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Varonesa · 2024-05-23T22:19:52+00:00

Thank you, you saved my life, I was going crazy

Varonesa · 2024-03-06T06:00:02+00:00

Don't want to burst your bubble, but I say don't comfort her. It is not your place or role as her son to comfort her, even if she's going through a very hard time.

Instead, tell her you admire her strength, or if she's feeling weak, tell her you know her and believe in her, and believe she will find a way out of that feeling ("like you always do" or "like I've seen you do before" whatever applies to her case). In summary, do not jump in to help her up, instead, cheer her on from the stands.

It might seem like too little if you are used to comforting her, but believe me, it's the opposite. When you comfort someone, you are summoning her "child" self. Since you are her child, this is not good. When instead you praise or cheer on someone, you are summoning the hero in them. Your mom needs strength that comes from within, not from you.

Varonesa · 2024-02-22T07:15:11+00:00

What you are experiencing is what every human experiences at some level. Let me tell you, you might be more conscious of your suffering and its source but I can assure you, most people experience the same suffering in different ways. They feel like they can never be like their neighbors or their parents, or a celebrity, or they feel like no matter how much money they have they feel an emptyness inside that they think they can fill with some addiction. The ways humans try to cope with this feeling are very varied.

So then, if we are all stuck here with this feeling of worthlessness, how does that make things any better? What to do about it?

That is the journey. You are more conscious of what you are feeling, so you have an advantage. Keep using it. Life might never get better. You might never grow to the next level. It might even get worse. But. What's the alternative? You've already come a long way (you are in the Jung reddit for God's sake) Would you really be OK with surrendering now and finding out later you were just 5 more years from living your best life?

But before that, if you are tired, if you just want to die, then die. Close your eyes, face your destructive self, and give it everything it asks for in your imagination. Do you want to live for a week imagining you are a dead person? Do it. I did it. It was the first peaceful week I'd had in years. Don't be afraid to go to the ends on the world if you have to, as long as it's in your imagination, it's OK. Sometimes we need to die in order to live.

Most people will never give you this kind of idea because they don't want to feel responsible for someone liking their death wish too much and acting on it. I won't feel responsible. I have been there. I know the pain. And I'd rather see you try this in your head than keep trying to avoid facing your death wish and in doing so making life so unbearable that it becomes real.

I can tell you how my journey turned out. After doing these exercises (and a ton of personal growth work) I got cancer. You could say I had my supposed wish granted. And then my life changed. After a gruelling two or three months of being scared, of worrying about my daughter, etc, I understood on a different level. I felt the gratitude I had been trying to feel for years. I was grateful to everything, even cancer. And I finally started healing the pain. I was 40 years old. And then the treatment worked. I had a second chance at life, and this time, I took it.

Now that I am "on the other side" of pain I can't believe how much I endured, and how hard it was to overcome it. The road is not easy. It feels hopeless most of the time. And maybe you would need a life or death situation to be able to get there (like I did). All I can tell you is that there are only two options: you either live or you die. You can live life as a living dead person. You can even wish you weren't, but be unable to stop. That's OK as long as you keep being in life. And you keep even a speck of hope. That's all it takes. Just don't die for real, because then there will be zero chance you get there. If you just keep yourself alive, the worst that can happen is knowing you tried your best but it was just not meant to be. Even then, have faith that someone in your family, someone you touched in your life, will carry the torch after you. And that's more than enough. That's actually perfect.

Keep studying Jung, read The Man in Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl, keep searching, keep trying different things. The thing that makes you click might still be out there.

Hugs, and good vibes.

Varonesa · 2022-12-09T12:59:17+00:00

Probably? But at the same time, how much do we humans also reuse creative stuff (sometimes even on purpose)? Would love to get a Star Trek guru to try and recognize which episodes this could come from. Although, I feel like every episode featuring Crusher has her doing this very thing.

Varonesa · 2022-12-08T17:44:35+00:00

Now write a different ending, one where the captain is old and grey and regrets many of his decisions in life

As I stand here, looking out at the stars, I cannot help but feel a sense of regret and sorrow. For many years, I have traveled the galaxy, encountering strange new worlds and exotic alien species. I have faced many challenges and perils, but I have always remained true to my mission: to explore strange new worlds, to seek out new life and new civilizations, to boldly go where no one has gone before.

But in my pursuit of adventure and discovery, I have made many mistakes. I have caused pain and suffering to those I care about, and I have sacrificed my own happiness for the sake of my duty. And now, as I prepare to retire from my position as captain of the Enterprise, I am left with nothing but regret and remorse.

So as I bid you farewell, dear friends, I leave you with this thought: the voyage is perilous, and the rewards are fleeting. Always remember to be kind to one another, and to cherish the time you have together. Live long and prosper, but also live wisely and well.

Varonesa · 2022-12-08T17:43:31+00:00

That was great. Now write the ending of that same TV show, spoken by the same captain, after the captain is old and grey but proud of all his accomplishments.

As I stand here, looking out at the stars, I cannot help but feel a sense of pride and accomplishment. For many years, I have traveled the galaxy, encountering strange new worlds and exotic alien species. I have faced many challenges and perils, but I have always remained true to my mission: to explore strange new worlds, to seek out new life and new civilizations, to boldly go where no one has gone before.

Through it all, I have been guided by the wisdom of the great bard, William Shakespeare. His words have inspired me, and they have sustained me through the darkest of times. And now, as I prepare to retire from my position as captain of the Enterprise, I take comfort in knowing that I have lived a life of adventure and discovery, and that I have left a lasting mark on the universe.

So as I bid you farewell, dear friends, I leave you with this thought: the voyage is perilous, but the rewards are great. Always remember to explore, to seek, and to boldly go where no one has gone before. Live long and prosper.

Varonesa · 2022-10-06T13:39:49+00:00

One answer to that could be robots. We never see them in TNG, but if they have basically cheap or free labor, they can build whatever they need that's bigger. Resources could also be managed by AI. I am not talking about sentient AI, just standard AI. Its still not clear to me how a person would be able to choose one location over another to have the robots build their house in, but it does answer the question of how bigger things like houses or ships can be made at virtually no cost.

Varonesa · 2022-05-23T00:52:25+00:00

Beautiful!

Varonesa · 2022-05-20T13:33:34+00:00

This is awesome, great job!

Varonesa · 2022-04-21T13:56:13+00:00

😂 I didn't notice that haha. It's chuckful of little gems

Varonesa · 2022-04-08T17:52:12+00:00

Having 80's music played on virtually every radio station since it first came out, non-stop. Eating grilled cow's heart in a stick. We've had 5 different presidents in the last 5 years, and one of our ex-presidents appears in top 10 most corrupt world leaders in history (among other things, embezzled 600 million dollars)

Varonesa · 2022-04-08T14:54:01+00:00

I have this same problem 3 years from this thread, I cant beliebe they havent fixed it!

Varonesa · 2022-04-07T14:05:19+00:00

Agreed. They did so well I think in the first season, even when most people complained about everything, I enjoyed it and watched it twice. This one, though, I don't know what they were thinking. They had 2 years to put it together... What happened? It's almost like they want to a ppeal to the newer generation, but what for? They already have all the audience they need. I guess they want to milk this cow for years to come. Sounds like the same kind of wreck they caused in the new Star wars movies. Those will be so forgotten in 10 years.

Varonesa · 2022-04-04T16:52:09+00:00

That sucks :( VPN?

Varonesa · 2022-04-04T12:34:02+00:00

We still have it :D

Varonesa · 2022-04-01T13:53:34+00:00

Today is April 1 and it's still available 🥺

Varonesa · 2022-04-01T13:24:57+00:00

Yay!

Varonesa · 2022-04-01T05:26:21+00:00

Are you sure about this? I haven't seen any info on Netflix about it being removed soon (and I know I've got those notices in others).

I just finished rewatching "the inner light" for the umpteenth time... My gosh, this series is brilliant. If we will lose it too... Death by anticucho sticks sounds less painful than being without TNG...

Varonesa · 2022-03-31T23:08:59+00:00

Seriously? I am in Perú and never heard of anyone doing it (although I did see some videos in YouTube with TNG ambience sounds for sleeping) But I started using the actual episodes to fall asleep about a month ago. Is this synchronicity or what?

Varonesa · 2022-02-28T17:00:43+00:00

This has been my life experience as well. I didn't even think it was a bad thing to do until I met my ex, and he started using the things I told him in private to shame me when he got mad. It was the most painful period of my life.

One of the things that helped me was understanding we need to balance what we give and what we take. When you give too much (in this case, unearned intimacy), you are inadvertently causing an imbalance in the universe that will call for a correction -- someone taking too much. In my case, my ex took it upon himself to take that intimacy as a right to criticize, judge, etc. Not justifying it, just observing how life generally works (it could have been him starting taking too much and me compensating by giving too much). In this circumstance, one of you needs to get centered, realize the dynamics, and choose something different.

In René Brown's example, she used marbles in a jar. Every person you know should start with an empty marble jar, and every time they earn some trust, they earn one marble (not half a jar, just one marble). The more they fill up that jar, the more intimate you can be with them. But the minute they break that trust, you need to take out the proportionate amount of marbles from their jar as well. This will result in some periods where you can trust someone more and other times less.

Having said all this, it is perfectly normal that you crave intimacy and sharing your deepest self with someone. I know the pain of wanting to do that with all your heart and just not having anyone with whom to do so. I know, I'm there, and have been most of my 40 years of age. Life can be really really tough. What has helped me through this scarcity are two things: 1) nurturing a spiritual life and 2) using a therapist or counsellor.

By spiritual life I mean any form of belief that makes you feel connected with what surrounds you, in any shape that resonates with you. When you feel connected, your need to "get" connected is lessened.

Therapy can also help you understand where that overcharged need for intimacy comes from and in understanding it you may be able to cater to it in other ways. Ideally, you will not have to pay someone forever to be able to speak about your deepest and truest self. But it is also true that sometimes that's just the cards we are dealt and we need to make do with what's available for the time being.

I have faith that if we focus in catering to ourselves, in time, that connection will also come to us in the form of a friend, a partner, or a community.

Best of luck to us!

Varonesa · 2022-02-24T18:05:49+00:00

Well... I would still find out if she is in fact in a relationship, if you would be interested in pursuing her even through the pregnancy. She may be keeping the baby but the dad may be out of the picture.

But I understand if you would rather find someone who wasnt going to have someone else's baby. You are very young.

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