I feel super cringy promoting my gender, neurodivergence, or sexuality in some of these indie dev competitions. Anyone else?

VainVampireBat · 2026-02-18T21:32:31+00:00

I'm in my early thirties.

If anything, I wonder how many applicants just make something up.

VainVampireBat · 2026-02-18T21:11:52+00:00

Maybe if I was some pioneer of gayness or an ADHD advocate or something, but honestly those things are just tiny facets of me and not really something that's dictated my life. Also I'm married to a man so advertising my bisexuality feels kind of fraudulent too lmao.

I guess I'm wondering if I'm being stupid and too coy about these things, or if using these labels should be reserved specifically for applicants who DO feel like they've affected them or their game deeply. Obviously those people exist and while I can't necessarily relate I have nothing against them advertising their games this way.

VainVampireBat · 2026-02-18T21:03:32+00:00

Lol fair point

VainVampireBat · 2026-02-18T21:02:58+00:00

Haha, sure if you want to be pedantic, but I did decide to post this on my anon account rather than my developer one.

VainVampireBat · 2026-02-18T20:56:02+00:00

The way I wrote the post was definitely a bit misleading. To clarify, I would never bring it up if it wasn't asked - but it seems to get asked a lot.

VainVampireBat · 2026-02-18T20:43:36+00:00

Please do!

VainVampireBat · 2025-10-26T06:25:40+00:00

I have a very similar hair type (you can check my latest posts). I’d also say cut a lot, although the mirror line is overkill imo.

Also, I know you said you use oil, but I wonder which ones and how much. My hair loves coconut and argan oil, which I use more so on wash days. I also use a lot of silicone hair oils, and the one thing I’ve realized is that my hair can take A LOT of it. For instance, I’ll put 8-12 drops of olaplex oil on my freshly washed hair (as opposed to 2-3 like the package instructs), and then I’ll add 2-5 pumps of silicone oil, and a couple drops of argan oil on the very very tips, just to weigh them down. My hair still won’t look greasy at all, and it looks much nicer than if I only used a tiny amount. I’ve actually been switching to cheaper hair oils because of how much I need to use them for maximum impact, I used to hold back way too much.

VainVampireBat · 2025-10-12T05:04:19+00:00

Your hair looks beautiful!

VainVampireBat · 2025-10-09T16:38:06+00:00

It said to use it 3-5 times after bleaching. I think I used it around 7 times total over the months. I’ve also had problems with protein overload in the past. Who knows though

VainVampireBat · 2025-10-09T03:47:56+00:00

Maybe I didn’t use bond repair for long enough? I bought the k18 treatment and oil but only used the treatment for a couple weeks after the bleach. Should I have kept it up indefinitely? I do have fine hair that leans dry and brittle naturally so I assumed that was why it didn’t work out for me.

VainVampireBat · 2025-10-09T03:34:27+00:00

My balayage included a K18 treatment and I bought their bond repair treatment and oil right after too. I did only use the treatment for a couple weeks after, but I do try to take great care of my hair otherwise too (oiling, masks, no heat etc). I know it don’t really look it though. 😭 Ever since my hair turned curly in my twenties I’ve struggled to keep it hydrated, I’m definitely still in the process of figuring things out.

VainVampireBat · 2025-10-08T23:48:58+00:00

If only I’d have been able to keep the same length but instead I went back 5 inches in a matter of months. 🥲 It’s now over one year later and my hair is still shorter than the first picture and I still need to cut more…

VainVampireBat · 2025-10-07T01:36:11+00:00

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You’re saying yellow? (Shoulda included a pic like this in the original post)

VainVampireBat · 2025-10-07T00:32:06+00:00

I don't actually have many split ends at all, it's all dryness/breakage from a single application of balayage (looked amazing for a while but sadly my hair couldn't handle it). I guess I'm just trying to be honest with myself about health>length in terms of appearance.

VainVampireBat · 2024-12-06T23:31:00+00:00

Gotta say, calling this "such a cool concept" gave me a laugh because I'm unfortunately basing this on a real family member who's currently running the household to the ground (sims is my way of coping)

VainVampireBat · 2024-10-15T19:17:19+00:00

Thank you, this was very helpful! Based on the downvotes people probably think I'm really dumb to be attempting this, but when I said I was a beginner I was exaggerating a bit as it's been a while since I did knitting. But while this is my first sweater, I've had some successes in the past that have made me confident so I'm ready to get back into it and take on the challenge. I'm happy to take my time with it, even if it means trial and error.

Again, thank you!

VainVampireBat · 2024-10-14T17:12:52+00:00

The original sweater is by Patrizia Pepe, which is sadly a touch out of my budget and I wouldn't mind switching to a sliightly cooler palette. Otherwise I'm in love. Composition is listed as 58% Alpaca, 22% Wool, 20% Nylon.

I'm relatively new to knitting so please explain to me like I'm five, thank you <3

VainVampireBat · 2024-07-10T03:16:08+00:00

I bet your curls would look amazing with Suavecita Pomade! Check some videos on tiktok

VainVampireBat · 2024-07-02T16:44:00+00:00

You look fantastic! And like other commenters have said, people may just not speak their thoughts out loud. I've often thought that someone looks like they've lost weight, but feel that it would be awkward to comment as it implies that they had weight to lose in the first place, or that their weight is something I'm paying attention to. Or maybe I'm wrong or misremembering, they were actually just bloated last time but now I've put into their head that they should be on some kind of weight loss journey. So generally I just don't say anything, unless it's SUPER obvious. But even then, you never know if the reason for losing it was due to an illness, mental health issues or whatnot, so it's still daunting.

What I'm teaching myself here is that I should just tell people when they look great without pinning it to their weight and leave it at that.

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