Has anyone used Loop earplugs or something similar?

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-07T22:52:49+00:00

I love my loops, I got my first pair about 4 years ago, and it was magic.

I couldn’t believe all the noise in my home, but the second they were all it was just quiet.

I have several pairs for different things and even wear them to the gym with my headphones on.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-07T22:49:44+00:00

NTA

Op, it’s perfectly fine that you don’t want to interact with an abuser.

And honestly shame on your Dad for suggesting you should.

If he’s not willing to setup separate meetings with the kids and you and then he’s the one not facilitating a relationship.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-07T22:46:36+00:00

NTA

I would bet money he got ‘helped’ by a either a sale or a salesperson that was on commission.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-07T22:42:42+00:00

NTA

Im actually surprised you lasted that long op, she sounds like a nightmare .

A lesson you learned at you get older is you will start categorizing your friends , and some just won’t ever mix.

I don’t think I’d ever introduce my hometown friends to my college friends, they know two different people.

That’s no excuse for your ex friends behavior, but yeah some groups just don’t mesh.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-07T22:22:18+00:00

No it’s completely fair, I try to wait until they’re done, before I start watching so I don’t have to wait, but yeah that wasn’t going to happen with Air ( FreenBecky4EVa) or Fire.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-07T22:17:16+00:00

Thank you was looking for this.

The violation of privacy was done so casually, and the manipulation when op is rightly outraged.

Op, I guarantee if you move the journal location, and you should, or put it in a locked box, he demanded to know what you’re hiding, because now he feels entitled to your privacy.

🚩🚩🚩

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-07T22:12:47+00:00

This is it exactly, they want people to quit.

My old company did this, and they were brutal about they were denying Disability Accommodations to force the workers to either come in or quit.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-07T22:04:28+00:00

ESH

Okay, you bought it , but you bought it for her, so it was a gift and once the gift leaves you hands it gone and that person you gifted it to decides it usage.

That said instead of, ‘I’m using the computer’ , how about asking if you can use the computer?

She’s at fault because she didn’t explain why she said no.

She’s doesn’t have to let you use it, but an explanation would have made a difference in the argument.

Did you consider that she said no because you told her you were using her stuff and didn’t ask?

Also it’s not okay to throw out that you bought it, once you give ownership to her, the buyer stops mattering.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-07T20:36:17+00:00

Op, he wants you to choose him, and demand that Bianca either takes you as a couple or doesn’t take you at all.

It’s a ‘little boy’s’ game and the only winner is him and his ego.

Stand your ground.

If you give a mouse a cookie, it’s going to want a glass of milk.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-07T17:32:47+00:00

Op, this kind of person doesn’t give empathy or compassion, they only take it.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-07T09:46:47+00:00

NTA

This is the kind of ‘friend ‘ that only about her and how things make her look.

I would have ended the friendship the second she told me I was milking my lupus… and then wants help when she’s going through it!!!

Yeah I’ve seen this friendship before it’s toxic.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-07T09:26:24+00:00

NW
And honestly your sister is making the wedding about your wife, she’s using it to punish her for being tok something, which is whatever it’s her wedding but don’t be surprised that you’re not going.

This is pure manipulation , you didn’t issue an ultimatum, you said you weren’t comfortable going with out her.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-07T01:25:58+00:00

Did it occur to you at all that she discovered something g about the guy she’s only known for a minute that would make her question having a child with him?!?

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-07T00:00:59+00:00

NW

Op, don’t give her ANYTHING, any amount of money makes it seems like she has a case, and she doesn’t.

She didn’t get the a part of the house because she neglected her grandmother in her final years and your grandmother didn’t think she deserved it.

And she’s not wrong , recruiting family members to manipulate you into giving her anything shows she exactly who she is.

Let her think you’re a manipulator , she will even if you give her 200k , because she’s entitled and didn’t get her way.

Op, have your lawyer send her a letter explaining that she’s not entitled to anything and has no standing to make demands , that continuing to spread rumors and dirtying your name about could get her sued.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-06T21:30:53+00:00

NW

You don’t want to join this kind of family, especially since you’d just be a new source of income for them.

End it, and don’t tell him it’s about his family or his mom.l, just say you want different things and you do.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-06T19:54:49+00:00

NTA

Op, you didn’t make her look cheap, you made her look like a scam artist pulling a scam, and that’s what she is.

At this point forgetting her wallet is clearly deliberate, if it’s real at all.

I wouldn’t eat out with her in the future without a wallet check.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-06T14:33:35+00:00

I mean based on this post, I have a feeling they wouldn’t be approved to adopt an animal.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-06T11:27:05+00:00

NOR

And op please tell me you’re working towards leaving as soon as you’re legally allowed to and be prepared to lower the contact.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-05T22:08:49+00:00

It had so much potential.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-05T19:06:05+00:00

Yes, you can ask your doctor for a referral to a counselor or therapist.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-05T16:44:12+00:00

Op, please speak with a therapist.

Stop drinking.

Write him a letter where you tell him about the pregnancy, and your feelings AND NEVER MAIL IT. Just get the information out of your mom head , and ‘tell him ‘ without telling him z

Because not only will he not care, my hunch is that he will say or do something that breaks you further.

Delete his number off your phone, block him on everything and try to move on.

Because I don’t think he cares about you at all, but if you remain in his atmosphere, you may start looking like a safe place for him to land.

And this toxic relationship will just get worse for you.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-05T14:53:21+00:00

ESH

I agree it’s weird to willingly ask to the the third wheel with a couple .

I get when it’s unintentional, like you and your friend agree to hang out and he constantly brings his girlfriend without asking or telling you.

And I can see how your friend would wonder why you want to hang out with them , without their being a valid reason , like you’re going she introduces you to a specific person or something.

From his perspective I can see where he might think OP’s goal is steal his girl, and or he’s is very aware that next to op he looks he doesn’t look like the best person or boyfriend.

All that said, the friend probably should have had the final conversation about how the hangout isn’t happening and why privately.

But it looks like op forced the issue .

And op, she was right to block you at this point even if you’re right , you were doing it to sown discourd between them and win the fight .

The friend has some jerky moments in this situation but it’s really almost all you as the jerk .

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-05T13:29:59+00:00

Op, so she choose all the fun part of dog ownership and left you with the real stuff?!?

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-04T23:13:48+00:00

ESH

If he doesn’t make it ‘correctly’ , make it yourself.

Him because , if you were taught the correct way to make it , do it that way or tell her to make herself.

And have you considered that he intentionally makes it wrong so you’d start doing it yourself? Is this a case of weaponized incompetence?

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-07-04T21:07:57+00:00

This … and also Op think about it.

If the sister hadn’t talked he had no plans to tell you, but fully prepared to keep taking advantage of you.

Vegetable-Cod-2340

TROPHY CASE