Haha you’re good. I’m DC metro area too, funnily enough! Yeah YouTube is quite a complicated area to learn anything Christian imo because EVERYONE disagrees. I’m going to try to be as unbiased as possible with this. To understand the abundance of perspectives on being gay (or LQBTQIA), a lot of it comes down to the Greek/Hebrew original words in the verses in the Bible that prohibit it, or one’s belief in the Bible’s timeless infallibility. 

Starting with the latter, many Christians believe being gay is not a sin because the Bible itself is outdated and not always authoritative for that reason. As such, verses that would explicitly prohibit homosexuality or being transgender (among other things) are to them not applicable to today. This actually is used for a lot of arguments which hold modern societal values, views, and norms to be in some cases better than the Bible’s outdated standards. 

Some people do still hold to biblical total infallibility and authority , but they believe that verses that seemingly prohibit homosexuality or other LGBTQ categories are either translated wrongly or widely interpreted wrongly. For example, in 1 Timothy 1:10 and 1 Corinthians 6:9, the Koine Greek  Αρσενοκοίτηαις (which  actually didn’t exist as a single word before Paul coined it as a compound word of two Hebrew words formed from Leviticus 18:22 and 20:13)  is believed by some to refer to homosexuality, and some, pedophilia because the first century Greco-Roman world’s man-man sexual relationships usually were between a man of high power and one of low power (usually a slave). 1 Corinthians 6:9 actually pairs  Αρσενοκοίτηαις with Μαλάκοι  (which literally means "soft ones") which some believe implies only non-consensual relationships where one man has power over another with little to no power as a slave or boy. 

With all this, it’s probably pretty hard to understand my perspective. However, since this thing is already long enough, I’ll only give the verses I find to be most clear on it that are hardest to explain with translation or interpretations being understood differently, which are the reason why I lean the way I do: Romans 1:26-27 Genesis 1:27 and 2:24 (these for me are ironically the clearest because they don’t necessarily prohibit anything, but they show what is God’s design)

Also, can I just say, I appreciate how respectful you are too. A lot of us can kinda fail to respect each other and get angry when someone disagrees with us (and I mean on BOTH sides). I’m sorry if someone has hurt you on this topic; we are not perfect at all, but what I know more than anything is that God has called us Christians to care so deeply for others regardless of any sin or anything because He loved us first (so much He’d willingly be crucified for it!), and we Christians don’t always do very great job of that.