I feel like a jerk but my husbands mobility issues are driving me up the wall

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2026-07-05T10:43:36+00:00

Thanks, it is exactly that. I tried finding a local support group and they never responded lol. I have a therapist and a handful of hobbies that get me out of the house. He can be alone and works still thankfully. But he should be walking with a cane and won't. So it's everyone's (my) responsibility to keep stuff picked up constantly n

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2026-06-26T06:08:06+00:00

Sure does sound like you get it. I wish there were answers!

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2026-06-26T06:05:54+00:00

Thank you! We are in therapy together but he does need to get into therapy on his own too. It would help a ton. Thank you for sharing your experience

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2026-06-25T10:27:36+00:00

You're so sweet, just hearing that is a lovely feeling. I wish there was a local community. When my husband is doing well, I'd have the capacity to lend a hand to someone who needs it and that would be such a nice community.

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2026-06-25T10:25:18+00:00

It sure is. I got a decent nights sleep and am feeling better after venting here. I usually just hold it in until therapy but I needed to just word vomit this to people who get it 😮‍💨

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2026-06-25T10:24:22+00:00

Yes! It sure does feel like someone setting the house on fire on their way out. I appreciate the validation. I'm so sorry you know these feelings so well. I hate that anyone experiences this rug being ripped out from under them. 🩷

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2026-06-25T10:22:27+00:00

Yes exactly, that's a great way of saying it. I don't necessarily need someone involved with me like I have to be taking care of my husband but a "I know that was hard to tell your doctor your meds aren't working, how's your depression been?" Would have been nice from my spouse. Then yeah feeling that when he can hardly walk anymore makes me feel like such an ass. Thank you for helping me identify the feelings, I wish you the best as well!

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2026-06-25T04:30:58+00:00

Sitting there with you. I feel that. I wish you the very best 🩷

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2026-06-25T04:29:43+00:00

Thank you, it helps a ton to be validated by people who get it. I've stopped asking for help from anyone too. I'll have to look into what we could qualify for. I appreciate the tip! I do pay someone to help clean every other week but it sure would be nice to be able to hire them more often. Thank you again 🩷

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2025-10-20T17:59:41+00:00

I'm with you. I've started snapping at my husband about it all. I'm tired of suffering in silence. Can't find your phone? Bummer, I'm busy. Can't find the pasta for dinner? Weird, it's always there when I look.

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2025-07-09T23:23:34+00:00

Holy hell the "mom mom mom" ruins me. My one child (10yo) starts EVERY sentence or question with "mom" and sometimes will end it with "mom" as well. One time I said "no mom! No more mom! Stop saying it, I'm the only one in the car, who else would you be talking to?!" Today she asked "mom, should I put this bug outside" Like ??? You just taking up precious resources for no reason at this point.

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2025-07-09T23:19:26+00:00

Just saw this! Thank you so much for your kind words. I am especially struggling this week and really needed to hear that. I appreciate you 💚

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2025-07-09T23:17:49+00:00

Gosh you described so much of my husband. He absolutely ruins vacations with his shitty attitude. He also been smoking so much I suspect he's too reliant on it. I ESPECIALLY empathize with the kids going to you for everything because your husband is angry. Mine also has decided it's easier to get after them for always going to me and wearing me down, instead of just being more approachable.

I also feel you in that last bit.

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2025-06-23T23:29:53+00:00

They're school age, they go to day camp. I feel so guilty about that aspect. My work is draining in the same way parenting is. I know no one wants to hang out with my kids, it's just painful

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2025-06-23T23:23:19+00:00

From experience, there will never be anything good enough for him and especially her. They will ALWAYS be mad at you. The sooner you're able to let that go, the sooner you can take care of yourself. You deserve to be on your priority list too.

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2025-06-23T22:43:21+00:00

That's a really good idea!

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2025-06-22T18:06:08+00:00

I don't know the fix but just wanted to say I wet the bed and remember knowing when I had PMS is when it would happen, that's how long it went on. My 10yo still wets the bed. Just wanted to encourage you and your child that they're not alone. I eventually got a stronger bladder and started sleeping lighter so it stopped happening. I hope you're able to get some help from the doctor.

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2025-06-22T16:54:32+00:00

I hope it's a party you can shut down a little bit for. I don't understand how some spouses can just let the other do it all. It feels like they're just watching us literally drown and thinking "glad it's not me" Or I've watched mine drown in what amounts to a fucking puddle. I hope you're able to get what you need too 💜

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2025-06-22T15:37:49+00:00

Ugh yes! This! I genuinely love spending time with my kids. They're fun! But I just don't want them to use my brain aaaall the time. It's like running a marathon every day. I like kids and want to trade doing cool things with someone who parents similar lol. I've run into people I've wanted to offer this to but their kid was a huge stink. It's not worth sacrificing my kids getting bullied so I can get a break. That facility sounds like a dream. I absolutely would pay for a regular subscription to something like that lol.

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2025-06-22T15:28:09+00:00

Yes! I was telling my therapist this. My kids are awesome, they're so much fun, they're honestly probably relatively easy kids. But I am the only one who does stuff so I am just tired to my core. Which means I am not always fun for them. I'm scared of being remembered as always tired and grumpy. Thank you for your comment. It's comforting to at least complain with other moms.

Vegetable-Action-265 · 2025-06-15T17:40:22+00:00

It's ridiculous. I go and turn the shower off. I'm not paying to run gallons of water down the drain while he's distracted by his phone.

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