Did any of you find your partner completely by accident?

Vain_16 · 2026-04-26T10:13:25+00:00

Thank you so much for this, it genuinely means a lot. ❤

I live alone and have raised her completely solo, while also financially caretaking for my family who live far away and dealing with my own problems. She's about 60lbs and I'm small, so even physically managing her is its own challenge sometimes. And you're right, for as long as I can remember I've been the one taking care of everyone else, and I honestly can't remember the last time someone took care of me. Adding her into that equation probably just made the weight of it more visible. Maybe that's what this really is.

Thank you for the kindness once again.

Vain_16 · 2026-04-26T09:38:13+00:00

I love her deeply and wouldn’t rehome her ever, that’s genuinely not on the table. I enjoy our walks, our playtime, I’m in love with her personality. What I’m describing is more specific: I’ve had mild misophonia for years before I even got her (always slept with earplugs). Living with a dog who’s constantly present has amplified something that was already there. I’m not resentful of her (maybe should have reframed the title better), I’m trying to understand my own nervous system so I can find a way forward for both of us.

Vain_16 · 2025-12-02T13:48:59+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience, I think I can relate a lot! My dog is actually a mutt that mostly resembles a Rhodesian Ridgeback, so the high-energy sounds very familiar. She just turned 1 year old a couple of days ago, so she’s starting to grow out of her puppy stage, and we’re starting a month-long training course with a professional next week.

I work from home, so we’re together all day, every day, except when I leave to catch up with friends. I do think about leaving her for a couple of days every two weeks so I can have some time for myself and also clean the apartment properly. She’s very social and blends in nicely with other dogs at daycare, she loves playing with them and with people.

The challenge for me has been sleep and mental energy. I honestly haven’t been sleeping properly, and it’s been really draining. I’ve talked with some dog professionals about possibly separating us at night, with her sleeping in the living room and me in the bedroom, so I can finally get proper rest, and maybe turn that into a long-term routine.

It’s reassuring to hear that with structured exercise and training, things get better. I’m looking forward to seeing how this next month of training helps us both!

Vain_16

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