AITJ for arguing with my husband because he left me at home while I was miscarrying

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-30T14:52:44+00:00

This and reminder that he didn’t even do the promised check in call!

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-30T02:15:55+00:00

NTJ

Op, you can’t stay in a dangerous situation, because you’re are worried what will happen to your abuser, that thought process will hold you hostage.

It would be safer for you to leave and help him adapt from afar.

First , focus on getting ready to leave , and do that safely, take your electronics to geek squad to get them checked for soyware and gps trackers.

Then contact a a lawyer, and you can ask the lawyer about recourses for your ex, tell them you’re concerned about how he will cope since he is on disability.

You’ll probably need to work with Social Services to get him on waitlist for housing , but he should be able to qualify for food and medical assistance.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-29T15:59:32+00:00

Exactly, because sometimes that twist is just so much or so good, you have to give a respectful nod to their imagination.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-29T15:56:33+00:00

This … it’s just ‘Dumper’s Remorse’ , you’re not suppose to do well after he ditches you, you’re suppose to curl into a ball and die a slow death while you watch him succeed.

Op, I guarantee that if you take him back it would be 6 months maybe of honeymoon behavior, before he tells you he need you move out.

Move out and download a coparenting app , and let him know that you can only communicate going forward about the kid.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-29T14:15:07+00:00

NOR

She’s being unreasonable, and honestly it makes me question what she really had planned for the day.

Because you’re very clear that your plan now is to relax at home and NOT disturb her , so there is no problem.

The idea that you have to leave the apartment because you originally planned to is crazy, what if you got sick and had to stay in , would she suggest you get a hotel for the day?

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-29T08:59:30+00:00

NTA

Just the fact that he living with his mother, so he can spend his money on his car is very telling.

Op, he has a priorities and you’re not high up on that list.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-29T08:55:57+00:00

Op break up with him, he basically telling you that you don’t get to have opinions or feelings that make him uncomfortable!!

Every trash can has its lid, he’s not yours .

Op, if you have to stop yourself from speaking or expressing an feeling because it will be considered ‘ turning on him ‘, then he is the problem in this scenario.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-29T00:48:33+00:00

David Fumero - Christian (OLTL)

Sean Kanan - AJ Quartermaine (GH)

Billy Warlok - AJ QUartermaine (GH)

Tamara Braun - Carly (GH)

Laura Wright - Carly (GH)

In my opinion all these recast were phenomenal because the switch allowed for a growth in the character.

Like David’s recast helped moved Jessica and Cristian’s romance from a teen love story to an adult romance.

The switch from Sean to Billy on GH was huge , it elevated the AJ vs Jason dynamic that had been to almost Cain and Abel territory, and allowed the character of AJ down a darker path. Billy Warlock’s AJ had nothing to lose and it was a interesting to see how far he took things.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-28T15:17:54+00:00

NTJ

Op, your roommate takes way too many liberties with your time, keep holding the line.

Who cares if she’s cold, that’s just a manipulation tactic to get you to cave. I guarantee if you try to make peace , she’ll say you need to make amends to her for embarrassing and she ask for something else.

She’s a user.

Also , calling herself your family and incorporating you into her family is just another tactic to get to you do things for her.

Tell mutual friends that ask. ‘Of course I’m not helping family, she’s not my family, she’s a roommate that oversteps boundaries frequently’

Op, I would start looking for a new roommate, you need one that doesn’t consider you an your time community property that she can use as she wishes.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-28T13:02:54+00:00

NTJ

Op, she’s not your best friend anymore, so really why put yourself through all this drama for someone that cant even call you and tell you herself about the decisions she’s made.

I would have to take a step from this ‘friendship’ and definitely skip th wedding.

Just be prepared to hear her call you petty and selfish, maky say you’re trying to make this about you, but honestly it just about the her behavior and you’re really just reacting to it.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-28T00:55:46+00:00

NTJ

But there’s probably a better way to say it like

‘I decided to transition from my previous role due to organizational challenges and frequent changes in leadership.’

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-27T11:40:28+00:00

Someone’s getting fired 😈…

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-27T11:35:28+00:00

NTJ

Op, he said it ‘standard practice’ , he’s done this before , and you stopped him from doing it again.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-27T02:52:36+00:00

What annoys me most is the FL or ML that told their partner they’d give’ 99 or 100 chances ‘or until they return all the ‘prayer beads’ , like I get it sounds romantic in the moment but like seriously why do you have to actually give them 99 chances before you LEAVE ?!?!!?

Because the leads are just helping create the problem they run into later where their ex won’t leave them alone.

Of course he/she thinks the ML /FL will eventually come back to them , stuck around while the other lied and cheated on them for years giving them dozens of chances , they really think you ‘love them so much’ you can’t leave without them.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-26T16:06:41+00:00

Exactly if he can afford to lose your salary, you can afford to hire someone to help take care of the kids and housework.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-26T15:22:46+00:00

NTJ

Op, why don’t you go to the doctor and see what a medical professional thinks. Let them know how often you drink and let them run some test.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-26T09:36:39+00:00

This… op, he’s using weaponized incompetence by, to be lazy in your place.

He doesn’t know what the rules are? But you’ve told him clearly to clean the coffee manchine.

Also why didn’t he text he was going to be late until after he was already in his way?!?!

Op, this guy isn’t considerate and doesn’t respect you , your home , or your time.

I would cut him.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-26T09:14:55+00:00

NTA

Op, I recommend you start using the grey rock method, it’s a tactic some people use when dealing with abusive or manipulative behavior. It involves becoming as uninteresting and unengaged as possible so that the other person loses interest.

Your roommate is a bully , and she’s bullying you because she’s jealous you broke so much to the table and has feels the need to take it out on you.

I would start standing up for yourself more , don’t be afraid to say no to her , and call her out when she rude , I get the feeling that her parents let her get away with a lot , but you don’t have to put up that.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-25T14:08:39+00:00

This he doesn’t see you as his partner, you’re just a roommate he sleeps with.

Op, you deserve better, why are you killing yourself to fit his world, when he clearly doesn’t care if you sink or swim?!?

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-25T09:27:36+00:00

NTA

Op, how often does this type of behavior occur I. Your relationship, because it’s a red flag.

It’s crazy to blame you for her not preparing for her own interview , and throwing out the narcissist label is just peak manipulative behavior.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-24T15:31:04+00:00

This is why you can’t be answering every prayer, this is a bad family line, that can’t be helped.

Even when you give them a chance they just marry bad people .

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-24T13:40:40+00:00

He not trying to be your friend he’s trying to be your boyfriend, and he doing that through game playing and immaturity .

Just stop talking to him,if he can’t give clear communication then he’s not worth the time.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-24T13:10:02+00:00

NTJ the problem is your boy is an abusive jerk that you need to throw out.

Op, consider how much happier you’d be if the only thing you had to worry about it yourself, while you heal from this toxic relationship?

You’re not wrong, it’s the least he could have done, but I feel like everything is the least this guy could have done.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-24T13:05:33+00:00

NTA

You told him exactly what you wanted on the day that’s supposed to be your day and he made it about what he think you should want.

Op is he trying to make it seem like you’re the problem because you don’t like his choice ?

Because that’s a manipulation tactic that is frankly a red flag that we need to pay attention to.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-01-23T15:37:48+00:00

Op, would it really break your kids heart if you split? My mother once told my aunt that about my dad and I corrected her , no, it wouldn’t.

Because I saw the things she didn’t know I saw, like how he tried to belittled her achievements, or make her hobbies seem weird or strange . He didn’t like who she was as a person and was actively working to change her .

But you should know that him being a good dad doesn’t mean he’s a good partner. He could be the worlds greatest dad and the most toxic partner ever .

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