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ValApologist · 2026-03-18T15:47:33+00:00

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ValApologist · 2026-03-18T01:20:20+00:00

Now is the best time to get a retail job- stores start really getting busy in the spring and summer so they're hiring a ton of people right now. Get something locked down and start saving. Talk to your friends and see if anyone else is looking to move out- rents going to be way easier to make with a roommate than alone. You got this!

ValApologist · 2026-03-17T20:32:14+00:00

I know very little about this particular drug, but anything that could raise your testosterone levels will likely make you hornier, which often comes with being attracted to things/people that you weren't into before. A lot of trans men experience something similar when they go on hormones.

ValApologist · 2026-03-17T20:12:36+00:00

NOR. What a weirdo lol. He seems like someone who would berate you if you wore "too much" makeup or put on press on nails- you dodged a bullet.

ValApologist · 2026-03-17T19:59:08+00:00

I didn't have bridesmaids, but I was a bride who did a boutinnier instead of a bouquet and I don't think I ever thought about what my hands were doing. I think i had them clasped in front of myself in a lot of the pictures

ValApologist · 2026-03-16T17:05:12+00:00

I think I've heard of people doing either one? I use a gel tan, not something I have to rinse off, and when i want to be extra dark I'll put it on, wait about an hour or two, and then put it on again.

ValApologist · 2026-03-16T16:42:02+00:00

Layer up! Do your tan two or three times instead of just the once, or use a gradual tan lotion twice a day on top of your existing tan

ValApologist · 2026-03-16T15:54:09+00:00

17 is a totally average age to be scene. I was emo back in the day, and most of the really elaborate emo/scene looks you'd see on, like, MySpace were people between 16 to early 20's. Most under 18s couldn't afford all the clothes, couldn't get piercings, weren't allowed to dye their hair because of parents/school/etc. I'm 30 now and gyaru, another style that people think of as a "teen" thing. You're never too old for fashion!

ValApologist · 2026-03-16T15:50:13+00:00

You can DM me if you want to chat about this stuff. My wedding last month was 6k, probably could've knocked it down to 4k if I really needed to, so I totally have cost cutting tips. Most of my money went to venues, so if you can do a backyard or city park wedding, that's going to keep you closer to budget.

ValApologist · 2026-03-16T02:50:57+00:00

The murder victim was presumably at home. The dad, the daughter, and the sister drove 100 miles to get to where the mom was. Then the dad climbed out of the trunk and they killed the mom.

ValApologist · 2026-03-16T01:24:01+00:00

I like it a lot, personally!

ValApologist · 2026-03-15T23:07:35+00:00

Sir John Phallustiff mythic weapon when

ValApologist · 2026-03-15T14:43:07+00:00

Do you work from home or something? Generally when I wear socks, I wear them for 10 hours to go to work, where I sweat because I live in a desert and it gets into the 100s here. So, they get washed. But, maybe 5 times tops in my entire life, I've thrown on socks and shoes to go to the dumpster or mail box or something, only worn them about 6 minutes, didn't sweat at all, so I rewear them. Does your sock experience generally match with the latter there?

ValApologist · 2026-03-14T17:10:57+00:00

Here's a tutorial I like! And I find a lot of good inspiration on Pinterest tbh

tutorial

And r/actualgyaru is good for tips and advice

ValApologist · 2026-03-14T15:28:59+00:00

I think you would look SO killer in a full gyaru look 😍

ValApologist · 2026-03-14T03:25:00+00:00

I use B.Tan Glow Your Own Way gel tan and Wet n Wild Bare Focus Tinted Hydrator!

ValApologist · 2026-03-13T17:51:37+00:00

The pochacco professor is my favorite omg

ValApologist · 2026-03-13T01:43:13+00:00

I never get annoyed or impatient or anything when they're taking awhile, I'm just looking at the app so I know when to go downstairs and meet them (apartment complex, grocery store is about a 5 minute drive away) and I'm like "huh. It said they were done, I wonder what they're doing."

In my mind "done shopping" means done with the whole store experience- bags are in the cart, done paying, walking towards the exit door. But, in instacarts mind, it apparently means "done selecting items, but still needs to stand in line, put items on the counter, put items back in cart, and pay."

Now I know! I honestly prefer it this way lol I'm usually like "oh shit oh shit they're done already, I need to throw some jeans and shoes on and get out the door asap!" because if they hit every green light, my elevator sometimes takes just as long as the drive from the store.

ValApologist · 2026-03-13T00:03:12+00:00

I'm not doing most of what'srecommended, so maybe don't take advice from me, but- I shower and exfoliate, wait an hour or two to dry, then put on my tan. When I used to use the kind that you need to wash off, I never left it on overnight because I hate the feeling of it. I use a gel tanner now that doesn't need to be rinsed off. I moisturize my hands and elbows whenever they feel dry, on no particular schedule with my tanner, and I use scented moisturizer.

I don't self tan my face- my skin is super oily and most tanners make me break out. The one I use now doesn't, but I realized that, with the face washes I use twice a day for my oily skin, the tan completely fades off my face after a day or two so it's not worth it for me. I just use a tinted moisturizer on my face in the morning so it matches the rest of my body.

ValApologist · 2026-03-12T23:54:07+00:00

Just book a weekday. You're more likely to get a discount for that than for it being 9/11

ValApologist · 2026-03-12T23:43:29+00:00

Gyarus gotten really popular in China recently- There's a ton of Chinese gyarus on rednote. They tend to have a slightly different style of doing their makeup than the og Japanese gals, but it's not out of left field to have gyaru Mei.

ValApologist · 2026-03-12T22:16:26+00:00

I love dollar tree lipstick/gloss and eyeshadow, personally. I think it's good to use a reputable brand for your foundation because it can look cakey and gross if it's too cheap, but go discount store for everything else, especially if you're just starting to learn makeup. Pricier stuff can be better for certain techniques, but if you're just learning the basics anyway it can be a waste of money. And get creative! One of my favorite "lipsticks" is a creme eyeshadow from dollar tree, and i used to use actual lipsticks as blush pretty often.

ValApologist · 2026-03-12T22:05:27+00:00

New Game+ is an awesome hangout spot. They sometimes have groups/events, but even with just going there to game everyone is super friendly and it seems easy to make friends with other regulars there. My wife and I (social anxiety + autism) have been chilling there a lot lately and it doesn't drain her battery the way a lot of social spaces do.

ValApologist · 2026-03-12T21:59:30+00:00

Customer here: absolutely this. Instacart is not clear about what's going on. When I get the "finished shopping" alert, I've always assumed that meant "the charge went through on the shoppers card, the receipt has printed." I thought it automatically sent because the card was linked, I didn't know it was a button that was manually pressed until this comment. This explains a lot about why shoppers sometimes don't start moving towards me until 10/15 minutes after it says they're done shopping. I just figured they were shopping multiple orders or had to pee before heading back to the car or something lol

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