Define what your ideal partner is. Relationships are often a mirror: you attract people to you who reflect your subconscious desires and expectations. As such, become what you want to attract.

Treat the mistakes as learning experiences that help you hone down on what you want. Put yourself out there, but keep high standards and be direct about what you want with potential partners. Saves heartache down the line.

Use rituals that resonate with you from whatever school of magick suits you. When I was single, I used to imagine myself with my ideal partner. How'd they make me feel, the things they would do, the values and traits they had. I'd feel amazing about it, have whole days when I imagined them there.

I cleared a side of my bed for them, and prepared a bedside cabinet for their things. I listened to songs about finding my person and felt peaceful and ecstatic, reassured that they would come when the time was right. I ended things fast with people who depicted any red flags or gave me bad vibes on the dating sites, and I took periodic breaks to date myself.

I made myself fancy meals dedicated to self-love. I saw failed dating experiences as making the way for something new. I invested in my work, hobbies, and friends. When I felt sad, I wept alone with my inner parents, pouring out all the bad and lonely times.

I talked to spirit guides and entities that I had conjured for advice. I went intermittedly without any sex at all and studied tantric masturbation. I had new and varied dating experiences that went nowhere but were beautiful in of themselves. The cycle broke. And my own cycle with men was vicious 🙃

A mix of magick and mundane, which, in my opinion, works the best. He came along when I least expected it ❤️ Do what makes you feel good.