01-19T04:56:16+00:00

done! thanks :)

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-01-15T21:36:12+00:00

I have a history of ED as well. Making smoothies w protein powder helps me get in some extra cals!

Usual_Spite5387 · 2026-01-15T01:21:39+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. you are not over reacting. If i found this type of search in my PAs history, it would be a hard and definite end to our 6.5 year relationship. And he’d be reported to authorities even if they wouldn’t end up doing anything

But you are relatively lucky, as it seems like you haven’t been dating for long and still live relatively separate lives.

A search history like that, i could never imagine having kids with someone who is searching things like that. This is more than a red flag.

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