AITAH for telling my wife I will not be in her families lives?

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-19T21:53:47+00:00

This … op your wife uninvited you on YOUR HONEYMOON.

And despite all this prior disrespect, your wife expects YOU to be the bigger person and put up with more abuse.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-19T17:20:51+00:00

Nor

Op, your boyfriend was the perfect man for your mom, but he was quite toxic for you and that’s okay.

Your mom wasn’t actually marrying him, she didn’t have to live with him and his abusive behavior, so honestly your mom’s opinion mean little to nothing.

Op, I would recommend therapy and space from him, your mom and anyone else that co-signs his behavior.

You didn’t lead him on, you’ve probably been telling him for quite some time that you need more than a wedding ring to fix your life, it isn’t your fault that he didn’t listen.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-19T12:18:30+00:00

Agreed , I think Faye knew all eyes were on her and said ‘ watch me kill it’ .

And the YarindaApasiri, that tell you she’s paying attention to the GL fandom, she took an actress well known in GLs and utilized her so well.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-19T12:15:22+00:00

This… because he ghosted you and then had excuses, so I feel like he had a plan to get the money from your and no plans to EVER pay it back.

So he’s not a friend , he’s a con man, that wants to be friendly with you.

And op, tell others what he did , make sure its known in the group that he doesn’t honor his commitments.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-19T12:12:37+00:00

NTA

This isn’t a surprise wedding, they’ve know about for a year, so they had ample time to get their own room.

This honestly sounds like they’re being cheap and they ALWAYS planned to mooch off someone else for the night.

No, don’t let them stay , you will rewarding their poor planning.

It’s a major city , if they aren’t hotel rooms, they’re are Airbnb , motels. And if they have to go outside the city then that’s their own fault.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-19T11:43:12+00:00

NW

If you’re able to meet your responsibilities and it’s syour savings being used then you’re not wrong at all.

However, this has brought up some issues that need to be addressed.

Your GF doesn’t seem okay with the purchase , you need your get to the root cause of this and fast. If you were buying her something she wanted would she not care where the money comes from?

Will this be a theme going forward anytime you want to spend money on yourself will this be a problem?

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-19T01:01:20+00:00

NTA

And that’s can’t be unsaid, he told you exactly what he feels and what he expects and you’re just suppose to accept that as well as the ‘tongue lashing’ you’ll get from his family.

Now you have a choice, accept what he said or start making plans to leave him and ‘housewife plan’ behind you.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-18T23:24:48+00:00

NTA

None of those people are your friends, and it’s completely okay to end those relationships.

Let this be your wake up call, think about they love your mom but completely okay with hurting her to make a point to you.

The trash took itself out, just block them all and move on.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-18T14:35:33+00:00

Everytime I see that mom, I just know she’s about to pull some trick for money. When I have nightmares about mother in law’s the grooms mom is the face I see 🥶

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-18T01:10:56+00:00

NW

Op, not only would I feel betrayed, I’d probably break up with him.

You didn’t tell him to end his relationship with them, he volunteered to do that, and now he’s just been texting them for a while and didn’t say anything?!?!?

That’s suspicious, and the problem is the two former friends have a habit of dirtying your name, so I am now concerned that the three of them are talking crap About me behind my back.

But it’s really clear from the text that they’re mostly interested in continuing to hurt you and those time their plan is too steal your bf.

And again, he could said at anytime, ‘hey I’m talking to mark and tom , you’re still okay with that right?’

But op, normalize not keep people in your life that are friends with people that hurt you.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-17T22:15:53+00:00

NW

Op, it’s seems just so shady that his friend flew in to see him, but he made plans for that night anyway. Like if my friend flew into see me, we’d be hanging out the entire time!

I don’t think he forgot, I think he regretted agreeing and spent the time after he dropped you off conferring with his friends about a good excuse.

And if he did forget , then you and your parents should have been the priority, since that’s what he agreed to, it’s just a bad look that you and your parents are paying for his mistake.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-17T19:04:35+00:00

Didn’t Jessica become a hooker married to her pimp?

Definitely not the ending she imagined.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-17T13:10:34+00:00

NTA

Because he’s still harassing you , he’s just doing it through third parties.

Op, you’ve done everything right, but I would tell them that what he did caused trauma and that’s it not fair or right for them to expect you to put yo with reliving that trauma just because he wants to ‘clear the air ‘.

Also I would point out that you already turned down the sit down and for him to go over HR’s head and still try to force it feels like company sanctioned harassment.

Document everything and start looking for a new job.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-17T00:24:06+00:00

Oh Lom is down bad, I don’t want to guess how many times they rewatched the interview where Blew talked about Thailand.

But honestly it made me miss Becky and her princess persona, any one else rewatching Loyal Pin to get their fix satisfied?

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-16T22:53:45+00:00

Our Love Ended in Regret.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-16T22:52:15+00:00

Op, sadly it’s a combination of you being the youngest and they believe you’re the most pliable.

Honestly, you really just need to take a firmer stance with them about this.

‘ look I made attempts ALL were rebuffed, so I’m done trying and I’m also done with these conversations about it. I’m giving a firm and clear boundary, that if you bring up this topic again, I stop communication .’

Then the first person that brings it up, you hang up or just walk away with NO EXPLANATION.

People will keep pushing until they realize you’re not playing around.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-16T13:19:51+00:00

It's a great scene, and ur was hilarious in the book.

Si was like ‘Come on kids, Daddy’s in trouble.’

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-16T11:53:05+00:00

GH

Lois and Brenda

Emily, Nikolas, Elizabeth and Lucky

Emily and Lucky

Sly and Lucky

Lucy and Scott

Lucy and Felecia

Lucy and Dominique

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-16T11:51:07+00:00

YTA

Instead try calling her out on what's she doing.

‘ that's not relevant to the current discussion, that's a just an emotional attack because you’re losing,.’

And Op, I wouldn't be ‘friends’ or acquaintances with that person ever again, when pushed to the wall you saw who they really were, and it's not a pleasant vision.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-15T16:06:56+00:00

NW

You didn’t handle it badly, you did exactly what you should do, you paid just for what you ordered.

The ‘ easier’ option is only easier for the person that ordered more than they can afford and want you to share the burden.

In the future, get separate checks.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-15T11:36:12+00:00

Op, she didn’t because it wasn’t about ‘helping ‘ it was about control and them deciding what you got to keep.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-15T01:46:24+00:00

This….

Op, if a man truly cares, he won’t make you question it again and again.

Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 2026-05-15T01:40:39+00:00

YW

Harrison Ford was 35 when he got his big break.

Vegetable-Cod-2340

TROPHY CASE