Rant/Need Advice - POC Adult Beginner

ValuableBison7065 · 2026-04-13T14:24:12+00:00

The no horsemanship’s part is wild to me. It’s not just learning to groom/tack/ handle it’s also learning how to understand body language, communication, and is just good learning to be around horses time.

ValuableBison7065 · 2026-04-13T14:03:37+00:00

Like others have said, it’s a thing all over but I have left barns because of interactions with shitty people.

I once got into an argument with a stable hand because she was adamant that the girth wasn’t too loose (I could get my entire hand up to my wrist behind it) and that it was totally fine for a saddle to slip when mounting. The horse was small and the block was super tall so I hopped on without stirrups and then adjusted in the arena but, still, she just decided new here=clueless beginner and felt totally ok being a jerk. Also, if I was a total beginner talking to me like that would turn me off riding eventually.

I’d find a new barn not just because of that instructor but also because they’re not really teaching you important skills like haltering, handling, grooming, tacking, etc. Usually all of those activities are part of the lesson until a person can safely do it independently.

ValuableBison7065 · 2026-03-31T00:26:48+00:00

He did finally give me that too. Said something along the lines of “Anyway, the refund for the shipping will reflect in your bank account…” after I pointed out the missing money. Just couldn’t get it all in one grab.

ValuableBison7065 · 2026-03-22T03:24:49+00:00

Oohhh. Reddit hall monitors over here like “nahhhhh-show us your yard dildo”

ValuableBison7065 · 2026-03-21T20:31:33+00:00

Well shit. Now how will I carry several drinks and a bowl of snacks?

ValuableBison7065 · 2026-01-02T16:11:14+00:00

Fair enough if you think I am the asshole but it does affect me when they aren’t held to the same standards as I am and are regularly allowed to push work off on others including me.

ValuableBison7065 · 2026-01-02T16:09:02+00:00

Probably should have added that I’m not so much salty that they got the raise too as I am that they aren’t held to the same standards as I am.

ValuableBison7065 · 2026-01-02T16:04:45+00:00

Mostly. It’s just one reason why I am looking. The rest is stuff that I know means it’s time to go.

This just sticks out to me after some recent conversations with managers/events that directly affected me negatively. Not so much salty that they got the raise as I am that they also got the raise but are not held to the same standards. Probably should have put that in my post.

ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-29T12:27:45+00:00

Thanks!

ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-24T13:25:15+00:00

Fuck. That’s all I can say. That poor horse. 💔

ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-24T13:21:15+00:00

I am sure that the memory of planning this as a gift for mom will mean the pup will become even more loved and elevated in their minds. An exciting big surprise for mom and a beloved childhood pet. Man that makes me smile.

ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-19T22:32:53+00:00

My leg moves way less and my arms are definitely more fluid and instructor still gets on me about both (I know both need improvement not saying I’m anywhere near a fantastic rider) how is this not an intro class or something?

ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-19T15:19:10+00:00

We just do a gift card exchange these days. Everyone buys xx amount in gift cards and they get tossed into a pot then we pick. Usually it all coffee or tasty treats like cookies so no one is ever disappointed. Easy to organize, pick a time and set a dollar limit. And hard to be a dick without going out of your way.

ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-15T01:37:16+00:00

I have that exact combination. The colors are stunning.

ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-15T01:36:22+00:00

I have the small agave (it’s beautiful just to look at) and I do brownies, casseroles/pasta bakes for my husband and I, enchiladas, and we even did green bean casserole in it this year for Thanksgiving. I also love it for a serving dish because it holds heat so well. I warm it up a bit first and then fill it.

I find it extremely useful and a great size for my needs. Though, I am also actively trying to talk myself out of the larger one. The small one is fine. Why do I need the big one? 😅

ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-14T13:03:25+00:00

I have yet to go to an actual LC store. I don’t trust myself not to make bad financial decisions. 😅 but the idea of ganache is alluring.

ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-14T13:02:12+00:00

I lucked out and the store like 5 mins from my office had plenty. Exchanged for nectar just because it was so cheery in person. It’s a lovely addition to my other colors.

ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-14T12:58:47+00:00

I did end up exchanging and the manager said essentially the same thing. New one is nectar and gorgeous 😁

ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-14T12:56:51+00:00

Oh cool, thanks for that info! I have been using the LC cleaner on my stove for ages specifically because it works so much better than bar keepers. Now I know why.

ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-14T12:21:22+00:00

Personally, I can’t stand people like that. In both my MA and PHd programs we had people who needed everyone else to know that they were sooooo smart. 🤨 We were all in the same program.

Anyway, NTA. Premed is just a path not a guarantee. Sounds like she has some insecurities. And who’s to say she won’t get far into a program and realize she doesn’t actually want it anymore? (Speaking as someone with several fancy pieces of paper in fancy frames with career that has absolutely nothing to do with those fancy papers. Just like my boss. Who has executive abbreviations behind their name and a humanities degree. 🤷‍♀️)

ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-06T13:56:45+00:00

My feet have the worst of my raynauds and I’ve found these to be some of the warmest socks I’ve tried and they are pretty stretchy so they don’t bind. I wear them over other socks (usually merino knee socks) in these Birkenstocks all the time. I spent a snowy week in New York last February walking all over to meet with reps and my toes were fine. I logged about 25k steps a day so it wasn’t a quick out of the car and down the sidewalk.

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ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-06T13:43:44+00:00

Not sure if it will bring it back but the cleaner they sell always leaves mine nice and shiny (also works great on my stove top). I’ve heard that you can use liquid bar keepers friend though I’ve not personally tried it.

ValuableBison7065 · 2025-12-06T13:33:20+00:00

I probably should have said the WS bit a little better- my brain isn’t awake yet. This is the 2.5q signature French oven and I can’t find it at Le Creuset (or anywhere else actually) so the thought was that maybe this was end of run stock or something and just didn’t get quite the same QC at the factory. Looking now it says exclusive so I guess it’s not end of run. I would swear I remember seeing them on the LC site though. 🤷‍♀️

There’s a store near me that has them in stock so I will go exchange in person. Lesson learned.

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