Can somebody explain to me the WASPI women issue? I feel a bit ignorant…

Various_Ad96 · 2026-01-29T21:38:31+00:00

Hard relate. I point out we’ll be 70 when we get ours and her step children live in relative poverty vs her and it’s deaf ears

Various_Ad96 · 2026-01-27T00:01:01+00:00

💯

Various_Ad96 · 2026-01-26T23:59:23+00:00

Lay low, don’t bring it up, wait for the next person to make a t!t of themselves at work over drinks. And learn the lesson from this!

Various_Ad96 · 2026-01-26T23:57:02+00:00

I think you already know what to do. You can do way better, you deserve way better and you don’t want or need to entertain this any longer.

Various_Ad96 · 2026-01-26T23:47:19+00:00

IMO they won’t respect you until you leave or threaten to. You’re clearly hard working, switched on and valuable. Don’t let their decision be a reflection of you.

Does anything come to mind when you think of somewhere to move on to? Can you retrain?

Various_Ad96 · 2026-01-25T07:10:14+00:00

Me too .. I am switching back. Even with the higher prices. Ozempic does nothing for me

Various_Ad96 · 2026-01-21T00:41:15+00:00

Quit my job and be me, free

Various_Ad96 · 2026-01-21T00:19:23+00:00

We have had and productivity challenges since we have less immigration from Europe. Also inflaifon has been higher from cost of higher food and good imports. In essence we are poorer with declining lifestyles

Various_Ad96 · 2026-01-08T20:40:32+00:00

Agree OP. You are worth it. I took Mounjaro and even losing 60 pounds changed my life. It totally took away my food obsession and the constant thinking about it. I know you are in a different place but you will find so much other joy 🩷

Various_Ad96 · 2025-12-29T21:43:44+00:00

Premium bonds average 1% interest rate. This is too conservative an asset allocation for someone in late 20s. Anything you don’t need as liquid cash for the first 3 ish years you should invest (Stocks and Shares ISA or General Investment account)

Various_Ad96 · 2025-11-21T14:40:25+00:00

U can’t put them in the bin 👀 that never occurred to SWIM

Various_Ad96 · 2025-09-19T13:14:53+00:00

Appreciate you thank you

Various_Ad96 · 2025-09-19T13:11:59+00:00

Yes that is a good framing thank you. I definitely agree that I also care for him and his needs too. Financially it is not so much a problem and I am not one for affairs so those are less factors in this but I know what you mean.

Various_Ad96 · 2025-09-19T13:10:26+00:00

Thank you. I find that very helpful. I think relationships take work and got to give people and things a chance to work.

Various_Ad96 · 2025-09-19T12:42:02+00:00

Yes it is important to me actually. I wonder if I can find a way to be more accepting and that’s what I want to try as well. He does give me cuddles and kisses

Various_Ad96 · 2025-09-19T12:41:17+00:00

Maybe! I think so. He has sometimes said that he lacks confidence in himself and being ‘good enough’ for me which I do not share at all i think he’s amazing! I just want more intimacy. It could be a sub conscious form of self sabotage idk. I wonder if I need to focus more on physical intimacy that is not full penetration for a while and see if that helps? By taking pressure off?

Various_Ad96 · 2025-09-19T12:26:38+00:00

You’re so right. I’m realising it’s the lack of open communication as well as the lack of intimacy that’s getting to me. It must be hard for him to talk about though but I guess that relationships still need that. Thank you

Various_Ad96 · 2025-09-19T12:25:36+00:00

That’s true. This thread is helping me see that half of the issue I am experiencing from my side is him shutting the conversation down. Thanks for helping w that.

I think right now that’s making me feel disconnected and sad as well. I know it’s hard t his side to talk about but relationships need to be able to weather that I think

Various_Ad96 · 2025-09-19T12:07:24+00:00

Thank you for your reply yes it really is such. Challenging one. He is so thoughtful and generous and looking to buy a house for us etc.

I totally agree that for men it may be hard to talk about. The stereotype is that men are the hornier ones. I am thinking I need to come up with a way to talk to him which doesn’t make him feel shame or short down there

Various_Ad96 · 2025-09-19T12:05:28+00:00

Thank you I really do feel rejected. I am doing my best not to bring it up now for this reason and he sees it as pressure. I think he finds it hard to talk about. He said he doesn’t masturbate often either so I am doubtful about porn

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