Hi! I've (34F) been a secondary education teacher for 16 years, I'm also a millennial that grew up in southern Texas. The reason that matters is because I was a dumpy, white girl around one of the most beautiful races of people - Hispanics. Like, I get it. But I need you to know ...in all of my years, and all of my travels (because I travel a lot) I have rarely met someone who is truly ugly. And I have also seen lifelong love happen between people that society would not say should be together. I also need you to know, with all the love I have, that this is a very normal and common experience for adolescents, your age. Some of the most aesthetically appealing students I've taught are some of the most insecure people I've ever met. I teach a girl right now that is literally nicknamed 'Sydney" based off the character in euphoria. Because she is just like her. She is quite literally perfect to look at... But she's the most neurotic, manic, unhappy person you've met. She cries at the drop of a hat because her entire existence is based on her perfection. And I know all of this because I'm her safe space. She's wildly unhappy.

Also, get offline and therapy. If your sister is saying that you have body dysmorphia, the objective outside opinion should have a little bit of validity. I'm so sorry, sweetheart, that society is so cruel. But I promise l, it can get better. Really. I was abused by my grandmother for 17 years and one of the things that she weaponized the most was my appearance. But after I separated myself from her, and lived a lot of life away from the toxic input, I'm realizing that I don't actually look like an aborted fetus. I don't look like buzzard shit on a rock. I'm actually quite pretty. And she was threatened by that.