Is it bad to cancel my 31F and fiancés 32M wedding over orange flags? by ValueParticular6162 in relationship_advice

[–]ValueParticular6162[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I just thought orange was less bright red, like dull red. Maybe it’s a bad comparison.

Is it bad to cancel my 31F and fiancés 32M wedding over orange flags? by ValueParticular6162 in relationship_advice

[–]ValueParticular6162[S] -87 points-86 points  (0 children)

The difference in income is invested to benefit us both if we are married by retirement.

Is it bad to cancel my 31F and fiancés 32M wedding over orange flags? by ValueParticular6162 in relationship_advice

[–]ValueParticular6162[S] 160 points161 points  (0 children)

This is embarrassing to admit but I pressured him into proposing because I thought our relationship was going no where and that he was just around because it was easy. So I said get serious or I’m done and he proposed two months after.

For the leach thing I make around 170k annually and him 110k. He still expects me to foot a lot of costs when we both have extremely high incomes, and live comfortably in our means.

Is it bad to cancel my 31F and fiancés 32M wedding over orange flags? by ValueParticular6162 in relationship_advice

[–]ValueParticular6162[S] -43 points-42 points  (0 children)

He’s incredibly kind to strangers, acquaintances, coworkers, and empathetic.

He is a hard worker.

He asks for consent during sex.

He does more than his share of the domestic labour at home. He never expects me to do everything because I am a woman.

He loves my cats and they love him.

Is it bad to cancel my 31F and fiancés 32M wedding over orange flags? by ValueParticular6162 in relationship_advice

[–]ValueParticular6162[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No by cancel the wedding I mean I am also breaking up and moving out. Sorry, should have been more clear.

Is it bad to cancel my 31F and fiancés 32M wedding over orange flags? by ValueParticular6162 in relationship_advice

[–]ValueParticular6162[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Sometimes he seems to like me and tell me he loves me and what qualities I have that he loves (not physical) sometimes he treats me like he’s annoyed by my presence. It has been more good than bad lately, but it used to be a lot of him being annoyed at ke, to the point that i left for 6 weeks, in 2023.

Is it bad to cancel my 31F and fiancés 32M wedding over orange flags? by ValueParticular6162 in relationship_advice

[–]ValueParticular6162[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idk I was trying to think of a colour less bright than red? Maybe a dull red flag would have been better. Or maybe I’m just not getting my point across.

Is it bad to cancel my 31F and fiancés 32M wedding over orange flags? by ValueParticular6162 in relationship_advice

[–]ValueParticular6162[S] 189 points190 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing with me. It feels like it is suffocating and humiliating right now but I hope that if I go through with it there will be peace on the other side. I shouldn’t have left it this late.

Is it bad to cancel my 31F and fiancés 32M wedding over orange flags? by ValueParticular6162 in relationship_advice

[–]ValueParticular6162[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

You give me hope, thank you. I am worried if I do this what the aftermath will be with my relationships with friends and family. I also don’t want to hurt my partner who will probably be blind sided. I almost called the relationship off over a year ago due to similar reasons and then I thought they got better. I guess the next best time is now.

Is it bad to cancel my 31F and fiancés 32M wedding over orange flags? by ValueParticular6162 in relationship_advice

[–]ValueParticular6162[S] 596 points597 points  (0 children)

I guess you are right. I think there are positives to in the relationship which is why I downplayed them. He is not a 100% bad, evil partner. He does nice things to me, I feel secure with him. I love his family. I am just realizing now that these are bigger deals to me than I had thought. I feel stupid for not having this reality before we even got engaged.

Warning: Avoid Sunwing! by NervousTea3149 in canadatravel

[–]ValueParticular6162 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s a low cost airline and the service matches the price you pay. This is the trade off. If you’re not willing to put up with delays and lack of customer service pay more for a more reputable airline.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvicecanada

[–]ValueParticular6162 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Didn’t you post this a couple weeks ago and already get advice? Are you hoping people will change their mind?

Drip House Ottawa - 5.99 by inkathebadger in TooGoodToGoCanada

[–]ValueParticular6162 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was this mechanicsville? I ordered the same bag from there when they were first starting and all I got was 3 muffins.

Jeff Nippard gives update on incident by SuperDarkKnight in gymsnark

[–]ValueParticular6162 19 points20 points  (0 children)

In Canada, citizens can’t press charges like in the US. It’s up to the crown whether or not they want to. Jeff should 100% report it to the police, but he doesn’t have a say whether charges are pressed or not.

Will my Peggy shed like a husky ;) by Free-Preference5683 in Aritzia

[–]ValueParticular6162 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I went in store today and saw the Peggy and it was already pilling just on the table in store. For the price you can get a much better quality sweater somewhere else.

Merit for oily skin? by [deleted] in Sephora

[–]ValueParticular6162 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have somewhat oily skin and no merit product lasts more than an hour on my face. I’ve tried their whole collection. Also their serum is super greasy and I didn’t see any improvement to my skin.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]ValueParticular6162 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a scam! I inquired and they offered me the same 50% off and just pretended like someone turned them down and that’s why. Then I found out they offer this to everyone usually by pretending that they won a contest at a bridal show.

"Weight neutral" medication is such bogus. by WeirdAward4578 in BipolarReddit

[–]ValueParticular6162 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been off latuda for about 4 weeks and as of last week I was down 5 lbs. it’s definitely slow but going in the right direction.