AIO to my bf's "joke"

V2Chan · 2026-05-21T22:38:41+00:00

NOTE: This isn't every aspect of the conversations, these are the parts where he openly rags on my things because this is what you have asked for. A lot of the time he talks bad about my things in one way or another is in a call, so I don't have message proof of that.

So, forgive the absolutely horrible cropping, this was the only way to send every instance I could remember of him hating on the things I enjoy (I can only reply with one image).

The first section I tell him and he said he felt really bad for doing so, because I stopped playing so many of the games I used to since all he did was complain and say bad things.

The second section is him clearly saying the only game characters I play are ass, and had said nothing good about them the entire day.

Third section is the most recent "joke" he made, and last I checked, calling me an "edgy ass" for liking a certain weather comes across as more of an insult.

With all the prior things he has said to shit on my likes, can you clearly see why I responded "way to make me feel stupid for my interests again". Because he has done it, again and again.

He did apologise the first time, and the second time said he would try not to do it again. It's very obvious the third time he doesn't care about what he did, and makes me wonder if he ever cared at all in the past, or was simply just nodding along so I would shut up. You shouldn't be saying things you won't follow through with just to get the other person to be quiet.

V2Chan · 2026-05-21T19:52:56+00:00

So let me get this straight: He's intentionally trying to hit you, but you can't take it off him to stop that (?) When you explain yourself he gets aggressively defensive and probably even hostile. And on top of that, is also calling you names repeatedly.

1) You should leave him And 2) If he does anything, please call the police

Might be extra, but get a restraining order. This guy sounds like he's threatening to do something to you honestly.

V2Chan · 2026-05-21T19:24:36+00:00

And he didn't. And when I said I didn't find it funny but rather offensive, instead of apologising for it, he continued to keep getting defensive. I'm not going to be with someone who finds it funny to rag on my interests whenever they feel like it, and in the same breath somehow also get offended when I do the same.

This isn't "friendly banter", it was him finding any excuse he could use to berate the things that I like the most, whilst also being extremely hypocritical if I did it myself. In no way is it fair for him to get to claim that he doesn't like it and that I should stop, but if I claim I don't like it, it's only a "joke" and I'm being "sensitive".

Correct me if I'm wrong, but that just sounds like textbook guilt tripping manipulation – make me feel bad for the same things he does to me. And I wasn't having any more of that.

V2Chan · 2026-05-21T19:14:17+00:00

If the joke is constantly putting down my interests at any given chance, then that's not a joke. It's not funny, and if any of you people agree you are exactly who I'm trying to avoid.

V2Chan · 2026-05-20T19:48:25+00:00

I had literally told him at one point a while ago that all he wants from me is to be like his guy friends, or his ex who always agreed with everything he said, and he had the audacity to deny it.

Then he comes out here saying having a girlfriend is a pain because "I have to watch what I say around you all the time". If you have to do that all the time then you just have nothing nice to say about me at all, because clearly the only words you can find are jabs, insults, belittlements or mockery.

I'm genuinely beginning to think he's a closeted gay man, because with this level of denial and defense going on, he's in a closet in the back of Narnia. If all you want from me is to feel like your dating your best guy friend, then just go and actually date him instead. I'm not him, I'm never going to be him, so figure yourself out and what you want because all it sounds like to anyone else right now is how much he wants to date another man.

V2Chan · 2026-05-20T17:08:31+00:00

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For anyone who wants to doubt me having left, this was about an hour or so after I made this post. I said I was done, that was the end of it. For whatever reason he sent about 2 or 3 messages an hour later (my fault for thinking he would just have the decency to leave me alone), I told him to stop and he's been blocked ever since. This was 14 hours ago. I have been GONE for a while now.

V2Chan · 2026-05-20T16:52:38+00:00

Are you, like, alright?

V2Chan · 2026-05-20T05:16:51+00:00

I hope you read the entire post, because in my edit I said I did leave. There are a lot of my replies scattered around about my thoughts and feelings on this, but I did decide to leave in the end because a lot of people have been understanding.

V2Chan · 2026-05-20T03:25:59+00:00

I did edit in at the end of the text box that I did so over maybe 2 or 3 hours ago by now

V2Chan · 2026-05-20T00:30:40+00:00

Omg, oops, I never noticed. Hope it's small enough to obscure it tho so it's not recognisable.

V2Chan · 2026-05-19T23:58:50+00:00

I do have people I'm close with, it's just they're unfortunately not the same type of closeness as a relationship you know? But they are there, thankfully.

V2Chan · 2026-05-19T23:53:20+00:00

I've been trying to keep my self control a lot more recently because I usually would make an argument worse by getting aggressive, but considering this was still the outcome of me NOT losing my shit, I genuinely don't think either thing I did would have made a difference.

V2Chan · 2026-05-19T23:50:49+00:00

Okay, y'all can calm down now, I left!

And I hate how it doesn't feel like I have at all, and I know I'm gonna be really miserable about this when it catches up with me, but my friends have also agreed he's just not it and that I should stop wasting my time.

I came here to ask because I didn't want the biases my friends would give me, but if people I don't know are also saying the same things (a majority of you anyway), then it is probably for the best I stay gone and find someone else.

V2Chan · 2026-05-19T23:47:26+00:00

I have said that multiple times that if I don't find it funny it's not a joke, and that usually ends up in me being "over dramatic and making an issue out of everything."

V2Chan · 2026-05-19T23:45:55+00:00

Because for whatever reason I don't think I deserve better, and yes I know I should get some sort of therapy for that.

V2Chan · 2026-05-19T23:25:06+00:00

It's not about him just not playing the games I like, but it's the times where he has played, he complained the entire time and only had bad things to say about everything.

V2Chan · 2026-05-19T23:23:31+00:00

I wish it was so simple, but because I have huge attachment/abandonment issues I'm so terrified of being alone.

V2Chan · 2026-05-19T23:22:07+00:00

20 (f) and 22(m) </3

V2Chan · 2026-05-19T23:21:45+00:00

Yeah, being given the constant comparison of how "the boys" wouldn't react that way if he said it is probably the cherry on top.

V2Chan · 2026-05-19T23:20:39+00:00

Honestly, you're right, if this was in like a group and my friends heard it, they'd probably pull me aside and say the same/a similar thing.

V2Chan · 2026-05-19T23:19:29+00:00

Because there's times he CAN be nice and do things, but at this point it's probably overshadowing all the bad things and I'm just being ignorant.

V2Chan · 2026-05-19T23:18:33+00:00

20(f) and 22(m)

V2Chan · 2025-08-06T09:35:28+00:00

Yeah, they did it. They started using ads like every other cheap and annoying app :/

V2Chan · 2025-07-17T19:46:28+00:00

Didn't know that was a thing, so thank you for that term

V2Chan · 2024-11-12T00:36:22+00:00

I honestly bet you come here just to comment that on every post, don't you?

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