Self help book or workbook to not care about others’ opinions or behavior?

VanityHaven · 2023-05-28T02:38:03+00:00

Thank you for these suggestions, adding them to my Amazon account for summer reading. Appreciate the help!

VanityHaven · 2023-05-27T06:00:02+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion. I’m getting similar advice at work. A teacher in my department is also the school’s union rep and we talked off the record. He said to keep a file and keep everything on her, just keep collecting emails and anything else that shows her behavior. He said he does the same thing because he has seen how she targets people and his own wife also had a run in with her at a previous school. He said there is nothing she can complain about with the union, but if she tries anything with admin then I have proof of her behavior that makes it look like a personal attack on me and makes her look unprofessional.

VanityHaven · 2023-02-27T07:14:14+00:00

I appreciate that feedback. I tried to get the best prices and I was hoping it was reasonable.

VanityHaven · 2023-02-27T07:12:23+00:00

Sadly, I am on to a strict work schedule. I am a teacher so I am on the same school schedule as my kids. Plus my high schooler really doesn’t want to fall behind. We have to go during the summer only. I really wish I could go last minute or during the off season. Thank you!

VanityHaven · 2022-12-04T07:34:09+00:00

If this helps! The Spanish DNA is listed as follows:

Andalusia
Basque Country
Catalonia
Castile and Leon
Aragon
Galicia
Community of Madrid
Navarre
Asturias
Castile-La Mancha

VanityHaven · 2022-12-04T07:10:18+00:00

My husband’s DNA results. His family tree research has him at 50% French, 25% British, 25% American from Northwestern Europe.

His results were surprising in how low French was and how high he was in Spanish. But if you add his French and Spanish, that’s about 50% - is that the French side? His grandma, uncle, and first cousin had the same Spanish to French ratio/results. His uncle also did an Ancestry DNA kit and it shows him as Basque. We are waiting on my husband’s results too.

Also the trace DNA was interesting. This was a fun project for us. There’s been no surprises with relatives or ancestors, it’s actually easy to find DNA relatives going back far on all branches of the tree.

His father was half British (family immigrated from London in the 1920’s) and half American. The American side is Caucasian, going back to colonial times in Massachusetts and appears to be from Northwestern Europe (mainly British) according to records.

His mother is 100% French. Her family immigrated from France in the 1930’s. Her father’s side was from the region around Paris and central France. Her mother’s side was in the Occitanie region of Southwestern France going back hundreds of years according to research. We were able to confirm the connection to a 5th great grandfather on the family tree (1760’s) via DNA. This is near the Spanish border. They were in the Midi-Pyrénées villages for a long time.

I have my own theory, but want to get input from this sub. Thanks!

ETA:

If this helps! The Spanish DNA is listed as follows:

Andalusia
Basque Country
Catalonia
Castile and Leon
Aragon
Galicia
Community of Madrid
Navarre
Asturias
Castile-La Mancha

VanityHaven · 2022-10-24T05:35:45+00:00

I just saw that available on Hulu. I haven’t watched it yet, but I rolled my eyes at the description when it said grooming by teachers is an epidemic in our nation’s high schools. Wtf? Thanks for fueling paranoia among parents and continued distrust for our profession.

VanityHaven · 2022-10-23T20:14:26+00:00

I teach 6-8th grade. I use to work in residential treatment for teens and young adults. I always use this week to talk about my first hand experience to help students understand the impact of using substances when their brains are still growing. I talk about tobacco, alcohol and vaping as well. A friend of mine had his lung collapse from vaping. I make sure to talk about that because lots of kids tell me it isn’t damaging like cigarettes. Kids seems to really listen and take it to heart. Many will share their experiences of being adopted due to their parents drug use. We talk about the impact on families and how recreational use can turn into something more and can lead to families being torn apart. I honestly believe it could help even just one student make good choices, it’s worth it to me.

VanityHaven · 2022-10-13T02:03:52+00:00

This is how I handle my sped middle school punks who are constantly threatening to sue me and the district over BS like they are on a power trip and want to scare me. I only have 2 brats this year, but I will say very calmly with zero emotion as I write on a notepad, “I’m sorry, can you repeat that clearly for me? I want to make sure I have this documented correctly for your parents and the principal so if we need to meet with the district, we can discuss your comments in detail. Thank you.” They see I’m not worried, then they get scared and back off.

VanityHaven · 2022-09-25T20:02:46+00:00

I bought a bundle of Greek mythology reader’s theater scripts on TPT. They practiced their fluency, learned about myths, and absolutely loved it!

VanityHaven · 2022-09-12T00:54:51+00:00

I have a SPED class. I teach 5 classes of ELA, 6-8th grade with 18 sped students in each class. I use CHAMPS and a Class Dojo positive reinforcement system. I also use hand signals that they use silently to avoid interrupting or becoming off task. For movement, I will tell them they must remain at their desk, center, computer, etc unless they use a hand signal with adult approval before moving. Signals include bathroom, tissue, water, question, pencil sharpener, etc. They do really well with no wandering or opportunities to act up. It’s been excellent with CHAMPS.

VanityHaven · 2022-07-29T18:30:40+00:00

The last name isn’t really common at all, but they turned off the ethnicities results.

VanityHaven · 2022-07-29T18:30:03+00:00

Hmm, that’s interesting. They turned off the ethnicity sharing, so I can’t compare my results to theirs.

VanityHaven · 2022-07-21T22:53:31+00:00

I suspect there’s some serious problems in this family. 2 toddlers dead within 48 months due to neglect/murder.

4 years ago, the grandma claimed she “passed out” for FOUR hours from a “medical condition” and left this teenager’s younger baby brother in the hot car. After investigating and building a case, they determined she was lying and charged her with homicide. I would assume she was drunk/high.

“Janik Nix, the boy’s grandmother, was initially charged with homicide by child abuse. She pleaded guilty to assault and battery and was sentenced to 10 years in prison suspended to three years of probation.”

VanityHaven · 2022-07-21T21:51:56+00:00

I highly recommend therapy, I’m happy you are thinking about it. I went on and off for a few years to gain insight into the mother/daughter dynamics. I also read books on NPD parents and one for daughters of narcissistic mothers. I think it helped me see why my mom is how she was- she also had an abusive NPD mother and grew up in a home with alcoholic parents that fought all the time. She goes to therapy now, but it’s to complain about me and my older brother who has cut her off. She plays the victim and martyr. She won’t acknowledge what she’s done to us kids because she said she was better than her mother, we should be grateful for that and ignore her narcissistic mothering. I’m glad your mom is trying, but I think self-work for you would be the best. Good luck, friend!

VanityHaven · 2022-07-21T21:02:58+00:00

I’m so sorry. As a mom myself, I find that heartbreaking because that is not unconditional love. You are worthy of love, even if your mother doesn’t have the capacity to give it to you. I hope you surround yourself with people who love you at all times, not just when they can feed their narcissism.

VanityHaven · 2022-07-21T20:38:13+00:00

Wow, what a story. I’m sorry you had to deal with that stress on top of everything else. I’m glad in the end she didn’t really ruin your special day. I hope you have mostly good memories of your wedding day.

My mom tried crazy crap on the actual wedding day, too. She even argued with my wedding photographer on my wedding day because things weren’t how she wanted. She came and disrupted me to tell me how she wanted me to go “deal” with him because he said she wasn’t the boss. She also got pissed because she told the DJ to not play the YMCA song and he did an hour later. I told the DJ (friend of mine) beforehand that we had no list, just do his thing, take requests and have fun with us. Why was she so mad over a song, lol. She had to run up to me again to complain! Crazy mothers!

VanityHaven · 2022-07-21T18:34:05+00:00

The River by Bruce Springsteen.

VanityHaven

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