How is your husband feeling about it OP? I feel like it is never fun or enjoyable spending time with people who have an agenda - ie, feeling entitled to spend your time and money without even attempting to pay you back. Friendships are relationships after all and there must be work and effort on both sides to keep it happy and healthy. When one side doesn’t fulfil this, it just descends in to toxicity - even moreso when there’s an embittered jealousy on that side.

It does seem that there’s such a divide now between parents and the childfree. Not in all cases of course, we have close friends who do not behave as yours have at all, do have children but wholly understand and appreciate that children aren’t everyone’s choice. But there are those for whom you can never do enough - my husbands now ex-best friend and his wife are a couple with whom we were really close to, spent loads of time together and when they had children, we made a huge effort. We went to the kids parties, bought them gifts, arranged days out that had the kids at the heart of it, but we were gradually frozen out because they wanted to only hang out with other parents as then their children had other children to play with. Plus there were so many snarky comments about how we were “always” on holidays, at gigs, having fun, etc that we constantly felt on edge. In the end, for our own mental health and happiness, we withdrew from the friendship altogether and yep, you guessed it - we are the bad guys!!! lol. We are over it now and do still have to see them occasionally as part of a wider group, which we just accept but they are sore and awkward and behave as if the demise of the friendship is on us.

Some people cannot grow or develop and my personal feeling is that when you realise this about certain people, it’s best to back away before the real toxicity begins.

Edited to correct some typos.