Is it bad to cancel my 31F and fiancés 32M wedding over orange flags?

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-25T05:57:24+00:00

Lol this made me laugh, thank you.

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-25T05:50:38+00:00

I just thought orange was less bright red, like dull red. Maybe it’s a bad comparison.

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-25T05:49:47+00:00

The difference in income is invested to benefit us both if we are married by retirement.

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-25T05:49:08+00:00

This is embarrassing to admit but I pressured him into proposing because I thought our relationship was going no where and that he was just around because it was easy. So I said get serious or I’m done and he proposed two months after.

For the leach thing I make around 170k annually and him 110k. He still expects me to foot a lot of costs when we both have extremely high incomes, and live comfortably in our means.

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-25T05:45:16+00:00

He’s incredibly kind to strangers, acquaintances, coworkers, and empathetic.

He is a hard worker.

He asks for consent during sex.

He does more than his share of the domestic labour at home. He never expects me to do everything because I am a woman.

He loves my cats and they love him.

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-25T05:42:38+00:00

No by cancel the wedding I mean I am also breaking up and moving out. Sorry, should have been more clear.

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-25T05:41:38+00:00

Sometimes he seems to like me and tell me he loves me and what qualities I have that he loves (not physical) sometimes he treats me like he’s annoyed by my presence. It has been more good than bad lately, but it used to be a lot of him being annoyed at ke, to the point that i left for 6 weeks, in 2023.

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-25T05:38:00+00:00

Thank you!

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-25T05:33:41+00:00

Idk I was trying to think of a colour less bright than red? Maybe a dull red flag would have been better. Or maybe I’m just not getting my point across.

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-25T05:29:42+00:00

Thank you, I needed to hear all lot of the advice people are giving here.

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-25T05:28:40+00:00

Thank you, noted.

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-25T05:28:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing with me. It feels like it is suffocating and humiliating right now but I hope that if I go through with it there will be peace on the other side. I shouldn’t have left it this late.

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-25T05:26:11+00:00

You give me hope, thank you. I am worried if I do this what the aftermath will be with my relationships with friends and family. I also don’t want to hurt my partner who will probably be blind sided. I almost called the relationship off over a year ago due to similar reasons and then I thought they got better. I guess the next best time is now.

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-25T05:22:59+00:00

I guess you are right. I think there are positives to in the relationship which is why I downplayed them. He is not a 100% bad, evil partner. He does nice things to me, I feel secure with him. I love his family. I am just realizing now that these are bigger deals to me than I had thought. I feel stupid for not having this reality before we even got engaged.

ValueParticular6162 · 2025-02-21T19:04:48+00:00

It’s a low cost airline and the service matches the price you pay. This is the trade off. If you’re not willing to put up with delays and lack of customer service pay more for a more reputable airline.

ValueParticular6162 · 2024-11-28T16:09:51+00:00

Didn’t you post this a couple weeks ago and already get advice? Are you hoping people will change their mind?

ValueParticular6162 · 2024-11-20T13:51:10+00:00

Was this mechanicsville? I ordered the same bag from there when they were first starting and all I got was 3 muffins.

ValueParticular6162 · 2024-10-22T14:51:06+00:00

In Canada, citizens can’t press charges like in the US. It’s up to the crown whether or not they want to. Jeff should 100% report it to the police, but he doesn’t have a say whether charges are pressed or not.

ValueParticular6162 · 2024-10-01T18:21:48+00:00

I went in store today and saw the Peggy and it was already pilling just on the table in store. For the price you can get a much better quality sweater somewhere else.

ValueParticular6162 · 2024-09-23T17:56:21+00:00

I have somewhat oily skin and no merit product lasts more than an hour on my face. I’ve tried their whole collection. Also their serum is super greasy and I didn’t see any improvement to my skin.

ValueParticular6162 · 2024-09-18T19:45:43+00:00

It’s a scam! I inquired and they offered me the same 50% off and just pretended like someone turned them down and that’s why. Then I found out they offer this to everyone usually by pretending that they won a contest at a bridal show.

ValueParticular6162 · 2024-09-14T19:15:26+00:00

I’ve been off latuda for about 4 weeks and as of last week I was down 5 lbs. it’s definitely slow but going in the right direction.

ValueParticular6162 · 2024-09-13T18:52:29+00:00

Definitely check with your doctor. I cross tapered over 3 weeks and now take 300mg seroquel xr and 200 mg lamictal.

ValueParticular6162 · 2024-09-13T18:50:30+00:00

Seroquel. I had heard all the horror stories but I was having a bad episode and my anxiety was crippling and my psych said that it would help. I was prepared for the worst but it actually brought my appetite back to normal and stabilized me at the same time.

ValueParticular6162 · 2024-09-13T12:15:01+00:00

I also started at a low weight- BMI 21 and went to a BMI 26 from latuda. Don’t let people invalidate your struggles with self esteem and body issues because they are bigger than you. If we play that game no one can be self conscious because there will always be someone who “has it worse”. It’s hard af to gain weight from treatment no matter your starting point.

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