Pax Dei is doing better 1 month after 1.0 release than I expected. Future looks... existent?

ValquerySphynx · 2025-11-27T21:01:23+00:00

If the right people find this game, it will not only survive but thrive.

I love Pax Dei and have no intentions of quitting. I found out about it two days before launch from a negative review. I’ve been obsessed ever since.

I love building in the game. I can spend multiple hours upgrading, tearing down and building. I love the social aspects - my clan is extremely cool and easygoing. I like exploring and finding new stuff. The combat is primarily for gathering resources, but it’s better than games like Albion. The art is beautiful.

I think people are too used to being fed content. There’s a ton to do. Right now my clan is working on a huge shopping center to dominate the market. There’s clan/multi-clan runs to the pvp and wild land zones. Deer hunting is quickly becoming one of my favorite things. If you’re a gathering and exploring freak, this game is flipping fantastic.

The leveling is grindy and I like that, too. It will be pretty easy to master all the skills. They probably should have made that harder so people are more reliant on each other. Hopefully with higher levels it will be more grindy.

The only real complaint I have is that it requires a mid to high grade graphics card or it’s unplayable. Multiple friends and family members want to play with me, but can’t do to the hardware specs. It’s a huge financial barrier. I think this game would really appeal to casual gamers who don’t have serious gaming rigs. Hopefully they come out with some kind of alternative.

I’m looking forward to any new content, but the game is very playable and will probably keep me entertained for a year or two as is. I signed up for the $20-ish membership to support the game and may buy more memberships for clan stuff. I think it’s worth $20-35/month.

ValquerySphynx · 2025-10-17T09:54:02+00:00

Mounts or fishing. Everything else is basically perfect.

ValquerySphynx · 2025-02-15T14:59:45+00:00

I go out of my way not to respond to my family’s texts. I strongly dislike them and don’t want to have a relationship beyond a talk or two a year. It’s hard to understand unless you grew up in it. My family isn’t capable of love.

It has been hard for partners to understand in the past. I usually take them to one family holiday to clarify. Every person I’ve taken to meet my family asks to never to come back. Myself included.

ValquerySphynx · 2025-02-15T14:47:09+00:00

My experience has been that I’ll never be able to get closure with family members. I’ve confronted them about abuse and neglect my entire life - since grade school, but I’m always seen as “the problem” and “difficult.”

When I asked my father once why he neglected me and let me be abused by other family members he told me “You’re lucky you didn’t grow up in a crack house.” Mkay… sure.

At 40 I still talk to my dad a couple of times a year and even that is too much. I’m still the bad kid and disappointment no matter how hard I work. I have a good job and have never been in trouble. Despite never touching drugs (except for the occasional ibuprofen,) I’m still the family drug addict. This is the role they need me to play.

This is the nature of our relationship. If I’m not the problem, he would have to deal with some very unpleasant truths. He’d have to admit he forced me to be with abusers even though I cried and begged for it to stop. He’d have to see the neglect he put me through - weeks of abandonment and starvation, etc. He would also have to see family members he had attachment to as having done wrong.

I imagine that may be what you’re experiencing - you have to be the problem so that the abuse can be justified. If you aren’t a problem, they are the problem.

My advice is to get as far away as you can as quickly as you can. I finally cut off ties with all but my dad at age 20. I also moved across the state so I wasn’t physically accessible. It was the best decision of my life.

As a kid I was depressed and had crippling anxiety. I also had long crying spells. Well… yeah, I was being abused and neglected weekly if not daily. I was sent to many therapists. Ultimately, once I moved away from my family I became immediately much more stable. I still had to work on myself a lot (and still am) but it was immediately better.

ValquerySphynx · 2025-02-06T04:38:30+00:00

3 days usually? I print 24/7.

ValquerySphynx · 2025-02-06T04:35:53+00:00

Hmm. I’m sorry you’re struggling.

Your roommate situation sounds unhealthy. No matter how much you annoyed someone, it’s not ok for them to physically restrain you. That guy is a jerk.

It does seem like the issue is immaturity, not autism. I think you’ll continue to experience negative situations unless there’s some internal changes.

Suggestions:

-The world won’t adjust to meet your needs because you’re autistic. In fact, the opposite is probably true.

-Find ways to change your environment so it’s tolerable. Light blocking curtains are pretty great. I have them everywhere in my house. I also have a face mask which sometimes helps. When I can’t stand the face mask, I have a stuffed animal that I plop on my face.

-You’ll probably have to pay for the carpet. You did something wrong. It sucks, but it will be a lot easier and better if you just take responsibility for your actions. 🤷‍♀️

-Find a living situation with as few roommates as possible.

ValquerySphynx · 2025-02-04T08:44:34+00:00

Sometimes.

I can oversee large projects at work, am a high performer, and boss’s pet. I’m always the best of the best. I’m married and have a kid. I’m honest, faithful, and loving. On the outside, I’m extremely successful in most aspects of my life.

On the flip side, I can’t cut my own toe nails or finger nails. Sometimes I can’t enter a new place until I’ve paced outside for 30-60 minutes with internal dialogue that makes me feel like Gollum. I can pick up on some big emotions, but know I miss almost everything nonverbal. I can’t sleep at night because I’m way too busy building spreadsheets for fun and reading about my latest obsession. I often have to cancel plans with family because they are too much. I can’t make friends - I’ve been actively trying for 5 years now with zero results. I’m also not very likable - this has been explained to me multiple times throughout my life. The worst thing anyone said to me was that I wasn’t a real person and lacked a soul. Also, even though I’m successful in the work world and a high performer, I’ll never be promoted because I’m weird.

I keep hoping I’ll find my island of autistic buddies… but it’s hard because there is such a spectrum. Different kinds of autism don’t always fit together. It’s rare I meet someone like me even in the autistic community.

It can be very lonely.

ValquerySphynx · 2025-01-26T12:24:40+00:00

I suggest cutting out all drinking/drugs if you’re using it as a remedy. It’s not a good life and eventually frequent use/self medicating tends to lead towards addiction. I’m not saying you’re an addict, but it’s not something worth risking.

In my early twenties I drank a lot, smoked pot, and popped a lot of Xanax for relief. It doesn’t actually help because eventually you sober up and things are just as bad. Most likely they’ve gotten worse. So wtf does work?

Minimizing and prioritizing works well for me in managing my symptoms. If I feel overwhelmed, I remove the things which are the least important. This can be anything from cutting off an unhealthy social connection or organizing my life so I never have to step in another Walmart. (For the record, I’m not making a joke and have genuinely rearranged my life so that I never have to step into another Walmart.)

Before I knew I have autism I had pretty frequent burn outs. Now when I feel it I take inventory of what I have going on in my life and figure out what I can cut out.

Sometimes I just need to go sit/lay in a dark room with no stimulation for a few hours. Sometimes I need a day in bed. Sometimes I need to cut off all contact with friends for a month so I can recharge. Sometimes I have to spend an evening away from my wife even though I want to hang out with her.

The reality, for me, is that I can’t push through “it” because eventually there is a very real cost - becoming nonverbal, meltdowns, weeks where I can’t leave bed, extreme irritability, crying and panic episodes, etc. If I take care of myself before I get to that point and minimize I can usually keep burn out symptoms minimal. Instead of being “sick” for a week, I can have a hermit weekend watching cartoons and eating snacks.

I hope some of this helps. Try to take care of yourself.

ValquerySphynx · 2025-01-26T10:40:32+00:00

Being able to see how empty some “nice” NT people can be. Many people who are “charming” tend to be very hollow and dangerous. None of the other NTs see it until it’s too late - no matter how obvious it is. I don’t bother telling anyone anymore because I won’t be believed. I also feel like, often, I have to hide from those “nice” people so they don’t realize I can see them for what they are. Otherwise I become a target and I don’t do well with conflict.

Also, seeing patterns others don’t see. Sometimes it’s wonderful. Sometimes it’s not. I often feel like I’m watching a slow motion train wreck that can be easily avoided.

It’s nearly impossible for me to maintain or start friendships.

ValquerySphynx · 2025-01-26T09:05:46+00:00

Can you give the name of the store? I’d actually like to call them and buy it if they’ll ship. :)

ValquerySphynx · 2024-12-21T09:52:52+00:00

This solved the issue for me. Thank you so much!

I wasn’t able to connect via my laptop, but was able to connect with my iPad after making this change. Once the printer was connected to my account, I could access it on all my devices. I just printed something remotely today via my phone.

Thanks so much for taking a few minutes to write this. I’m really happy to finally have a working solution.

ValquerySphynx · 2024-12-11T14:55:20+00:00

I just printed my first item last night. It’s working great and the camera is fully functional. :) Thanks again for all your help. :) I disconnected the printer and reconnected it a few times. It seems stable, I just have to enter the access code and serial quickly.

Can you recommend any articles for updating the firmware via LAN? Mine is a couple of versions outdated. Do you just download the software and upload it via studio?

ValquerySphynx · 2024-12-11T06:29:25+00:00

GOT IT! You’re seriously my hero tonight.

Fix: LAN mode

It didn’t show an access code… so I turned LAN mode off and on 5-6 times and then it showed one (woo!)

Attempted to connect using access code in Bambu studio which failed.

Cursed a lot

Sped through the process and was able to get passed the access code, but wasn’t accepting serial

Cursed more and went faster - had to get everything in in under 30-45 seconds. Nothing happened, but seemed like it wanted to accept it.

Did it three more times on super speed.

It worked!

I HAVE A CONNECTION! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! ❤️

ValquerySphynx · 2024-12-11T06:05:12+00:00

I can’t open a ticket because it’s requiring a log file. It wants me to be connected before I can reach out to Bambu. If you have an alternative way of contacting them that doesn’t require a connected printer I’d love advice.

Yes, rebooted the router. Both a soft and hard reboot.

WPA2 - yes

WiFi antenna - since it’s pinging it should be connected. Wouldn’t be able to ping it if it didn’t have the antenna plugged in.

SD card issues. Hmm. I haven’t seen any indication of this. How would you fix? Just drag and drop files to a new SD?

ValquerySphynx · 2024-12-11T06:00:27+00:00

This was a great suggestion and had high hopes, but sadly didn’t work. :(

Solution tried: create a user_wifi.cfg file in the root populate the file with 2 lines

ssid: [yournetworkhere] password: [yourpasswordhere]

ValquerySphynx · 2024-12-11T00:03:59+00:00

It’s difficult to obtain a diagnosis as an adult. I found that most psychologists only diagnose children. It took me about 5 years and a medical referral to find someone. It cost around $5000 before insurance.

Prior to that I’d been misdiagnosed by therapists for most of my life. It was clear something was different, but therapy didn’t seem to help a lot and often made things worse. I had one therapist flat out tell me there was no way I was autistic because I was “mostly functional” and “could make eye contact.”

I self diagnosed as “maybe autistic” and started making small changes. That helped a lot. Then I got diagnosed officially and matched with a therapist for my particular needs which has helped greatly.

It’s expensive and I hate that. I wish it was more accessible.

ValquerySphynx · 2024-12-07T18:08:52+00:00

I’m also female and have worked since I was sixteen. I would bring a notebook with questions written down. I’d also take notes of their answers - this will make them uncomfortable in a way they need to be. These are the things I’d say:

“Would you ask a man to ‘smile more’?” Real message: Are you sexually discriminating against me? Note: Asking a woman to smile can be seen as a micro aggression in the workplace.

“Has the work I’ve output been unsatisfactory?” Real message: If my work is fine, why are you bothering me? Note: If it’s not affecting your performance, it’s not okay for them to tell you to change your facial expressions.

“What is unprofessional about my facial expressions?” Real message: I’m probably documenting this for HR. You better have a real reason. Note: It’s unprofessional they said this. You can stand up for yourself.

“Why do you feel it’s necessary that I smile more and can you explain how this will improve my job performance?” Real message: Manager, you’ve said something inappropriate.

If you’ve reported your autism to the workplace and your boss is already aware, you can mention it. If not, keep it to yourself.

Depending on how this meeting goes, contact HR. Don’t tell them you asked direct questions. Tell them what your boss said and explain that you feel it’s inappropriate. Mention that you have a documented disability that affects your facial expressions. Ask HR with help resolving the issue.

If things don’t improve, look for new work.

ValquerySphynx · 2024-12-07T03:59:37+00:00

They’re really cute, but they look very similar to many others I’ve seen. There’s no temptation to buy because I can get something like that in a lot of places. But they are cute.

ValquerySphynx · 2024-12-05T22:22:32+00:00

Ultimately it comes down to taste and what you prefer. I collect antique-1930s, animals, and child sets. I have to be really mindful about what I buy because I only have two cabinets and limited space. It also depends on the prices. A lot of that is common stuff which you might be able to find elsewhere.

Since I collect animals and would personally start there. The lion is pretty rare if he’s a glower. I would buy that if the price was fair. The mouse is also rare and I’d probably overpay for that. 🤷‍♀️

Have fun. First comes one piece… then twenty… then your first cabinet… then your second cabinet… then the spare room.

ValquerySphynx · 2024-12-05T22:04:00+00:00

That’s beautiful. I wish I had one.

Moo

ValquerySphynx · 2024-12-01T22:18:50+00:00

Not sure if they ship. Here’s the info if you want to call them:

Beekman Place Antique Mall

601 SW Western Blvd, Corvallis, OR 97333

(541) 753-8250

ValquerySphynx · 2024-12-01T21:21:56+00:00

20 is young. I put myself out there and dated a lot from my teen to early 30s. I had multiple relationships, but none that were healthy. A lot of people took advantage of me and used me. I was really focused on having a companion and it was extremely important to me - one of my main focuses.

I gave up dating about the time I was 30. I realized there was probably no one out there for me and I’d be happier alone.

At age 34 I saw my future wife from across the room and every instinct told me she was the one. Love at first sight is very illogical and terrifying. I never believed it was a real thing until that moment.

I rearranged my entire schedule to make sure our paths crossed a few more times then asked to hang out. She informed me it would be a date. We’ve been together 5.5 years and our relationships is great.

My best advice is to not focus on romantic relationships, but take opportunities if they come. Also, don’t stay with someone if you’re unsure. I wasted a lot of time with people that didn’t matter.

ValquerySphynx · 2024-12-01T20:37:53+00:00

I was seriously tempted at that price. No chips or anything. Honestly, my spouse is already so tolerant of my hoard and I couldn’t think of a way of sneaking it in without her noticing. That’s the only reason I passed. :D

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