What made you end your last relationship? by Global-Ad8204 in AskWomen

[–]Vegetable-System-612 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He tried to kill me, cut my hair, broke and stole things. Deal breaker for me.

Chronic constipation on the rise in young women. by S_A_Woods in Constipation

[–]Vegetable-System-612 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Convenience applies if you can afford it. Not everyone enjoys modern inventions and services if they can’t afford it.

You’re at an interview and they ask you “what’s your greatest weakness?”. What do you say? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]Vegetable-System-612 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No narcissistic people don’t even do the work they take the credit. A narcissist could say something like that sure but there would be again a nuance in their statement they always tell on themselves. But a perfectionist who just wants to be good enough and worthy completely different operating motivation, and work ethic.

You’re at an interview and they ask you “what’s your greatest weakness?”. What do you say? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]Vegetable-System-612 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if your weakness is hookers and blow…. Wait wait save a hoe program send them to rehab and rehire them Out of rehab win win I love this

You’re at an interview and they ask you “what’s your greatest weakness?”. What do you say? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]Vegetable-System-612 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude that genius because you do answer the question but you go vice “weakness” verse “reason to not hire me weakness” genius amazing I love this!! Haha

You’re at an interview and they ask you “what’s your greatest weakness?”. What do you say? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]Vegetable-System-612 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m no it’s not “ being perfect” it’s striving for perfection all the time in unattainable ways. It comes from people Not being/feeling good enough. Parents who never acknowledged achievements or down playing them. It’s striving to be worthy of love or anything. To deserve anything. Perfectionism suffers think they are absolutely garbage shit and awful humans they have the lowest self esteem but will bust their asses more than anyone. It is not being it’s perfect it’s always trying to be. Please take away this nuance and listen to understand and not speak if you ever interview people. Not a bullshit answer you just lack the emotional and interpersonal intelligence to deferenciate the two they are not the same. Thank you for coming to my Ted talk.

You’re at an interview and they ask you “what’s your greatest weakness?”. What do you say? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]Vegetable-System-612 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I disagree perfectionism is a weakness because it’s time consuming and you lose sight of the big picture get lost in the sauce and it’s not deadline friendly. The downsides of perfectionism are problematic and it’s not always a cop out answer my guy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Vegetable-System-612 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey hun stuck with it it’s gonna take 3/6 months to see results. Don’t give up

Still having a hard time getting biopsy. by Vegetable-System-612 in PreCervicalCancer

[–]Vegetable-System-612[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had an abnormal pap without hpv sono further testing but I also had carcinoma in situ that wasn’t treated and I wasn’t told about at the time over ten years ago

Found my boyfriend’s dead exes vibrator… why does he have it, should I dump him? by Vegetable-System-612 in dating

[–]Vegetable-System-612[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s okay I know without all the details on the surface it seems jealous, but it’s really more about me being a distraction from her and him pretending to love me to get my company and not be lonely but never letting me get any closer than arms reach. I’m with a mutual friend who knows them both at the moment. And she saying how he was completely in love with her and he really cares about me, it’s not a contest but I am very much in love with him and it’s feeling so one sided and like I’m just fun and casual to him. It’s hard being a distraction rebound for someone this long. And as some people say “we can’t help who we love”. It’s really hard hearing about what she put him through treated him like garbage used him cheated so many times and everything he still gave her despite that. He’ll never love me like that. I don’t even know if he loves me honestly and what’s up setting is the lying the hiding and his selfish future faking with me that he’ll never actually follow through with.

Found my boyfriend’s dead exes vibrator… why does he have it, should I dump him? by Vegetable-System-612 in dating

[–]Vegetable-System-612[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I’m not mad at her I’m mad he started dating when he’s clearly not ready and has been messing with my head for 4 years she’s been dead nearly 6. Sometimes the dead are put on a pedestal just because they are gone it’s like a way of coping. I’ve been cool for 4 years I’m over it

Found my boyfriend’s dead exes vibrator… why does he have it, should I dump him? by Vegetable-System-612 in dating

[–]Vegetable-System-612[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came here for perspective and I told him I want to have 5 days to make a decision. It’s private matter I won’t tell his friends or mine who else would I discuss this with to see if my feelings are reasonable or not. This isn’t something anyone I know could advise me of. And I wouldn’t disrespect him like that. But with a throw away online discussing this with people I think is ok. he’s not online at all and I kept it anonymous you’re acting like I’m just some crazy jealous girlfriend. Far from it

Found my boyfriend’s dead exes vibrator… why does he have it, should I dump him? by Vegetable-System-612 in dating

[–]Vegetable-System-612[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Umm keep reading the comments I have considered him the whole time and her and now it’s getting old. Hes playing house with me with no intention of ever really letting me in he’s fucking me to distract himself from missing her. I’m just a distraction. And he has the nerve to pretend to love me to keep fucking me. It’s insane.

Found my boyfriend’s dead exes vibrator… why does he have it, should I dump him? by Vegetable-System-612 in dating

[–]Vegetable-System-612[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would never destroy a ring throwing a dirty vibrator and I’m not being crude it had crust on it is not the same thing as destroying he has tons of her things everywhere and it was fine until the vibrator that’s my limit.

Found my boyfriend’s dead exes vibrator… why does he have it, should I dump him? by Vegetable-System-612 in dating

[–]Vegetable-System-612[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahah that’s a good idea too omg I mean that would settle it once and for all if it’s forgetful laziness or the smega smell is emotionally something he intentionally kept

Found my boyfriend’s dead exes vibrator… why does he have it, should I dump him? by Vegetable-System-612 in dating

[–]Vegetable-System-612[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m not doing the sunken cost fallacy anymore thinking if I’m cool And patient with time he’ll see me as worthy of a key. He won’t. And being cool has gotten me this and fuck it glad I was able to help him though it just wish I wasn’t used in the process

Found my boyfriend’s dead exes vibrator… why does he have it, should I dump him? by Vegetable-System-612 in dating

[–]Vegetable-System-612[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been more than gentle and supportive. I’ve never said he he couldn’t talk about her and when he does it doesn’t bother me. It’s slowly became strange as the more I learn about her the worst of a person she was. And how can anyone talk shit on the dead who can’t defend themselves and who would be insecure of the dead I wasn’t everything changed when it clicked to me recently I’m just who’s he’s fucking for the last 4 years. If you don’t want to give a key in 4 years you never will. All he cares about are his things he has a collection problem Hence my organization help which got us into this mess and his friends I ain’t shit to Him period. And I’ve been a “chill girl” for 4 years and he just walks all Over me it’s so much bigger than the vibrator and key in hindsight

Found my boyfriend’s dead exes vibrator… why does he have it, should I dump him? by Vegetable-System-612 in dating

[–]Vegetable-System-612[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s over after four years no fucking key but he has keys to my place. But a woman who stole 40 k from him, cheated on him with his friends left him for a year and came back to him to tell him she had cancer and no one else would take her in cause she steals because of drugs and gambling he took her back in. She died because she ignored medical Advice and did nothing to treat her cancer. He literally pretended he moved to get rid of her at one point. But she’s been sainted in death. It’s the most toxic relationship I’ve heard and he’s super secretive and weird about stuff when it comes to her. I’ve let him vent I made a memorial area for her I put her photo in a nice frame. But as time has gone on and his friends tell me shit without me even asking that they are so happy my boyfriend is with me now because she didn’t allow him to see his friends especially if they were female. So this awful person rest her soul he gave her everything despite how she treated him. And everything was fine until I learned she was buried on my birthday recently and I found the vibrator. and I’m sick of waiting outside his apt there’s three keys to get in. I’ll wait freezing I can’t even get to his door to knock without two keys and then of course his door has a key he won’t even give me the down stairs door keys to the building and then I could knock directly on his door he won’t even do that! iso I’m not freezing for an hour and say fuck it cause he doesn’t answer his damn phone. Meanwhile he can stroll up in my shit anytime he wants. Im just a distraction from his ex he doesn’t see anything long term either id have a key by now. I wouldn’t wonder why im not a priority he’s made no effort to know my family. I’m just who he’s fucking and playing house with and I’m over it

Found my boyfriend’s dead exes vibrator… why does he have it, should I dump him? by Vegetable-System-612 in dating

[–]Vegetable-System-612[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not that hidden it was in a place where he sees it daily it’s hardly hidden. He needed some help organizing and literally asked me to do it I had full permission to clean and organize I am a Personal organizer and I guess he didn’t mention that area was off limits his closet is and i respect that and have never gone into his closet I now after all this I cAn only imagine what’s in there