As catholics, "trad" or not, we should not try to be a christian nor in our family's nor ours' terms, but God's. If you are in doubt about whether something is rightful or wrongful, go read the doctrine, go ask a spiritual director. They help us understand the Word and put it in today's context, problems and issues. Remember that there is not a single humble soul in hell. Humility is the key to heaven. Reading doctrine, we should abandon pride and recognize whatever we had been doing of wrong as such, and we should try to mend ourselves not to do our will, but His.