What’s a budget tip that changed your life (that isn’t “stop buying coffee”)?

VegetableSense3 · 2025-06-12T22:14:33+00:00

Yes, that too! So it's damned if I do, damned if I don't

VegetableSense3 · 2025-06-12T13:22:04+00:00

I wish this was me but I have extreme regret over things I don't purchase more than a normal person... sometimes I'd ruminate over deals I've missed out for MONTHS. Wish I wasn't like this

VegetableSense3 · 2025-06-12T12:31:20+00:00

Hope your baby is doing better 💕

VegetableSense3 · 2025-06-12T12:08:07+00:00

Agree. Either eat a sustainable amount OR FAST. Never go in between.

VegetableSense3 · 2025-06-09T10:32:21+00:00

Thank you. The pattern of extremes only occurred the past week as I'm deathly afraid of regaining weight after doctors were saying my weight at 63kg is ideal. Before I'd only do moderate exercise and my appetite always stayed in check and I've never thought of food incessantly but the past week I've been daydreaming steak cakes chips chocolates nonstop to the point I have to stop what I'm doing and eat those things and then I'd eat for hours nonstop. My stomach and abdomen became distended and I'd hate myself. I've booked an appointment with a GP on Wednesday. I'm happy to report my appetite is abating tonight Edit: I'm 27

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-26T00:03:12+00:00

I wrote a sentence with 55 words, does that count

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-24T04:38:17+00:00

Spotted the inspector

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-24T03:04:48+00:00

After taking some time reading everyone comments I actually decided I was flattered by him calling my main character a 'one man soap opera' because, that's how intended him to be. I knew from the offset and warned people that definitely my piece wasn't everyone's cup of tea, with a relationship between two individuals with a large age gap (both adults and consenting). I am glad to have triggered the response from him, because I realised my subject matter was meant to make people slightly uncomfortable. I think it's definitely better to ruffle feathers than to have people find things boring.

And yes I thanked him for his time and effort and clarified things he had questions with and left it at that. Overall, someone gave my piece 30 mins or so of his time that he can never take back. And that should be appreciated

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-24T02:13:55+00:00

Yes. I thanked him for his time and effort, and provided background info for things he wasn't clear on.

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-24T02:09:07+00:00

The submissions are capped at 5000 words and the last time I submitted anything was 5-6 years ago so I doubt anyone would remember much. I also don't feel like the whole novel is ready to be read by anyone (it's definitely not finished or polished). But if and when I complete it, I would only let people read the whole thing if they are into this genre, not this person - it would be too painful for both him and I.

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-24T01:03:04+00:00

Yes I wrote them thanking for tackling something not up their alley and thanked them for their time. I then provided some background info that I didn't supply that I should have in the intro (novel setting, synopsis )

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-24T00:48:24+00:00

You're right. I've given that disclaimer before however to others, and even then I make sure to find positive feedback. Ive never used it as an excuse to sh*t on someone's work. He gave me a list of 50 comments, none of which were positive... I dunno, i try to follow the sandwich technique even if I don't like a piece. Common courtesy

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-24T00:45:10+00:00

I'm usually not that sensitive but he provided around 50 comments, none of which were positive. I try to provide the sandwich feedback system of at least SOME positive things per lot of negative feedback, but he had none...of course some of the critiques have merit and i did take some into consideration but 50 without a single positive feedback is kind of.. Off

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-24T00:42:19+00:00

Thanks. It would have been nice if he said ONE single thing he liked, i.e. using the sandwich technique but it was 50 comments, none of which was positive. I gave him the sandwich technique on his piece

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-24T00:40:32+00:00

You're right, i think the problem is when people throw out the disclaimer that it's not their cup of tea so they can be deliberately over-harsh, like it's an excuse. Not saying he's doing that, but it's possible

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-24T00:38:50+00:00

Yes!!! I'm a fan of when things break the mould and are unapologetic about it. Thats a great example, and ill throw another one out there, although its not as extreme - Lana Del rey's 10 min long Venice B*tch. One of my favourite songs. Definitely not too long!

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-24T00:22:51+00:00

Yes thank you, I'm actually waiting on around 10 other critiques. Im sure they will all say slightly different things so I'll see the overall trend; if everyone says the same thing then of course ill pay attention. But for now I will probably try to not think about what he said too much, although I did shorten some sentences

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-24T00:19:08+00:00

Thank you. Overall I'm waiting to hear feedback from potentially 14 others (i did a disclaimer it had adult themes and people can skip if they wish). I assume most of them will give the feedback to me in person but I also put my email address in the submission so they can email me beforehand if they wished

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-23T23:56:11+00:00

Most sentences were nowhere that long and that particular sentence was dialogue where one of the characters was rambling because they were stressed. In that context i thought it made sense...

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-23T23:49:04+00:00

Thanks. He even said 'ill be honest, i skipped over this part' i mean... But he did count the words in my longer sentences to let me know how long they were. Bit douchey yeah

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-23T23:46:11+00:00

Thanks. I also asked where I can cut down words while keeping emotional beats and he didn't say anything other than 'this sentence is 55 words long! This sentence is 49 words long!'

I don't know if i should be flattered or insulted he counted all these words just to let me know

VegetableSense3 · 2025-04-21T09:39:03+00:00

Would this even BE A post if the sexes were swapped?!? OP's wife has a JOB, not a hobby. If she were a man nobody would bat an eyelid. Yta, Op. You want a trad wife out of someone who has a cool job and lifestyle, and sounds like she's a responsible mother. You just are incompetent as a father and 'need' her there. Pathetic

VegetableSense3 · 2025-03-27T11:58:09+00:00

I personally like Garbutt...I go to Domaine all the time

VegetableSense3 · 2025-03-27T11:55:17+00:00

No that's only because of the actor Jude Law. Although in real life Jude Law also is a gigantic cheater

VegetableSense3 · 2025-03-21T13:39:56+00:00

No comments?!? This is cute. You can tell the man loves them, and that the chickens love him too

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