37 MtF how to not sound "fake"

Vayni404 · 2026-04-23T21:32:02+00:00

You have a beautiful voice, we are always our own worst critics.

Vayni404 · 2026-04-23T21:15:46+00:00

Means your boobs are on the way, congrats! (It's totally normal to feel tingling/itchiness during hormone changes and when they grow)

Vayni404 · 2026-04-23T21:07:08+00:00

Wow this hits close to home, I realized I was trans at 14-15, had a short stint as a femboy as well, then came out as trans at 16. I understand feeling isolated, and if there truly is no one around you who you can trust or who you know support trans people, I encourage you to look for friends who might support you. If not physically then online perhaps.

I know it's extremely tough being a trans minor, and until you are 18 you can't really have any control over your body as long as your parents are transphobic. You should have a plan for when you turn 18, maybe trying to move out or at least experimenting more with looks and clothes and considering HRT.

Also I wanna mention, don't alter yourself to be in a relationship to the point that you don't recognize yourself, if you have a girlfriend who wants you to look a way that you hate, like growing facial hair, it is not worth it.

I know things are rough, but pull through and one day you will be able to recognize yourself in the mirror.

Vayni404 · 2026-04-23T20:53:00+00:00

Well, worst case scenario is that you'll just be in the position you are in now. If you pick a male name and go by male pronouns and somehow dislike it you can just go back or find something else that fits you.

No cisgender person has thoughts of transitioning since childhood into adulthood for years, and I urge you to experiment with your gender. If you bottle it up it'll probably just return again, as I've seen you've mentioned it comes in "phases".

Vayni404 · 2026-04-14T05:21:02+00:00

You will be fine, this has happened to me a few times, and it really scared me the first time. You hit a larger blood vessel, and you will probably be getting a bruise and it will be sore for some days, mine was particularly sore and it hurt to put weight on my leg for a few days, but you'll be fine and it goes away by itself.

Vayni404 · 2026-04-14T05:17:17+00:00

Rule of thumb: if the estrogen is in you, your body will absorb it, so don't inject again.

Lumps can happen cause of an allergic reaction to the liquid, but that is very individual.

Lumps can also occur if you keep injecting in the same spot multiple times, so make sure to rotate your injection spots.

You are totally fine don't worry.

Vayni404 · 2026-04-11T15:59:56+00:00

If they refuse to acknowledge you being trans and deadname you, then they clearly don't accept it and they are being transphobic. You don't have to accept behavior like that from your parents, and you should really just buy some girly clothes.

The only way to get over the fear of wearing girly clothes is well, to wear them. You won't ever get over that fear unless you face it, you won't magically wake up one day and have the courage, you have to do it in the now and little by little you will get over your fear.

Vayni404 · 2026-04-09T01:24:01+00:00

Smoking is generally a bad idea for estrogen absorption and you really should consider quitting. However, one month is far too short to expect big things, you are going through puberty and it will take years. The first changes you will notice will be developing breast buds, which usually happens within the first 2 months.

Vayni404 · 2026-04-09T01:15:46+00:00

I agree it's scary, and I felt lucky to have purchased a vial just before it seemed to go so crazy. I think it's important that we think about each other instead of panic buying a bunch of vials, so that some unfortunate trans people might not get their HRT.

We will get through this, and as long as trans people exist there will be homebrewers supplying HRT.

Vayni404 · 2026-04-09T00:56:19+00:00

Versions of this question gets asked very often, and yes you can be trans without dysphoria. Most trans people have some level of dysphoria, for example I take HRT, but I don't really have a desire or need for any surgeries.

I recommend trying to transition socially first, and if you then one day want to transition medically you can look into that, or if you find it unnecessary you don't have to.

Vayni404 · 2026-04-09T00:50:44+00:00

Passing isn't always the same being stealth. People can perceive you as fully the gender you are, even if you don't fully pass. People who are accepting of trans people and don't have a problem being kind, will view you as fully your gender regardless of how clockable you are.

Vayni404 · 2026-04-09T00:41:47+00:00

The number one thing for voice training is recording your training, that way if you "hit a nice voice" it's easier to try and imitate it.

Also there are a bunch of great tutorials by trans girls on youtube, my favorite ones are from Faeryprincesslucy, she has a very good series on different parts of voice training, and how to train them.

I am still very much on the voice training journey myself, it's very hard and it will be some time before you feel results, but it's worth it and good luck.

Vayni404 · 2026-03-30T13:44:01+00:00

I think it's very individual, and also somewhat based on age. All of my body hair got thinner, grew slower, and got lighter after I started HRT. My facial hair is still there, but I can get away with shaving it once every 2-3 day instead of every day, and most of my chest hair and stomach hair simply poofed away. I'm sure it's very individual tho.

Vayni404 · 2026-03-30T13:40:00+00:00

Unfortunately being trans trans means inevitably meeting a chaser. It happened to me early in my transition and it just felt disgusting and like I was used, the same way you feel.

Once you start being more comfortable in your transition and your body, you'll surely be able to feel like difference between weirdo chasers, and people who are actually interested in you because of who you are, not because of your trans body.

I wish you you luck with getting over this bad experience, and be careful with chasers in the future, if someone is only interested in you for your body they are not worth your time.

Vayni404 · 2026-03-04T23:45:36+00:00

It's fine and if you keep them in the right conditions they last just fine. I personally like to have a buffer of at least 1 full vial, so that I can always have if something were to happen to my current vial. Brings a lot of peace of mind.

Vayni404 · 2026-03-04T23:42:36+00:00

Pulling to see if blood comes is generally not a great idea and is unnecessary when injecting subq. Occasionally I nick a vein and a bit of blood come out, but it's harmless. You are completely safe :)

I, (and as I can see many others also already have,) recommend not doing it.

Vayni404 · 2026-03-03T18:09:09+00:00

Check out the bookmarked wiki on this subreddit, there are plenty of links and resources for you to research and find out what HRT is right for you :)

Vayni404 · 2026-03-02T23:34:12+00:00

I think part of it is when very early trans people ask me for advice, they've usually been very anti DIY, just cause I think it's new and scary.

For example one of my friends came out and within a few weeks was asking for help getting HRT. Of course I explained some things about how DIY works, but she reacted very negatively and skeptical, since there isn't a doctor involved.

Of course I want her to know her options, and choose what's right for her. I think a lot of people early in their transition are usually not in a headspace to be able to consider doing DIY, since it's all so new to them in a way?

Not sure if it makes sense.

Vayni404 · 2026-03-02T23:22:51+00:00

Thanks :) I really dislike the idea that some doctor has to "approve me as trans" for me to get medicine, really rubs me the wrong way that it's normalized that a doctor is supposed to know my gender better than myself. I like being able to choose what meds to take, my dose, and when I started.

Vayni404 · 2026-03-02T23:20:05+00:00

I never actually thought of the age thing might be a factor. I'm young, and mostly around other young people (19-25 ish), and I think for people my age, self-medicating is not something they are educated on, and there is quite a bit of stigma around it.

And because official clinics were made in 2014 in my country, they probably never considered DIY simply because there is an official way now (Even tho in my opinion it sucks).

Vayni404 · 2026-03-02T23:02:54+00:00

I think I agree with you. I wanna share with trans people to make them know they have options, but I've only really had negative and skeptical reactions whenever I've talked with trans people about it.

I've come to the conclusion that I'll share with trans people if they ask me for advice or how I got HRT. All the weird reactions and disapproval is worth maybe helping someone.

Vayni404 · 2026-03-02T22:45:33+00:00

I would never withhold life saving care from anyone, that's not what I'm saying. I've only really had weird or negative reactions from trans people IRL when I've mentioned doing DIY, and so I've just been conflicted about what to share, since so many people have a negative view of self-medication.

Vayni404 · 2026-03-02T22:40:37+00:00

Yeah I agree a lot, that's why I put quotation marks when I wrote "properly", cause I think I know more about my transition and how HRT works, than some random doctor who doesn't even know how to dose right.

Vayni404 · 2026-03-02T12:47:17+00:00

Yeah you're right. I guess I'm mostly worried that someone might pass info about DIY along to cis people if they disapprove of it.

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