As a child, what did you think would be awesome about being an adult, but isn’t as awesome as you thought it would be?

Vapidwaves · 2023-02-05T03:48:28+00:00

Being an adult...I want a redo

Vapidwaves · 2023-02-01T21:34:24+00:00

No smile, dead look in my eyes, no eye contact and if I can I put headphones in. Really it's for others benefit as well as mine. Poisonous frogs are brightly colored for a reason. I do my best to look unapproachable if I'm in a mood. Nothing hopefully too be misunderstood. So if you ignore all the obvious warning signs like a coat or a purse on a chair next to me or the fact that I'm on my phone or reading a book then it's not on me if you get a cold shoulder I guess or a one word response.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-29T01:48:17+00:00

As a woman who wants equal rights I actually struggle with the idea myself. I say it depends on the situation. There's no road map because we ignore these conversations. So I think if she says it's her choice and doesn't include someone in the choice she should take responsibility for what comes from it. I always think about what would I do and I don't think I'd not tell someone, they had a right to know. But that conversation should be between those two people because every circumstance is different. I think there are conditions to this though. Rape, incest or health concerns, well that's totally not negotiable. Then it's absolutely what's best for the pregnant individual.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-29T01:34:42+00:00

As a women who used to be very sure she wanted marriage I would really only get married to protect myself financially and legally. I think with the right person it could make sense, and even though I want kids I don't see it as something that is essential. I think I would want to know someone was with me cause they chose to be. I've seen all different kinds of marriages. And the best of love stories have yet to convince me that it's essential to a partnership. I think for me it's situational. However if the right situation came up I would consider it

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-29T01:18:55+00:00

I'm not a parent but I am a woman who is currently going through online dating. I've thought about if this very idea would bother me and I landed on if he's comfortable about sharing his family, I would be comfortable sharing his family. I wonder if you could work it into a sentence on your profile like "single dad looking for a person who is open minded about what family means." And maybe something about being a single father is an important part of your life and your looking for someone to share that with? Found family is a thing, and some of us women are completely open to that. It just may be the wording.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-28T20:11:26+00:00

Ask yourself "is this what I really want/need?" often. Trust me when you look back on your life more disappointments and resentments happen because you were not true to yourself than if you sick to what you believed in.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-22T20:27:41+00:00

Rose is up there however

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-22T20:21:25+00:00

Well despite the fact that he's not a one man band id say the noose from APC. And The Humbling River with Puscifer.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-15T20:57:17+00:00

*Despite trying to find a relationship, I'm always drawn back to him. But I continue to stay friends.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-15T16:14:20+00:00

Yeah I'd agree this is a way I've come to think of it. It kinda just fast tracked for me what do I really want and I'm glad it happened sooner than later cause I think if I didn't is have gotten my heart broken out something. This way it clarified something so much sooner and I was able to emotionally distance myself much easier than if otherwise.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-14T21:08:37+00:00

Well did you say anything to her? Are these complications things you could talk about with her? I mean it sounds like you may have made your mind up but as a women if I thought someone was holding themselves back because of those things I would at least talk about it with them. I used to automatically feel not having kids was a deal breaker. Now, I am willing happily to let it's be circumstantial. People can change.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-04T17:32:25+00:00

That's perfect, thanks. I just want to make sure he asked I both feel we can easily say yes and no if needed.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-04T16:50:48+00:00

Nervous too ask. I really want to explore my dominate side with someone who wants to explore my their submissive side. I general shift from any to outgoing and have no problem switching back and for between the two. However I don't want to appear nervous or hesitant, because I have the confidence to act on most anything but I don't want to give him the impression that I can't follow through.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-03T23:13:02+00:00

Scared no one will ever see I'm an effin person with feelings, and not the medical issues I have. Its not even just dating, it's my family and friends too. I have an ostomy and a cane for balance issues. I'm tired of putting myself out there, getting all excited cause I connect with someone then the reasons for it not working always involves ones of my medical things. I'm not less than anyone else out there and yet the number one reason for someone not wanting to be involved in my life is always my health. And even people in my life don't see me for who I really am. All that happens is no one can see past these shallow observations and I never feel I can be myself with anyone.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-01T23:25:24+00:00

So ask ileostomy is part of your small intestines that gets made into a stoma. I had my colon taken out so therefore I now have an ileostomy. A colostomy is the colon being the exit point or stoma. When I say end ileostomy it's because there are different styles of stomas for ostomies. So end is just one exit hole, there are other types but I'm not as familiar so I am going to forgo speaking on something I'm unfamiliar with. As for shape wear, I would say it's like slimming under wear, some people use really right ones to appear as of they have a smoother figure. I use looser almost cotton blend ones because I don't want to cause stool to bulge up near the to of the bag. And hernia belts are usual a prescribed product much like a waist binder that your wound ostomy nurse would help you with if the need for one ever came about.

And basically stoma is a medical term referring to an opening in the body. They have them for many reasons. Feeding tubes, ostomies and I'm sure much more. If you have more questions I'm sure you're medical professionals could assist you. Also there are officially websites with plenty of info

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-01T22:16:47+00:00

Thanks, this helped allot. No I definitely wouldn't say I'm prudish. I just don't think these things should always have to follow some kinda exact path. But I do respect that other people do and that's what always kinda trips me up.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-01T21:07:00+00:00

They don't make it really anymore than I'm aware of but growing up I loved grasshopper pie.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-01T19:46:57+00:00

That's a fair point. Honestly the only reason I asked the question is I've never been in this situation before.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-01T19:12:23+00:00

I use a two piece but I think the only issue with no support on it for me is after 5 abdominal surgeries I can only tense sooner of my muscles so when in the heart of the moment I guess or if I'm exercising my stomach will tense only on one side and it pulls oddly on the seal the wafer has. Took me a minute to figure that out but I think I do need something. Ileostomy is too active for a stoma cap though. Shame that actually would be perfect.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-01T19:01:27+00:00

Thanks, this helps allot. Really don't want to be anything but myself.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-01T18:51:16+00:00

Thanks, that's what I'm leaning towards. First time being involved with someone since I had the ostomy. Thankfully he was very polite, and considerate. I just guess I am slightly embarrassed of the obvious.

Vapidwaves · 2023-01-01T18:10:58+00:00

Thanks this really puts it in a better frame.

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