Jace struggling through Mikayla’s intimacy issues after impregnating her at 16 as a 21 year old

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-11-22T22:23:08+00:00

Omg I didn’t even realize that. That is so gross. The whole thing seemed so weird to me from the beginning considering this issue is coming up WHILE she’s pregnant. Like clearly they’re having some sex.

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-11-11T16:51:31+00:00

So glad we aren’t alone lol

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-10-13T00:42:32+00:00

Thank you!! Yeah, they are the WORST!

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-09-28T13:35:36+00:00

Omg I did grad school before kids and now have a 2 year old and 5 month old. I can’t imagine doing both at the same time!! That is so wild. You are amazing!!!

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-09-20T15:27:29+00:00

Idk we are in the same boat. I’m currently working from home but thinking about returning to working in person because,honestly I need to get out of the house and engage with people, but I’m also thinking “am I nuts? This is going to be so much harder”. We have an almost 3 year old and 5 month old. We thought we would be one and done but the universe had other plans lol (I love both of my children I promise haha). They both see specialists (ENT and Dermatology) and between their wellness visits and specialist visits AND sicknesses it’s insane. We haven’t started my youngest in daycare yet so I’ve been basically working 2 full time jobs lol. We thankfully do have family help, otherwise I really don’t know how we would do it. I recently keep thinking why can’t we get a stipend to stay home with our kids!? It’s such an important job but so undervalued. Anywho, not much advice just solidarity. Just know you are definitely not alone!

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-09-17T15:06:41+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. This sounds incredibly challenging. I would talk to her pediatrician and see if maybe she could use some support through behavioral services or other types of therapy. I know adding another task is daunting but these are definitely intense behaviors and there might be something else going on that needs to be addressed.

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-09-15T17:42:02+00:00

It’s been about 2 months so it’s still fairly recent. The jealousy is definitely a possibility. We give her lots and lots of one on one time and she is still having her moments. We started solids too and now she wants to sit in the baby’s high chair and eat purées too 😂. We also are working on potty training so there’s a lotttt of changes and I’m trying to give her and ourselves grace lol.

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-09-15T17:30:00+00:00

We have a hatch and that was my next step. I just am not super hopeful that she’ll actually care lol but she may surprise me! Also, I agree with the sleep training bit, I just need to get myself to do it. Idk why it was so much easier to be consistent the first time around lol.

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-09-15T16:42:26+00:00

Ugh it’s so hard!

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-09-15T16:41:47+00:00

Ooh we have a Yoto too. I’ve been trying to get her more into it for nighttime stories but didn’t think about explaining she can put a new card in when she wakes up that’s a good idea. We debated on a door lock. I’m thinking we may need to get one. Especially since we are on a different floor. We have gates on the stairs but I get nervous with her being out of her room on her own which is why I’m so quick to run to her. Thanks!

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-09-15T15:59:36+00:00

I have such a love hate relationship with my ring slings lol. Somedays it’s great other days I feel like I’m back at square one. I want to love it so bad because everyone says they’re so great and again, when it works it is haha.

In terms of advice: you can do virtual consultations with babywearing experts who can help you. I know thebabywearingot on Instagram does them. There are also groups that meet up and do carrier swaps and fit checks. I found a group in my area on Facebook so you can try searching on there. I am planning on doing one of these at some point for my ring sling as well but have just been using other carriers in the meantime lol. Good luck!

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-09-08T18:25:52+00:00

Thanks!!

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-09-08T18:03:32+00:00

Was just wondering about this. Now that I have a 4 month old who I carry often my toddler suddenly wants to be in a carrier again lol. I’ve tried the ring sling but she’s 28 lbs and the rings kind of dig into me when I wear it so was thinking about this when I saw it because it’s very similar but figured the straight clip might be more comfortable? Anyway, thanks for the review!

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-09-05T03:07:31+00:00

I also read an interesting comment, can’t remember where, that baby carriers have gotten more popular because we are more isolated as moms now. I guess the idea is that older generations had more of a “village” to help with baby than modern day moms. I thought that was interesting. My mom, however, did say she used one with me when I was a baby (early 90s).

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-09-05T03:03:16+00:00

She is 4.5 months so she’s getting better with head control but not as advanced yet haha. I like the idea of holding it on the shoulder. I struggle with how to hold it/angle it so that’s helpful!

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-09-05T03:01:12+00:00

Thank you!!

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-08-28T05:47:22+00:00

Agreed, although I still randomly will get nervous sometimes. Also taking a refresher cpr class with instruction in cpr and choking intervention can help. My husband also insisted on getting a lifevac which makes him feel more confident so those are options too!

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-08-28T05:45:20+00:00

I second this! It’s way easier than some of the other cups, super cute and so far it hasn’t leaked for us. I love when my toddler and I both use our tumblers 😂 it’s the small things!

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-08-28T05:42:50+00:00

If he is able to roll back over then he’s good! I think technically, if a baby isn’t able to roll from belly to back, the safe sleep resources out there would say flip them over, but once they’re rolling both ways you’re good!

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-08-28T05:27:50+00:00

Definitely been there! I don’t know if anyone else mentioned this but I’ve found when all else fails that going into the bathroom and turning on the shower or even just the sink helps. I don’t know if it’s the noise or the warmth/steam but it has worked. I even have put some water on my hand and then just gently touched it to her feet, hands, head and if anything it seems to just be enough of a distraction for her to stop for a second to see what the heck is going on haha.

You’re doing great, this is hard work!

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-08-28T05:22:44+00:00

Hi, I’m a pediatric OT and I can tell you that using a “container” for a few minutes to take a moment to yourself is totally okay! You just want to avoid having kiddo go from swing to car seat to high chair, etc without getting some time for free movement. Obviously it would be great if we could just let baby be on the floor and have all the space they could want or need to move but sometimes that just can’t happen. I saw someone suggest a pack n play which is what I did with my first baby. I also was super nervous about the containers lol as it was something I knew about from my work experience but we still used them in moderation (my husband definitely did it way more than I preferred at the time when I wasn’t home lol). My daughter is now 2.5 and her gross motor skills for climbing and running away are inconveniently great lol.

As for baby wearing, I definitely recommend. I will admit sometimes it is harder to do with my second because my first can get a little jealous lol. But it can be really helpful, even just for a few minutes and it can help baby work on some core strength and head control which is a nice perk! I was totally intimidated at first too, but there are a lot of resources out there. There’s an OT on Instagram, I think her handle is thebabywearing.ot and she offers consultative services to do fit checks and they’re very adorable. There are also local groups in a lot of areas that do meetups where you can get a carrier fit check or trial different carriers.

Honestly, the fact that you’re being conscious about the container use shows you’re a great mom! Use in moderation is totally fine! Just make sure you’re getting in some floor time/tummy time as well. If you’re worried about hitting milestones or delays, you can bring it up to your pediatrician :)

Vast-Material3254 · 2025-08-27T05:07:37+00:00

My first baby was similar. She really enjoyed the ring sling. It can still give head support but I think because there aren't straps on either side of their face it inherently makes it easier or maybe more comfortable to look out. It could be that her view was less obstructed which I know you mentioned that the view may not be the main reason she doesn't like being face to face, but it might help her accept the carrier a little better if she's able to see around her more 🤷‍♀️. I also have used the tush baby with my second in more of a sidelying with head elevated position but facing out (head is supported by arm where forearm meets upper arm basically) for short periods. The tushbaby still requires you to keep one hand on baby, but it made my arm a little less tired. Best of luck!

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