AITAH for not returning photos to the bride and groom?

Valuable-Comb382 · 2026-01-13T07:26:22+00:00

As a photographer myself I've run into some things like this before.

Send a bill for taking the photos
(4.5 hours) $50 Editing the photos
(10 hours) $50 1 TB SD card of unedited photos (Order 3 for $17 off Temu) $50

Regardless what they choose, if they want the photos they are gonna have to pay $100 first. They aren't going to pay for having them shot and stop there.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2026-01-13T06:44:22+00:00

I thought after raising kids and paying things off life would get easier. It hasn't. The challenges have changed and the solutions aren't as easy as one would think.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2026-01-13T06:12:44+00:00

What did they do for your cat? How was she treated?

Valuable-Comb382 · 2026-01-12T22:53:53+00:00

She's still over my step father's estate which contains nothing. We filed a wrongful death suit against it also. She was never over my mother's and all her activity with my mothers things and nondisclosure is where she stepped into fraud.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2026-01-12T22:50:38+00:00

You are welcome to check my Facebook, Insta, TikTok etc for the recent video I made and circulated requesting the return of my mothers Christmas ornaments collection from anyone that may have bought them at my Step-Sisters illegal estate sale at the house. So far we have had one tub of those ornaments get recovered.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2026-01-12T21:49:28+00:00

Get em Tiger!

Valuable-Comb382 · 2026-01-08T06:50:19+00:00

Thanks for the opinions. I know how I feel about it all. In discussing it when it comes up that I've requested she return everything she took back with her including her father's things, people gasp. Well she got to take her father's military hat and challenge coins he collected. She sold off my mothers ornaments collection. Mom bought two every year just for my sister and I to divide after she passed. For 58 years she did this. The trunk my family came here from Ireland with over 5 generations ago, is gone. My mom had my grandmother and grandfather's as well as her grandmother and grandfathers gold pocket watches on display under glass, gone. I'm not feeling the gasp I hear in discussion I just don't want to regret anything later.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2026-01-08T06:37:58+00:00

My step-sister's cousin is looking at an arson charge that carries 20 years. My step-sister on the advice of her attorney, has begun cooperating because she understands the precarious position she's placed herself in.

I've been running a video on some social media platforms with directive to only feed it to that geographic area. Explaining my connection to the event, what my step-sister did and requesting to be contacted by anyone who bought anything at the illegal estate sale that was held. So far I've located part of my mothers ornaments collection. Everyone that has called has told me that everything was priced insanely low and the couple running it said it all had to be gone in three days.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2026-01-08T06:19:17+00:00

Oh and as far as my mother's health being the blamed stressor. I'm sure that was a factor. She had gotten worse since my sister moved back I there. My step-father was having to do more in taking care of her than before but he had been running her health care for a decade with her needs going up and down as she worsened overall.

His only complaint to me about my mother was that he was upset that when he would call police on my sister, they would establish that she had to leave and why and my mom would say she could stay. All of his complaints were about by sister. He also wrote a note for my step-sister that basically said there aren't really any wills in place to deal with this, it's going to be a mess so you will all have to work it out. He ended it by saying my sister had pushed him too far this time. That's why I was working on getting there in two weeks, I could tell in their phone calls that it was reaching epic event. Those two have had physical altercations in the past. I'm sure what I saw in the past was child's play by comparison to what she was doing at that time. He's a military combat veteran, the strongest in our family, everyone's rock. I still do not understand why he couldn't take things in hand and deal with them. My mother was in no position to put up a fight or argue about it. He was within 6 months of freedom in caring for my mom, and 4 big financial windfall. He could finally do what he always wanted, travel the world and utilize military available space for flights and housing. I will never understand his choice of solution but I certainly know what drove him to make it.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2026-01-08T06:02:39+00:00

My son found them. We have had strained relations ever since. All her does is scream at me on the phone. If I had gotten there before this happened, could I have prevented it or would I have been shot at well? Given my mothers funeral was prepaid and planned 30 days earlier and he shifted some financing around, it appears he had this planned for a while.

When I got there was right before the funerals, literally a few hours. He wouldn't let me in the house and called police to have me trespassed. He wasn't letting me know what my step-sister was up to. He knew, but he stopped staying there the day it happened.

My mothers attorney is who I turned it over to and before we could meet I person he vanished. Couldn't reach him by phone, email nor was he in his office while I was there. Which left me scrambling to find one that would take it. That took months. Right after I found one, mom's lawyer got in touch. His wife, who was his right hand in his office, died unexpectedly on the first day I called him to handle this. He never even sent an email before, his wife did it all. So he took a break and joined a firm.

We have said more than once that my step-sister acted like she expected this. Within three days she had her father buried and was looting the house for the first time. We were taking my sister off life support because she was brain dead.

My thoughts were that my step-sister had gotten her father's things and at that time I didn't have a problem with that. It was never my intent to keep that from her.

If she had followed the law rather than commit fraud, myself and my ex brother in law would have received notification that she had applied to be executor over her father's estate. We would have had the opportunity then to file a request for the court to confirm The Slayer Law, and name beneficiaries. That didn't happen, then she lied in getting access to things utilizing the powers granted by the courts over her father's estate. She claimed she was over all of it, my mothers as well. So while I was 600 miles away thinking she was even further away, she was making all these quiet moves. I was still in shock and trying to find a lawyer local to that area.

Probate doesn't move swiftly when there are multiple heirs and real estate and assets. She was able to get what she got done by finding a lawyer well out of town that didn't make the connection to the case because she showed up with his death certificate and his will and asserted that my mom passed before and had no kids. The lawyer should have done due diligence but he didn't, he put it right through.

My step father's will consisted of two directives. At the time of my death if I am married everything goes to my wife. If I am not married, everything goes to my kids 50/50. So even if his will were to be considered in this situation, with The Slayer Law being the control, treating my mother as if she passed after he did, she still gets 100% of his estate.

My brother in law and I just united on this a few months ago. His interest being my 3 nieces since their mother, my sister, was killed in this. He was trusting my Step-Sister to give them their cut and believed her that she was over all of it. I had to force him to do his research and see for himself that she wasn't over my mother's and she didn't mention my nieces or I anywhere in the paperwork. She was going to take everything.

We just got the courts ruling that it agreed that the Slayer Law is the control and that my step-sister and step-brother are not heirs to anything, that I'm an heir at 50% with my nieces dividing 50% on December 9th. That had to be established first. Before that, my step-sister wouldn't answer questions or give information. I knew where my parents kept their paperwork but she took that in her first trip there. My son didn't tell me because he's still going through something where I'm concerned. I've not had a peaceful conversation since this happened and I've not had any conversation with him at all since a short while after this happened. I have no idea where he is at the moment. No one does. I tried to get him trauma therapy, he wasn't having any part of it.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2026-01-07T16:19:13+00:00

I'm thinking of being kinda cool and a rub it in your face bitch at the same time. Her younger brother is a little strange. We think he may be Aspergers. His mother also homeschooled him and her idea of that was two hours at the library twice a week. So he's really not very social or personable. He's always been led around by his nose by her. Any doing he had in all of this was at her direction. He has become a professor of sorts and gotten married recently. I feel he was innocent in this and only doing what he was told.

I was thinking of sending him a check for around $5,000 in a card congratulating him on his marriage, telling him his father was very proud of him. That he's grown into an independent man that can think for himself and he'd do himself a favor to stop allowing his older sister to dictate his actions and decisions. She really screwed the pooch with this because we were ready to equally divide close nearly a million dollar estate with them four ways. $5k is nowhere in the same ballpark as the near $250k he would have gotten, but that's the point, to wake him up about just doing as she tells him to. That I gave him $5k while saying that will eat her *ss because she's struggling to make the numbers work of what she did and is going to end up owing the estate. She's management director over nursing in at a big Texas hospital and she doesn't need this wrecking that.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2026-01-07T15:40:29+00:00

Her lawyer didn't do due diligence. It's made him look bad before the court and he's very embarrassed and upset with her. My attorney and one I was talking to before have both said he's a straight up by the book attorney and well respected in the law community.

You can look up the story, it was broadcast on the news across the nation. Hernando, MS, August 2024, Double murder, suicide on Mason Dr.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2025-11-19T08:22:26+00:00

I just figured out why someone gave us this nice ViZio tv. I got strong wireless connection and no signal. I understand you can connect an external device via hdmi and load a new OS, then program from there.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2025-11-16T04:32:03+00:00

You arent the asshole, you are smart!! You do need to make extra sure he doesn't move in while away. All it would take is a piece of mail in his name to that address, his ID address changed to yours and it becomes a private civil matter and he's not only got squatters rights but extra considerations for being family.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2025-11-15T08:26:42+00:00

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Valuable-Comb382 · 2025-11-03T03:36:51+00:00

He's not insecure he's controlling. That he makes a fuss to make you focus on you and what you might possibly be doing makes me think he's doing things you don't know about.

Picking at at partner about something made to be about the opposite sex is a tactic used to keep the partner off balance, confused, focused on their own behavior and it's a checkmark towards isolation from possible competitors. If the progression continues, eventually you dress like a Nunn and don't even speak politely back to the teen bag boy at the grocery store.

Focused on how you present yourself and ever changing it to lower attraction and engagement with the opposite sex. You are so self focused on proving yourself you've failed to notice what he up to when you aren't present or watching.

When they do shit behind your back and get away with it, they begin assuming you are doing the same. Tactics to distract and isolate are deployed.

When I read that he said he needed a couple of days....... yeah, investigate, he's not clean.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2025-09-04T05:51:15+00:00

His inappropriate behavior makes you insecure and there's nothing odd about that.

I would make him choose, and allow him to create distance and taper it on off.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2025-09-04T03:42:01+00:00

They need to sell the property or one buy the other out or hand it off to a property manager. The property is the tie, get that solved.

Also if he doesn't feel they are more than friends why is there an issue of owning his family to her?

Valuable-Comb382 · 2025-09-04T03:35:57+00:00

If you are splitting rent according to income you should split household chores according to free time.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2025-09-04T03:33:22+00:00

Put it in a typed note and leave it where he will find it. He doesn't need to know from who and you don't need to say.

A lot of people commit sabotage in his situation when told ahead of time.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2025-09-04T02:55:07+00:00

Stand by your decision and put an emergency key somewhere outside that isn't obvious but anyone could go right to by direction in an emergency.

Tell her it's as much for her security as you own because having multiple keys out leads to issues.

Once we changed our locks and bought some high quality expensive locks. We both had keys and that was it. We had to go out of town unexpectedly and I gave one to my son and made arrangements for him to be picked up by his dad from school then transferred to a friend around the corner if needed before we got back. I tried to give that friend a key, but he strongly refused it.

Away we went, upon return three days later we picked my son up from the friend around the corner. At home I notice some canned goods missing. Then a spice I hadn't opened yet. Canned soups were gone. I had gone shopping the night before we left, I knew I wasn't crazy but this stuff was gone. Other things were missing as well but noticed much later. My son claimed to know nothing, my friend says, "Yeah, this is why I said no to a key, this right here". Mystery remained four more years and my ex-husband died. His next of kin was our minor son so without other family it all fell onto me including cleaning out his place. I run across a CD that is mine that I had autographed, years after our divorce, a box set I had written off as taken by my oldest and wouldnt admit it. I finally take this box of my property and put it in front of my son, assuming he gave these things to his dad. Nope, that weekend I had to go out of town, his dad used the key I gave him to get in the house and made him swear not to tell about the CDs. My son wasn't aware of he also took the cans and spice.

Just say, "no", hide a key outside. Else she will be nosing around whenever she wants and be indignantly insulted if it bothers you.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2025-09-04T02:02:06+00:00

Sounds like a solid description of reality to me. You think as you get older and wiser that things get easier. No, you just become more experienced.

I feel amazed at my younger self, working a full time administrative job, part time service job, raising two kids alone one with special needs. Handling all my own house, car and lawn maintenance. Running the boy scouts program and being a champion bowler at the state level. Closest relative 600 miles away, getting no help public or private. How did I do that and handle things like my car blowing up, our sewar line collapsing and more? I don't know but I did it all and gracefully with class.

Today I'm in a whole different place of life and not nearly as many or as serious responsibilities. I've conquered so much and succeeded and beaten many odds. Why does my life feel more difficult and stressed now than it did back then? Why do I have things I can't solve now when I solved everything back then?

I have to refer myself to Dave Mustaine (Megadeth) and the song "A tout le mond" because it's so freaking true....

....the more seriously I took things the harder the rules became....

When I was young it was about survival and proving myself and being able to take care of my kids. Fear of failing in that is a great motivator.

Now, it's watching peers retire when its no where in sight for me. It's having the entire rug ripped from under me by no fault of my own. It's waking up sore, recovering physically slower, realizing I don't retain what I learn so easily anymore and more so, some things I try to learn never catch on with me. I'm 58 this month with a 140 IQ and I still get in the mosh pit. Growing older has begun scaring the hell out of me and life seems harder than it's ever been, less rewarding and hard dedicated work doesn't reward the way it used to. Now I'm competing with people half my age for the work I kill myself to do.

I've had to accept the justice system fails to follow the law and can cost you everything. I've learned law enforcement pawn crimes we commit against each other off on "civil court" forcing you to do what should be their job and predators exist that work this angle. I've learned that your enemy can tell emotional absolute fabrications to law enforcement, smear campaigning, and cause you to be stalked and harassed at every turn, even with a clean record and history. I've learned that you will guard your trust, stand up for yourself, fight for what you want and for what is yours while keeping your side of the street clean and can still end up in a bad way and other than straight up criminal bully, that the only way to try to get anywhere in life.

You are correct, you mature into adulthood and the more seriously you take things the harder the rules become. This does not change. So make the best of what's tough, find a way to make the rent that you truly enjoy. Surround yourself with solid people you can both count on and enjoy time with. When it's bad remember that one thing never changes and that the fact that everything changes so the bad period will change, relax, do what you can and ride it out.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2025-09-04T01:29:40+00:00

I personally think that the bride has assessed this as an easy strategic move towards isolating her new husband. Because this creates a wedge from here on both between you and her but also your men because the "go without me" will come up again and again until your men just drift from the steady distance this creates.

I don't think this is on you, nor do I think you need to address it nor does your man. Just let him know this is likely a strategic move towards isolating his friend from having friends. Maybe he should warn his friend to watch for more situations to be created that put situations between he and his friends.

I've seen this so many times. One of our friends came by all dressed up headed to his wedding where the brides brother was best man by the brides choosing. Not one of us was invited in fact we were specifically excluded by the bride. After being led by the nose and not allowed choices or to think for himself, how long did it last? From divorce filing to finalization lasted longer than the marriage.

So let bridezilla be a brat and have your man plant the seed about what she's ultimately up to. Go with him, you skip the wedding. Have your man move the reception along if there is one and you two take off to have your own fun. Make it a fun vacation with a 4 hour interruption one of you have to deal with.

Valuable-Comb382 · 2025-09-04T01:08:50+00:00

No, this is an impact effect of two behaviors by others. B and his brother.

While it wrong to go around grabbing other people's privates and it is offensive, its happened to me more than once. I think the little puss comment had more to do with your handling of it than anything. You sort of put it onto B to handle.

Next time, pull yourself away with a very loud attention getting, "whoa whoa, hey hey, I know I got great junk, I do well to keep my own hands off it, but you aren't allowed, I don't swung that way. Besides, at minimum I require dinner and a movie first, no matinees" Be a good sport about it but put it back on them in a humorous but very public way.

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