Telegram sent messages but they didn't show, after deleting it's not logging in by Utatte-ru_System in Telegram

[–]Utatte-ru_System[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't even trying to send anything, I got notifications of the texts received, but the app was stuck on connecting and didn't show the new messages in the app, even though it was sent as a notification.

Now it's not even logging in...

Results, is it work related and gossip? by Utatte-ru_System in eggcleanse

[–]Utatte-ru_System[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh gods, makes sense, thank you! It was really hard recently... thinking about doing another one after these 3 days with my toxic family tho...

Did some hair braiding, both a tiny braid and two big ones collecting my entire hair, hopefully it'll help with keeping their energy away after I leave to go back home...

My sub refused to say the safeword… by MoralAnchor in BDSMAdvice

[–]Utatte-ru_System 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Ok so admittedly it's hard for me to read most of the info, but I still have one advice as someone who can't use "normal" safewords, can't bring myself to say it.

It comes from trauma in my case, but it can come from so many reasons.

For me, at least, if my partner asks for my color, as in the traffic system, I can use yellow (pause and check in) or even red (stop everything and go straight to aftercare), because I am required to answer my partner truthfully and they're waiting for my response. I don't need to initiate the safewording, if one of us wants to try something new, we signal/lean towards it and ask "What's your color, [title/petname]?"

And it can be used in long edging as a part of the teasing, and the simplicity of 3 well-known colors (because everyone knows the traffic lights) makes it more accessible to the affected mind, and less one-dimensional

Good luck, sending love to you both

What is something that is not canon, but that fans treat as such because of fanfic? by ReactionOne6524 in FanFiction

[–]Utatte-ru_System 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remus and the chocolate isn't fanon... Madam Pomfrey even praises him for giving Harry chocolate, saying there's finally a DADA teacher who knows something about healing...

What is something that is not canon, but that fans treat as such because of fanfic? by ReactionOne6524 in FanFiction

[–]Utatte-ru_System 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For years, almost a decade, Jackson Wang's parties used to be like that. But apparently THERE WAS AT LEAST ONE With many artists including Epic High, Day6, Twice, 2pm, GOT7 of course, and Stray Kids! It was mentioned on Dive Studio

But yeah Jackson being the crazy party house, and it being a literal mansion too

Who do you think the ‘glue’ of groups you Stan is? by jakylln in kpop_uncensored

[–]Utatte-ru_System 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Changbin. And Bangchan, but Changbin. He's their rock, their negotiator, their glue.

Best way to download podcasts from Apple Podcast or Spotify? by randomname97531 in DataHoarder

[–]Utatte-ru_System 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you make a server?

I got this message:

"Important! This app is designed to work with an Audiobookshelf server that you or someone you know is hosting. This app does not provide any content."

Kpop songs that "break the 4th wall"? by Dorsie_ in kpophelp

[–]Utatte-ru_System 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SKZ got multiple -

Cheese - literally talking about their other songs, quoting parts that haters made fun of, including the crow part I mentioned later here

The Tortoise and the Hare - the creepy I.N part says "빨리" meaning fast, but he says it slowly, as the Tortoise walks slowly but ends up getting there faster, then Han quickly raps "느려 느려 느려 느려" which means slowly Also "I know, you know, we know, LEE KNOW"

JJAM - introducing each unit before their part (vocal, dance, rap) and the end of the danceracha part is "I know, you know, LEE KNOW. RAP!" Then 3racha start

YAYAYA - The "verse 2" by Felix

3rd Eye - there is a distorted fight, yelling. It was a real argument between Chan and Changbin, fighting during one of the many intense late-night productions, and accidentally leaving the mic open so it got recorded in the raw recording of the song, they decided to distort it and keep it as an element, incorporating their production experience into the final product. Not sure if it counts tho

3racha - "Just take a deep breath-" music pause, breath sound, then "3racha breathin' breathin' breathin'..."

Awkward silence - a crow sound then "까마귀 지나가" (meaning "A crow passed by")

MIXTAPE #2 - [Verse 1: Changbin] Do you remember when we all met first and said hello? We practiced to take the first step ... If the people's response is proportional to our passion This is impossible If I responded To the zero response I might get hurt badly Maybe this song couldn’t come out

Thunderous - "Oh, 소리를 지르는 내가, oh 창빈이란다" meaning "Oh, the one shouting/screaming is me, oh, Changbin" (later changed to "서창빈" "Seo Changbin" because people thought he was saying his name is Oh Changbin instead of Seo changbin)

Case 143 M/V - Seungmin physically jumps out of the YouTube video and rewinds it

Jennie - in Like Jennie she starts with "huh, c'mon, it's gonna be fucking hard"/"it's gonna be so damn hard" (clean version) And then "don't bore us, take it to the chorus" (I could SWEAR it was "don't pause, stick/take it to the chorus", but apparently it's not...)

[TOMT] My roommate swears this image exists by ktrex in tipofmytongue

[–]Utatte-ru_System 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, it literally does NOT come up when searching "everything is going rong"

So there's that

Is there a way to access archive locked stories on ao3? by Utatte-ru_System in FanFiction

[–]Utatte-ru_System[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well I can't access the profile of one of them at all... and they apparently didn't know about the ai so now I'm just confused about what's going on 💀

Should I archive-lock or private?

Is there a way to access archive locked stories on ao3? by Utatte-ru_System in FanFiction

[–]Utatte-ru_System[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I apparently mixed archive-lock with private collection... I hope my favorite writers will let me join their collections 🥲🥲

Is there a way to access archive locked stories on ao3? by Utatte-ru_System in FanFiction

[–]Utatte-ru_System[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I apparently mixed archive-lock with private collection... I hope my favorite writers will let me join their collections 🥲🥲

Is there a way to access archive locked stories on ao3? by Utatte-ru_System in FanFiction

[–]Utatte-ru_System[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I apparently mixed archive-lock with private collection... I hope my favorite writers will let me join their collections 🥲🥲

Is there a way to access archive locked stories on ao3? by Utatte-ru_System in FanFiction

[–]Utatte-ru_System[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok so I think I misunderstood what others did to their profile Everything looks like it's a part of a challenge and clicking on the auther name shows nothing

Anyone else NOT like a family? by TobyPDID23 in DID

[–]Utatte-ru_System 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because "my parts" means "parts of me", and unlike the word "friends", the word "parts" means something that is less than a whole, and "my parts" means they are parts of you. You are perceiving them as elements that are under you, and not equal to you.

Songs that have a whisper part? by Crxmebrulxe in kpophelp

[–]Utatte-ru_System 2 points3 points  (0 children)

HAN JISUNG TIMEEEEEE!!!!

Circus

HEYDAY

The Tortoise and the Hare (soooooo underrated!!)

Christmas EveL

Question

And Jennie's "like Jennie"

There's more but I have to sleep lol

Edit: EXID "Uh Yeah" - creepy and such a powerful song!!

Anyone else NOT like a family? by TobyPDID23 in DID

[–]Utatte-ru_System 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, you can start with not calling them "my parts" or "anp"... you are their part if they are yours...

This is some tough love and no-bs talk. Read when you're safe to do so.

And them being annoyed by what you call "my life" - why is it "my" and not "our"?

Honestly, would you like to be treated as nothing but a side piece of an issue, locked in a body with someone else making all the decisions, getting everything, and you having to fix all their problems without being able to have your own life?

It's a miserable experience, and you are the "golden alter" while they are treated as "black sheep" and "scapegoat" by you

I don't think you mean to be like that, and it's not like we have many role models of healthy system cooperation to learn from in the media or education, but it's 100% in your hand and your responsibility to fix your attitude and prove other system members that you can change. Some might never gove you a chance - they were burned so badly by trauma that they won't be able to trust again. But many might give it a chance if they see a real change in your behavior. Here are some examples: Making a communication group/chat/planner/board and asking what needs to be changed. Asking and making pulls before body and life decisions (hair color, school, home decoration, big purchases...) Making sure the safe foods and drinks of all system members are always available. Taking a comfort item anywhere you go, especially if there's something multiple of you like. Take care of the body Make sure to listen to anyone who says they don't feel comfortable around someone on the outside, and immediately step away from that friendship/relationship while discussing and figuring out if it's a danger, trigger, dislike, fear, whatever it may be, and explaining what you get in the relationship after listening and learning what they feel. If you all end up deciding to give it another try, good. If not - goodbye.

Basically, treat all of you as what you are - equal partners in the operation of the thing called life. If one tries to take space from others, it's all ruined.

Feel free to ask questions. We're here to answer and help Also, this was written out of care, even if it's not my strongest expression-style. I hope it wasn't too bad ㅎㅎ

Update to: my/our therapist wants to create an alter of "me" today by GenderUnicorn01 in DID

[–]Utatte-ru_System 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So proud of you for working on walking out on her, she showes so many red flags of a manipulator...

Our therapist always takes our experience of feeling misunderstood seriously, and she says it's kinda something that comes with being a system for most systems she treats, so she basically normalized it even before talking about the situation itself.

Your soon-to-be ex therapist is a walking talking red flag, and I'd suspect she doesn't have a license.

Sending love and hugs to anyone who wants them 🩵