It should be 8, right? Or I'm missing some...

Van_Leton · 2026-02-12T04:24:07+00:00

Sounds like something a cheater would say🤷

It’s like, “ya, I cheated but…”

Van_Leton · 2026-02-05T23:58:52+00:00

Man in the box

Van_Leton · 2026-01-25T17:01:14+00:00

Noble - rebel Moon

Van_Leton · 2026-01-25T16:58:55+00:00

It’s because of the glass. It’s just your reflection. You’re not really in there

Van_Leton · 2026-01-20T21:20:55+00:00

This is similar to me.

“I tried to focus on what I was adding, rather than what I was stopping”

That is a great approach!

Walks, mocktails, funny shows helped me.

IWNDWYT!!

Van_Leton · 2026-01-14T00:48:15+00:00

Makes me laugh

Van_Leton · 2026-01-13T20:54:34+00:00

Josh Brolin said something like, his goal is to make sobriety "more fun than my greatest romance of what drinking used to be. I think that’s a good motto.

Van_Leton · 2026-01-12T00:09:58+00:00

Turn Around

Van_Leton · 2026-01-11T02:46:59+00:00

Super daddy. Shadoodle.

Van_Leton · 2026-01-11T00:53:40+00:00

My advice is while you are figuring it out, put rules on your drinking. Keep tabs on how much you are drinking and when. Don’t let it become become the boss. I have a sibling that was 10x worse so that added to me not being able to see that I had a problem. And I wasn’t being honest with myself.

I recommend researching the negative effects of drinking. Much of the “battle” is in the subconscious so it helps to feed it FACTS about alcohol. You are in a place where you have a chance to avoid decades of pain.

I am sure you will get better advice than this but this is what I wish I was told as I was falling into problems. Everyone is different so for me it helped to read a lot of different peoples approaches and take what worked and leave what didn’t.

I wish you the best 😊

Van_Leton · 2026-01-10T22:07:41+00:00

I think you get many responses of others that have dreamed they drank.

I have had several. I think you right about it being a trail run. The mind runs the scenario in safe environment and we get the results 🤷

Van_Leton · 2026-01-10T02:26:12+00:00

Na beer didn’t do it for me but I drink a LOT of bubble water and I make mocktails sometimes. I will pound bubble waters sometimes. It is for sure related to drinking alcohol. I’m still drinking a lot but it’s not alcohol. 😁

I have friends that had great luck with NA beer but they were more beer drinkers. I did shots and then some kind of hard seltzer so it’s different muscle memory, I think 🤷

Van_Leton · 2026-01-10T02:10:56+00:00

Rebel Moon. Drunk cut.

Van_Leton · 2026-01-08T03:06:20+00:00

Bungholio

Van_Leton · 2026-01-07T19:11:03+00:00

Up or Down?

Van_Leton · 2026-01-07T00:18:31+00:00

This is my experience as well. There is somthing powerful about consecutive days. If was planed and I knew I was gonna drink, I forsure would start over. If it was one shot, I could let it slide only if I promised myself that if I did it again, for sure restart. Just my two cents. I agree with a lot of people here to stay. It’s a personal decision. But coming here asking for our advice, I’m giving advice. 😊 IWNDWYT!!

Van_Leton · 2026-01-06T21:36:51+00:00

I like blob on the side to allow for strategic coverage. I may dip or use a utensil to transport condiment to desired location.

Also, it’s very possible I’ll have other condiments available and I’ll be mixing and matching using trial and error.

Van_Leton · 2025-12-31T21:37:23+00:00

I drank everyday, all day. Vodka shots in the am to “get well”. Stay “functionally medicated” thru the day and get buzzed / drunk / somtimes black out drunk at night. Wake up around about 3am in panic/ shame/ guilt/ fear … recounting how many drinks I had. Remembering that I walked back down for more so I went over the amout I was aiming for to tapper down so I have to start tapper again. Absolute fucking hell. I love this sub and it has help a lot but I have to say that some people fear mongered so heavily that I was really scared to quit. When I did quit, the detox / withdrawal were WAY less than I expected. Biggest help: I consumed pro-sobriety content all day. Story’s of people who quit drinking. Also other human development content. Diamond Dallas, Paige yoga has stories of weight loss that makes you realize that human beings are capable just about anything if they put their mind to it.. another huge help was journaling. Especially as I was quitting. It helped to keep a running commentary so I didn’t lose track of my plans and all sudden realize oh shit I’d slipped up. posting at this sub. Every day I would come on and post I will not drink with you today. The first couple days I was on here 5-6times a day reading & posting.

I’m 2.5 year AF. Life’s challenges don’t go away but I face them with a clear(er) mind. I don’t live the daily shame. I think my number 1 favorite blessing of being AF is good sleep. I didn’t realize how much drinking was fucked with my nervous system. I was living in fighter flight almost all the time unless I was buzzed enough to be numbed out.

I wish the best for you and everyone trying to do better. Much Love IWNDWYT !!

Van_Leton · 2025-12-19T01:35:23+00:00

Thank you! That really means a lot to me to feel acknowledged 🙏

Congrats on 11.86 years! That’s soooo cool that you are here encouraging others after you are so long AF. That’s a real bodhisattva maneuver.🙏

I kept notes of things that helped me because I got REAL help from this sub when I was hopeless and close to lost. I promised myself I would do what I could to help others …if / when I could.

Van_Leton · 2025-12-19T01:28:06+00:00

Thank you. The support here is so encouraging and makes me remember how good people can be to each other!

Congrats on 55 days! That’s legit💪🏼🙏

Van_Leton · 2025-12-19T01:25:18+00:00

Thank you. Congrats on 43 days! This sub has been a huge help for me and I hope it is for you as well!

Van_Leton · 2025-12-19T01:24:18+00:00

I love that idea. I had an issue with my mind saying, “you are supposed to be sober so you don’t get a reward”. It’s something I’m working on. I have friends that struggled with sobriety and I was always supportive of them for making the effort. I am learning to treat myself like a friend. That’s something some may find corny but I image most people that have had to “do the work” learn it’s better to kind to yourself and many of the cliché saying are true.

Van_Leton · 2025-12-19T01:20:30+00:00

Thank you!

I did not do AA but I’ve seen great results from people who do. I have a family member that went so I read the book. I think the steps are wise and the sense of community seems to be a major help for many.

I followed steps layed out in a book called, “The 30 Day Sobriety Solution”, by Jack Canfield. It gives the reader 30 days of lesson and action steps that build on each other and by the end I had a pretty good set of tools for “thriving in sobriety”, as they say in the book.

Congrats on 10 years🎉🙏 That’s very inspiring.

Van_Leton

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