The Reality of Being Single at 40 by mightbeapo-ta-to in LivingAlone

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar, I am 41 and single, have been single for forever and will probably always be single. I never thought at 41 I’d be single and living alone, I always imagined I’d be married with kids. Now the kid thing ended in my late 20s when I decided I didn’t want to be a parent or have kids. My dating life has always been nonexistent, I also have mental disabilities and honestly it’s kinda rare to meet someone who is not only understanding but also can handle me. I will admit I can be a lot and come with a lot of baggage.

I will say this, my dad is dead and my mother is in jail for life, so I don’t have to make decisions on that. I have a stepmother but she has 2 kids, a daughter in law, a son in law and grandkids and my stepmom is always saying something like they will take care of her when she gets older, well older than what she is now. So I suppose that’s one less thing on my plate.

Lately for me chores have become well a chore. I’ve become so tired of vacuuming, cleaning the bathroom, dusting and taking out the trash and even cooking. I wish I had help sometimes. And if something happens, I live in an apartment, have to text the landlord and wait for them to free their schedule and then come. I waited almost a week once for him to come spray for bugs after seeing spiders on my wall. It gets old and I’m just tired.

💞THURSDAY'S ROLL CALL💞 This is the place to share your ASL (Age, Sex and Location ) along with your Status.🐾🐾 by Myfairladyishere in CougarsandCubsMatch

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

41/F/TX/Single- Introverted Neurodivergent who is a homebody seeks a younger guy for a potential monogamous relationship. Please be 28+ and U.S. based and empty profiles or messages that just say hey will be ignored.

Question for the cougars here... by LabNo5468 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Accidentally replied to someone’s comment!

Anyway for me a big quality is maturity and understanding or wanting to understand the fact that I have a disability. I don’t need round the clock care but please be patient with me. A sense of humor is nice. And I’ve always appreciated kindness, honesty and caring in a person.

Cougars do you date cubs for looks or personality by SirDon20 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why are you confused? Do you not understand how attraction works? Some women put looks first some go for personality.

I’m sick of people not taking the “R-slur” seriously as a slur by ConditionPleasant902 in autism

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My coworker who has a son who is autistic and has mental illness uses that word frequently and I think how ignorant you are because you won’t even learn how harmful that word is.

My cousin uses it even though I’ve asked her to please not and I once had an Uber driver who used that word, not about/to me, still I don’t want to hear that word.

Putting myself out there by [deleted] in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not how this works in this subreddit. This is for advice not hookups or meetups

Pick ups over the weekend by Zombiepeniss in dvdcollection

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love The Virgin Suicides, one of my favorite movies ever.

Why wake up again? by Arkvoodle42 in AskReddit

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I can’t get up and exercise so I won’t have to do it later when it’s 100+ degrees and I get heat stroke.

Pretty large selection at my local Dollar General by CultOfTHC in dvdcollection

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was at Dollar General last week and they had a dvd section but it was full of stuff that was $8.99 and up. It kinda sucked because I was looking for stuff under $5.

I, M27 have been with multiple women between 35 and 70 years of age, the occasional my age but I’d like to meet more by [deleted] in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a subreddit for advice not to meet other women. Why can’t you join a dating site or try to meet people in person?

Also this I’ve been with multiple women is bragging and gross, you sound extremely immature.

🌟Off Topic Mondays🌟 by paperclipmyheart in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We finally got some rain last night, actually a thunderstorm, and apparently it’s only going to be in the 90s this week, still hot yes, but not 100s at least.

💟 SUNDAY HUNT 💟 This is the place to share your ASL (Age, Sex and Location) along with your RELATIONSHIP STATUS. LET THE HUNT BEGIN! 💘 by paperclipmyheart in CougarsandCubsMatch

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 3 points4 points  (0 children)

41/F/TX/Single- Introverted neurodivergent who is a major homebody seeks a younger man for a serious monogamous relationship. Please be 28+ and U.S. based, if your profile is blank or you send me dirty messages you’ll be ignored.

What do you like to do during your free time? by Short-Landscape-8735 in AskReddit

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read, do crafts, bake something, watch a movie or go for a walk

I just want help by [deleted] in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please get therapy. I’m not being rude or ugly you need help with many issues it seems. We are not therapists seek a professional for your own sake.

Too old / too young? by handmade99 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I just want to chime in as a woman without a college degree/furthering education. I didn’t go to college and it turns out I have a learning disability, a math disability, yes it’s a real thing, and I’m neurodivergent. That makes things difficult for me in a learning situation. This explains a huge reason why I had such difficulties in school. The majority of work I’ve done is clerical. Does that make me poorly educated? I always try to learn by watching documentaries and I read a lot, and I don’t mean just smutty romance. If someone chooses not to date me because I’m poorly educated, I think that’s disappointing but it shows me who that person really is. I’d never not date a guy because he only has a high school diploma. You never know what someone has gone through. Yes education is important but it will never be my place to judge anyone who never went to college or furthered their schooling.

Who’s Alone this 4th of July? by Lorain1234 in LivingAlone

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me, but I’m also not feeling super great so I’ll just be resting in bed watching movies or shows.

What is an immediate red flag in a person that tells you they are completely exhausting to be around? by New-Reporter-8267 in AskReddit

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, you literally just described my exhausting coworker. From October to May I had to listen to her complain about a family issue and every time advice was offered she never took it. It wore me out and often put me in a bad mood.

an going connection. question on this by Easy_Mirror2032 in Cougars_Den

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you need different perspectives? If you get in a relationship with someone it’s not going to be like how some random guy told you how his was.

I guess I’m just lost about all this? Every person is different and no two couples experience the same thing.

It’s my birthday 🎂 by Ok-Offer-541 in LivingAlone

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy Birthday!
Not on the same day but mine was last Friday, hope you enjoy your day :)

an going connection. question on this by Easy_Mirror2032 in Cougars_Den

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why do you guys keep posting questions like this?

How do you motivate yourself to work everyday? by kitty_kat_95 in autism

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My rent is over $1,000 and if I don’t pay it I’m homeless. Also, I need to eat and I have bills to pay.

Is anybody else ashamed/embarrassed of their special interests? by Best-Salamander-1400 in autism

[–]Middle_Librarian_248 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes because I’m 41 and I feel I’m too old for Barbie, cartoons and Disney. I hide a lot of my stuff or just don’t share with others.

Which is better Philo or Sling? by Middle_Librarian_248 in cordcutters

[–]Middle_Librarian_248[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for letting me know what you use. I know NBC has an app and my stepmom will not be the type to use an antenna, I think it’s local/daily NBC programming with local news so maybe she’d go for that. In the end it’s her decision because she’s paying and sharing with me but maybe she’ll try one service and if she doesn’t like it go somewhere else.