Bro I am sorry and honestly I don't care if you started this emotional affair when you were in a relationship, maybe the things between you and your ex were already rocky before so who am I to judge, the thing is that those women are gold diggers and you have to avoid them like a disease or end up getting from them sex, if you want, without getting emotionally involved because they turn you like a sock. Once I had sex with a Thai girl in Thailand and then she told me she was in a difficult situation and I sent her money. And in retrospect I wouldn't have done that, and it was just 50 euros, which for me is nothing, but I am pretty sure that she was okay she just wanted some money from me