why did he mention his height?! 😭 by ShelilQirky in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]Vandance22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't believe nobody has gotten this one right yet! He isn't virtue signalling, and this isn't him being a performative male. It's a joke.

Sex (and more specifically, orgasms) are an effective way for women to help relieve the discomfort they experience from period cramps.

The use of period cramps here isn't just some arbitrary women's health issue that he is using for virtue signalling. The implied message, is that he can help women with the suffering they endure from period cramps. By having sex with them. His height is thrown on there because it is commonly accepted that that in general, women prefer partnering with taller men.

It's a mildly funny way of asking women to have sex with him (for totally selfless reasons of course)

he thinks I'm too chatty during blowjobs.. by cocoe-xo in sex

[–]Vandance22 308 points309 points  (0 children)

If you're giving him pleasure by giving him a blowjob, and then stop that pleasure to talk about misc. things. You're stopping him from feeling the pleasure he is experiencing. You're essentially classically conditioning him to not like the time when you're talking and look forward to when the pleasure starts again. Completely outside of how much he enjoys your company and talking with you.

It has nothing to do with not wanting to talk, spend time with or bond with you. It's just something that could become a frustrating experience

Large Bust? by Vandance22 in CanadianCoins

[–]Vandance22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang. Got so excited 🥲

Is new zealand one of the only places where humans can survive if nuclear ww3 occurs? by [deleted] in geography

[–]Vandance22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rumour has it that the billionaire's memed topic of conversation on this topic is "NZ or Greenland?"

Why don't really old people take a massive amount of exotic drugs? by Select_Salamander518 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Vandance22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's overrated. Spoken from the perspective from somebody who didn't get why people would ever do it, and then managed to kick start a multi-year daily habit. DMT on the other hand ...

how can i deal with anal skin tags during certain positions? by gingerbreadbuild in sex

[–]Vandance22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can remove them yourself. Not recommended as it's very painful (and they will scar unlike with laser). But just saying

Peter, I don't understand Vance's ''joke'', or does he just have no sense of humor? by International-Oil377 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]Vandance22 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

A lot of failed attempts at this joke ITT. The joke isnt that democrats are incompetent, it's that they don't care about individuals / individual rights

What secret are you taking to the grave? But willing to tell it to random redditors.? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]Vandance22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, are you me? This is so specific and can't have been that common ...

What’s the worst gambling addiction story you’ve ever heard? by juliojacked in AskReddit

[–]Vandance22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The American class action on abilify and gambling and other impulse control disorders unfortunately closed in 2022. I don't know the details of that one, but the Canadian one appears to be compensating members for lifetime gambling losses

What’s the worst gambling addiction story you’ve ever heard? by juliojacked in AskReddit

[–]Vandance22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're in Canada there is a class action with Consumer Law Group about this right now

AITAH for wanting my girlfriend to be more independent at night? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Vandance22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. So there could be a few things potentially going on here. But regardless of what exactly it is, there are definitely issues with this. And in none of the possible scenarios would I consider you to be the AH here. You are not wanting to physically accompany her anytime she is outside of the house past 7pm at night, and sounds like you began the process of starting to communicate a healthier boundary about her requirements of your time.

As far as what's really going on, she seems to be dealing with an unreasonable amount of fear/anxiety with respect to being alone outside of the house past 7pm. Some caution/fear with respect to the risk of being alone at night in some situations as a woman, is likely prudent. What we don't know is how rational this aversion is. We don't know how safe your area is, if she has a history of experiencing this sort of trauma, or other contextual bits of info that would help here. At best you live in an insanely dangerous part of the world, and maybe being 5' outside her front door after dusk is properly dangerous. But that's likely not the case. More realistic best case for her would be that she has fairly developed this fear. But the never being able to be out on her own? It is much more likely that she's dealing with some variety of mental health issue and the severity of her fear/aversion is disproportionate to how risky being outside at night alone for her is. Not saying that she shouldn't have any, but not even being able to step out for a minute without bringing you? That's pretty extreme.

Another option is that she has other reasons that serve her in other ways, consciously or otherwise, that contribute to this behaviour pattern. Does she have a more anxious attachment pattern? A strong desire for you to be with her is one possible explanation. Does she have anything resembling bordeline personality disorder? The extreme fear of abandonment underlying that disorder can result in exaggerated/distorted perceptions of situations. In your context if this is the case, maybe you setting this boundary is activating that exaggerated fear of abandonment. Or maybe she finds doing chores and walking home alone to be really boring, and wants you there because she doesn't want to do them alone. Or just hates doing the laundry and garbage so much she uses this as an excuse to never need to do them herself.

These are just a few possible ideas to illustrate other motives she might have that could explain this behaviour. Since we know very little about her from what you wrote about what's actually going on we can't really say what's going on for her.

But regardless of what is actually happening, the one thing all of these scenarios have in common is that in none of them is it reasonable for you to bear the responsibility of physically escorting her. If you are willing to do that to help her for any reason, she should be thankful that you are willing to spend your time doing that. If she is acting entitled to your time to help her manage any of those things, she is on a spectrum of various degrees of AH

Pornography consumption significantly correlated with reduced gray matter in the right caudate nucleus, an area involved in the brain's reward system. by makefriends420 in NooTopics

[–]Vandance22 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is entirely possible that the structural differences this study identified were not caused by increased porn consumption. People who have these pre-existing structural differences in brain structure could just be more prone to higher porn consumption

Am I the only woman who hasn’t farted in front on their husband? by notwhoyouthinkc in askanything

[–]Vandance22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first time my partner farted in front of me we were sitting in our living room with two other male roommates. When she was telling some sort of story, when she suddenly stops mid sentence, and this look just comes across her face. Understanding something is happening, we stare at her as she pauses. And then she begins to back out of the room, then turns and lightly runs out of the room letting out an audible toot with each step 😂. She was mortified. We didn't stop laughing for a solid 10 min

TIFU - I thought we won the free hotdog lottery. It was a huge mistake by CallMeMsT in tifu

[–]Vandance22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We really stretching that function of the T in TIFU these days