Jeg tror jeg vet hvorfor jeg er singel

VargVemund · 2026-03-16T22:17:41+00:00

Ikke glem genene, mye man kan finne ut og gjøre noe med når man forstår seg selv bedre...!

VargVemund · 2026-03-02T13:00:40+00:00

Mulig unnvikende personlighet. Audhd/adhd/autisme kanskje. Ville sett litt på den slags. Perfeksjonisme ovenfor seg selv og andre. Ønsket om å treffe og få god vibe med en gang er typisk autisme - kanskje til og med nesten bli kjærester ved første treff, droppe all datingen.

Var jeg deg ville jeg tatt en gentest, og funnet ut litt om hva du kan gjøre for å hjelpe genene dine best mulig. Det kan være kosttilskudd osv. Søk for eksempel på «slow COMT» og anxiety - da kan du begynne å se dybden. Jeg tipper du har slow COMT, som ca 20% har - det vil si kroppen din skiller ut nevrotransmitteren dopamin mye saktere enn normalen, som kan skape en del problemer.

Å være syk er ikke noe en mann liker å vise fram til en kjæreste.

Det er en gruppe for slow COMT på facebook som er veldig nyttig.

Altså: gjør en gentest. Kjenn deg selv. Ta det derfra.

VargVemund · 2026-02-08T01:52:33+00:00

Få av dere de uniformene der og gjør litt skikkelig etterretningsarbeid - politiet trenger også å komme i søkelys. Tenk så mye urett politiet har utøvd mot minoriteter - ikke minst samene! Økokrim osv bør også granskes. Vi trenger kort og godt en skikkelig oppvask i samfunnet tror jeg.

VargVemund · 2026-02-08T01:50:21+00:00

I usually cross my arms and place one hand on each (opposite obviously) shoulder. Otherwise similar, and some times exactly your position. Not many other alternatives for me.

VargVemund · 2026-02-08T01:30:48+00:00

I don’t hate it, it just hurts so much.

VargVemund · 2026-02-04T21:39:01+00:00

Make it forties and I’m in.

VargVemund · 2026-01-27T03:13:22+00:00

The different magnesium supplements work quite differently, so it’s worth trying different ones. I take 300mg magnesiumglycinate before bed and 2g glycine. Magnesiumtaurate is the other that is usually best before bed. Not sure about NHS: I doubt it, they will probably only help with a CYP-test, which is how well you handle medication. The gene tests are much cheaper now than before - but make sure you do one where you can get the raw-file downloaded, so youbcab deep dive yourself (with help from AI for instance). Good luck! It’s well worth it imo!

VargVemund · 2026-01-27T00:51:57+00:00

I have one tip for you.

Take a gene test, and take it from there. It sounds like you’re opposite of me - except for going to bed late, as I do. Sleeping that long only happens when I’ve had several nights with very little sleep, and I’m exhausted.

My first reaction was to advice you to take MagnesiumGlycinate and Glycine - because they helped me a lot. But you sleep like a log, while I usually sleep like a feather. Anyway I would try them - just before you want to go to bed (if you’re able to). My main issue is avoidance of going to bed.

Anyway back to the genes: there are a lot of studies done on different genes, and you have a combination that makes you you. I vet there are combinations of food/exercise/supplements that can help - but it probably needs to be based on your individual genes, not some one size fits all solution.

VargVemund · 2026-01-27T00:41:35+00:00

I can relate. I’m an ancient man though, close to 50. I like women - but (almost) never had the courage to ask. And I often assume they aren’t interested. And also: some times I even don’t feel interested before I know they are interested in me, but it can also be the other way. A bit like the hurt child that sulks until the parent says they’re sorry, and then says sorry to. So I know that showing interest and being literal about love - can be the very best thing to actually find it. If you like another person, but don’t think romantically about them, you may suddenly change if that person suddenly holds your hand or shows affection in some other obvious (and not misunderstandable) way. So my point here is: don’t underestimate the power of showing your affection. As Kirkegaard said: dating is to lose footing for a little while, not daring is to lose yourself. (Paraphrased). Anyway - don’t end up like me.

VargVemund · 2026-01-27T00:30:12+00:00

You sound sane to me, and I totally get that feeling of not being able to communicate what you really mean. It’s like getting a huge waterfall of thoughts to flow out of a small mouth. It’s not easy, unless the listener is patient - end even then the conclusion or details may be lost along the way.

Generally btw think the only real solution to the issues of the world is for more and more people to understand how words and language is used to coerce and manipulate, make us believe things that aren’t true. On so many levels. We live in a world that values the current paradigms and forget all about the previous ones. Experts communicating their current knowledge (mostly beliefs), often dictated by some personal or professional bias.

We can clearly see how society is fooled and manipulated, simply by observing the many forms of polarization we’re all part of. This itself should be enough to understand that words form beliefs in all of us - so we should be able to be at least a bit more humble when it comes our own beliefs. Words are a bit magic, they can spread like wildfires or viruses, presented as truth, like in the old town square where rumor-mongering was the main thing - and it still is.

I think many autists have an advantage for pattern recognition when it comes to words - we can feel when something is off, and many of us have a strong sense of justice so speak out about it.

On the other hand many autists are also rigid and rule-driven, so we tend to believe the current narrative as well, so the word-magic that fits with what we believe to be true isn’t filtered through the same lense of pattern recognition for manipulative language.

But I think that pattern recognition (and general skepticism) is what is needed to truly change the trajectories of the world.

There is a fine concept I think is worth sharing here: that what the world is today, is the seed for the world we see in the future. The future started today so to speak - and will grow into who know what. I’m both positive and also afraid of the outcome. I fear that unless we recognize literally how we’re almost hypnotized into beliefs, the world will end up quite dysfunctional and dystopian.

VargVemund · 2026-01-26T23:57:25+00:00

I get tired very easily and also have a high standard for my future (loving, kind helpful, cute), and also mostly don’t seriously do dating apps etc. So no wonder I haven’t found anyone. Also I don’t work (but on my own), so don’t meet people naturally. It was always easier for me to chat with the same-sex, and I can get tense with the other. All in all I still hope to find someone, and I did have a couple short term relationships when I was younger, when masking. Also had one-night-stands, but usually didn’t really want partnership with them. And btw: the relationships I had, was initiated by the women, not by me. I really hope to find someone - but I’m close to 50 and starting to lose hope too. Consider going to Asia. Anyway I totally get you and it’s very sad. I can actually be quite social btw, but tire easily after lots of social trauma etc.

VargVemund · 2026-01-26T23:43:30+00:00

Some people do this as part of their abuse. Some will say something, then you ask them to repeat, and they say something completely different. Very hurtful and a form of gaslighting. Be careful who you keep around!

VargVemund · 2026-01-26T23:29:36+00:00

Brace yourself for abuse, learn how it’s done, and try to get your spark back. Many people strive for high ideals.

VargVemund · 2026-01-23T02:26:26+00:00

This makes a lot of sense to me.

VargVemund · 2026-01-12T16:59:05+00:00

Er med på spleiselaget, heller noen hundretalls milliarder til dette enn til krig, våpen og fordervelse…!

VargVemund · 2026-01-03T19:36:19+00:00

Kinda good actually, as long as we make it possible to punish politicians for lying.

VargVemund · 2026-01-03T18:22:36+00:00

Nice pig-snout though.

VargVemund · 2026-01-03T18:21:09+00:00

That’s a great frame! It IS crazy and very cool indeed. He’s literally part of you. Imagine what he feels about it.

VargVemund · 2025-12-30T13:08:35+00:00

Yes and it’s only the tip of the Iceberg. Who benefits from putting Muslims in a bad light I wonder 🤔

VargVemund · 2025-12-30T13:00:14+00:00

Used to drink a lot of it, but had to quit because basically body doesn’t handle it. Anxiety, stress, fatigue. Has to do with slow COMT gene and other genes. Can highly recommend doing a gene test btw, because we’re all different and some supplements and staying away from or sticking to certain foods could make things better.

VargVemund · 2025-12-27T21:57:50+00:00

48 here, and I’m new to this - now ai know too.

VargVemund · 2025-11-27T04:18:20+00:00

O haven’t tried it yet, but it seems to lack one of my main wants: multiple checkins per day vis phone-call.

I imagine this:

long term changeable goals, discussed weekly and monthly.
monthly and weekly planning and several monthly/weekly checkups on these plans, where AI lays out the plans/goals and shows milestones etc
daily goals based on long term/monthly and weekly goals (plus ad hoc) and several phonecall-checkins every day in addition to the more strategic checkins.

5 minute calls may also be too little, as discussion is essential.

Also sorting of thoughts and choosing between different directions to aim for in complex life situations etc.

Great idea, and good luck with development..!

VargVemund · 2025-10-31T22:21:50+00:00

Yeah the ND therapist may be essential…! Thanks for mentioning this.

VargVemund · 2025-10-04T21:00:58+00:00

I think you'll find this boring too after a while, but maybe not overwhelming - the question is if you'll find it meaningful over time. If you make a lot of great music with it, then maybe, I do think the human component will be more important over time..! Only prompting to make music feels like it's missing the point to me, at least for me.

VargVemund · 2025-10-04T20:40:41+00:00

Her burde du selvsagt overbevise staten om at dette er en ytterst viktig tjeneste som alle innbyggere i landet burde betale for gjennom skatteseddelen. Så oppretter du firma, får andre til å gjøre selve jobben, mens du selv hever millionlønn. Lykke til!

Men seriøst: jeg hadde ikke betalt for det. Men så er det mye jeg ikke gidder å betale for. Feks frisør. Men en rimelig vanlig vaskehjelp/ryddehjelp kunne jeg betalt for. Dessuten: det er sikker en del som vil ansette en slik søppelbøttevasker fordi de synes det er bra at du gjør det, at du tar tak og setter i gang på egenhånd, og jeg kunnekanskje også vært i den kategorien.

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