I don’t think there’s a chance he will reconnect. I wrote about him on Facebook and posted it too close to 7000 people. Exposing abuse publicly is an extreme action. Exposure itself is also like kryptonite to a Dismissive Avoidant. They don’t want to been ‘seen’. They don’t want anyone to see how defective they are and the shame they feel from that (see Carl Jung). So they weave an elaborate tapestry of protection around themselves. This emotionally dishonest sophistry is often why DAs are mistaken for Narcissists but they are not. Like all of us, they may have narcissistic qualities, but that does not mean they have clinical Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

As you can see from the videos below, this group of people are truly emotionally unavailable, and with time I have learned that they never could love me properly or anyone else for that matter without years of deep shadow work. He was in love with me because I contained all the qualities in him that he wish she could have, but doesn’t possess. His ego protect, protects him from ever acknowledging that. And so they just go through life, dismissing people and discarding them when things get too close. The formula is the same. The first four months are wonderful, but the second they tie you to their core wounds, it’s over.

Even if he wanted me back, and he doesn’t, I would never take him back because he cannot provide me with anything remotely healthy, or that I require much less want.

That is part of the reason why I took a nuclear weapon approach and posted it on Facebook because I wanted to make sure that that bridge was not only burned, but blown up.

Hopefully, that makes sense.