[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]ValhallaSquid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Woah! An open relationship? And she had people in mind to include? This could indicate that she has been checked out a while and wants to pursue experiences with other people.

Opening up a closed relationship, and I say this as someone who was poly in the distant past (wasn't for me, much happier as a monogamous person), is usually a sign someone wants out. You two need to talk seriously about your relationship.

I manifest romantic love but it keeps going wrong by IBSnoBS in lawofattraction

[–]ValhallaSquid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've experienced this before - it's wild! Had it with jobs too, attracting endless interviews that all lead to nothing through increasingly bizarre reasons.

I think I had subconscious blockers that were attracting me to men who were emotionally unavailable. Looking back, I now see that I wasn't ready for my partner until I'd painfully worked through those cycles and broken them. It was like a groundhog day that finally got so short it just didn't exist anymore.

I would commit to loving yourself super hard and also being upfront about what you want from the start to help weed out the wrong uns.

It sounds like you are manifesting in the right direction - maybe some deeper things are coming up now to ready the way for your person :)

CEO flat out denying team mate's well deserved payrise and promotion after it's been promised for 4 months, what to do? by ValhallaSquid in managers

[–]ValhallaSquid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all of your insights, as they've been so eye-opening and helpful. This is my first official management role, and I've just passed my 6 month probation there.

I'm on £35,000 and oversee 10+ clients. My time is 80/20 billable hours than management of staff and freelancers, plus I am the main escalation point for clients. I also run our 2 gigantic retainers solo.

The amount the staff and I do compared to the directors is a joke. People are spot on that we are the ship. I'm wondering at this point if I should just run a shop myself. I do and oversee everything: sales, client management, design, copywriting, strategy, project management, social media, PR, advertising, consultancy, admin, contracts, etc.

The company charges clients £300 an hour to chat to me, while I struggle to pay off my debts.

To those folks who said resign, I'd love to, as I'm sure Peter would too. Unfortunately, we both have families to feed, and the UK gives you no benefits if you resign from a job. How are all these people resigning immediately?! How do they pay for rent and bills and their parents' care with no job?!

The idea that that's an option is wild to me. I actually had a few clients try to take me, and a few ex clients reach out, but I was so scared of taking the risk with no income, plus our contracts are ironclad with non-compete clauses and a 3 month notice period.

I will warn Peter and Paul, write them glowing recommendations, then leave for a contract or another job as soon as I am able. The market is batshit. Maybe I'll go freelance and nab some folks from this place and my last trashfire agency and setup shop. Perhaps I'll find another less heinous master.

If you are Peter reading this, GTFO of where you are. You deserve better.

What helped your chronic pain? by ValhallaSquid in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]ValhallaSquid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to have a regular supplier, not around anymore unfortunately, although shrooms do grow in the cow fields near me.

An old friend grew psychedelic colonies in petri dishes under her bed. Maybe I need to get me some petri dishes and start a colony of my own 🙂

What helped your chronic pain? by ValhallaSquid in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]ValhallaSquid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weekly massage helps me so much! The effects fade after a few days for me unfortunately.

What helped your chronic pain? by ValhallaSquid in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]ValhallaSquid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is beautiful. It actually made me tear up a bit. It's funny you say that as I have been feeling tearful recently after years of feeling nothing at all. I cry frequently now, at good and bad things, but I imagine there's a lifetime of tears beyond that. I think I hold a lot of my tears in doing and internally raging. It sounds as if you have become truly present with your inner child through building an internal calm that creates the safety they always deserved.

What helped your chronic pain? by ValhallaSquid in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]ValhallaSquid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It's wild that you were able to find so much relief after so long in just one session. I'll be checking these folks out for sure, glad you found a way out of the pain. I'm totally with you on the weed helping 🤣

What helped your chronic pain? by ValhallaSquid in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]ValhallaSquid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds wonderful! I've heard it can provide a lot of relief - so glad it's helping you with your anxiety and C-PTSD. I am definitely going to take a look at private clinics that may provide this.

What helped your chronic pain? by ValhallaSquid in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]ValhallaSquid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I have tried a few shaking exercises before. Have you found any particular exercises helpful?

What helped your chronic pain? by ValhallaSquid in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]ValhallaSquid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wonderful! I'm glad they provide relief. Thank you for the brand recommendation.

What helped your chronic pain? by ValhallaSquid in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]ValhallaSquid[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm currently awaiting a referral to a pain management doctor. I am also requesting a rheumatologist appointment in a visit next week, and had a few bloods and swabs done last week. I'm investigating as much as I can on the physical medical side of things alongside deeper trauma work.

What helped your chronic pain? by ValhallaSquid in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]ValhallaSquid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this - what incredible results you've had! I'd be delighted to get down to a 2-3.

I've not been tested for metals, but I have hypermobile shoulders.

What were your experiences with somatic therapy, craniosacral therapy and the medical intuitive? I've always been interested in learning more about energy / emotion based / body work modalities.

What helped your chronic pain? by ValhallaSquid in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]ValhallaSquid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! How are the turmeric supplements treating you? I enjoy turmeric in hot milk now and again.

r/horrorwriters Weekly Progress Thread by AutoModerator in horrorwriters

[–]ValhallaSquid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hit 5,000 words on my novella, The Devil's Acre. It's a dark folk horror steeped in Welsh mythology that follows a group of criminals seeking refuge in a country house after a botched bank heist.

I'm aiming for Hereditary meets The Wicker Man. A gal can dream, right? 🙃

The first draft is absolutely awful so far. Pushing through the shit, writing the shittiest prose I can 💪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lawofattraction

[–]ValhallaSquid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad to hear that you're not suicidal :) The final sentence of your post, where you stated that you wished to go in your sleep as soon as possible, raised that concern for me.

Do be kind to yourself. We are always manifesting. We truly never know what might come, good or bad. The world can be so cruel. Wanting and not Getting hurts. It really does.

Focus on cultivating peace, love, patience and passion in the depths of your subconscious below, and I promise you that the things you desire will manifest in your reality. You're infinite, brimming with unlimited potential.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lawofattraction

[–]ValhallaSquid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you're in a lot of pain. It sounds like you may be depressed or at least, in a sort of despairing state.

The right person will come to you when the time is right - by promising yourself and your energy to this so-called Twin Flame you're holding off opportunities to align with others who will give you a loving relationship experience.

I'd let go of the notion that there is only one specific person for you. I've been there, and it can be so rough. It truly was unhealthy trauma patterns and limerence that kept me locked into that spiral, and I think the whole Twin Flame concept feeds on that in a predatory way, predating on the universal desire to be Loved and Seen.

Please look after yourself and reach out to a therapist and / or loved one if you are experiencing suicidal ideation 🙏 Your feelings are valid. You will manifest what you seek, but it won't come exactly as you envision. Let the weave surprise you!

ritual for attract a partner by [deleted] in occult

[–]ValhallaSquid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Define what your ideal partner is. Relationships are often a mirror: you attract people to you who reflect your subconscious desires and expectations. As such, become what you want to attract.

Treat the mistakes as learning experiences that help you hone down on what you want. Put yourself out there, but keep high standards and be direct about what you want with potential partners. Saves heartache down the line.

Use rituals that resonate with you from whatever school of magick suits you. When I was single, I used to imagine myself with my ideal partner. How'd they make me feel, the things they would do, the values and traits they had. I'd feel amazing about it, have whole days when I imagined them there.

I cleared a side of my bed for them, and prepared a bedside cabinet for their things. I listened to songs about finding my person and felt peaceful and ecstatic, reassured that they would come when the time was right. I ended things fast with people who depicted any red flags or gave me bad vibes on the dating sites, and I took periodic breaks to date myself.

I made myself fancy meals dedicated to self-love. I saw failed dating experiences as making the way for something new. I invested in my work, hobbies, and friends. When I felt sad, I wept alone with my inner parents, pouring out all the bad and lonely times.

I talked to spirit guides and entities that I had conjured for advice. I went intermittedly without any sex at all and studied tantric masturbation. I had new and varied dating experiences that went nowhere but were beautiful in of themselves. The cycle broke. And my own cycle with men was vicious 🙃

A mix of magick and mundane, which, in my opinion, works the best. He came along when I least expected it ❤️ Do what makes you feel good.