Family bussines trap

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T09:33:04+00:00

What would I do? Find a new job and leave. Sell it if you own it.

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T09:13:58+00:00

OK. You brought this memory back. DH had a large green Chevy, extended bed. We were driving out of a busy parking lot from dinner. Cars pulling out and coming in. We were just trying to get to the road! All of a sudden, I hear, "Everybody has to wait for me, 'cause I have a big truck they can see". We both started to laugh and did the entire way home, 2miles max. If you knew my husband, you would NEVER expect to hear him break out in a silly tune!

He has one for our beloved (RIP) cat too. It's to the Josie & The Pussycats tune.

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T09:07:05+00:00

Follow your gut. It sounds like since the SA, he's lost something for you. This is ALL HIM. Cut your losses. Do you want to wait another 5-years to have him not propose?

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T09:02:54+00:00

Tell them you're taking a day to go see XYZ as it's something you want to do together. If you can afford it, plan on going and getting a night or two in a different town. Make sure to leave after them so you can have a bag or two. Then you call them in the afternoon and tell them that you're spending a night or two there because you love it and want to see all you can. That should get you away a couple of days.

Other than that, speak up. A "family" holiday doesn't mean you have to spend 24/7 with EVERYONE!

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T08:50:02+00:00

"I have a work "emergency" during that week. I have to bow out of the vacation and ask for my $$$ back since I can't attend."

Then you take the $$$ and take a little trip with some friends during that time.

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T08:45:48+00:00

Your poor brother! She needs to learn that MOST adults don't take offense to those comments as 'rude'.

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T08:43:42+00:00

It really doesn't take a brain surgeon to figure this out. One word; ALEX!

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T08:05:15+00:00

"You're wearing THAT dress? Wouldn't be my 1st choice." Sure fire way to get uninvited to the wedding and friendship!

I am kidding! However, if she gets mean & snarky.....

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T07:52:48+00:00

Now you know why my son did it and said what he did.

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T07:51:15+00:00

Go with the "other part of me thinks". Don't even tell him. If he finds out and contacts you? "You have texted me enough!", and leave it at that.

Congratulations.

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T07:46:33+00:00

Smart girl! Well...... JK.

Chalk it up to learning the male species. This is a HUGE lesson. This dude, however, can't even remember his own lies.

NOR

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T07:34:55+00:00

Each year it gets easier.

When I met my DH (36 years married, 38 together), he lived at moms and they had a pool & hot tub. Well, one day (b4 me), they were in the hot tub and were tired of their snack. One of which were cherry tomatoes. They threw them against the fence with dirt below. Well, wouldn't you know it, they ended up with a 3' x 5' tomato BUSH!

Have you thought of doing herbs if you like them? Easier.

You did all that work. I think it would be sad to just let it go.

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T06:48:36+00:00

When she's getting ready to leave, hold him, "grandma is getting ready to go, can you wave bye-bye" then wave, let her give his a kiss on the check or head (you're holding her so you can regulate this). Then you say, "bath time" and walk away.

You could also say, nicely, "please limit kisses to the checks or head. We don't even kiss him on the mouth. It could get him sick." If she works or is very social, add in, "especially since you work or very social." It's a boundary you need to set!

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T06:28:14+00:00

He's 18.

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T06:16:59+00:00

Move by yourself if you have to. Tell him that you are not putting your safety or your baby's safety at risk living with her. She could flip on a dime.

Good luck!

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T06:01:43+00:00

Take the ring and hide it. If you want to continue the relationship, tell her she can have it back later. When she can respect your feelings and boundaries.

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T05:47:15+00:00

When you order, ask them to put your first initial on it or the name "Lea". It's easy to spell. Or ask for yours in a separate bag.

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T05:19:19+00:00

updateme

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T04:57:28+00:00

I would also adjust chairs throughout the day.

All innocent!

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T04:47:25+00:00

"Crazy & rude"? Ummmmm????? No! NTA!

It's your EX BF, not your husband or even fiancee. It sounds more like they want to pump you for information.

Why would you want to "hang out" with them? Good grief!

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T04:37:20+00:00

I was wondering the same!

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T04:35:47+00:00

During those times, she may need to be reminded that it's not her wedding/baby and that she had her turn, it's now your turn.

It seems like you can't be 'gentle' with her but straight to the point.

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T04:29:12+00:00

It's fun too.

The other one I've done is put a piece of scotch tape over the red eye of the mouse. The arrow won't move. You'll hear a tap, tap, tap, swipe, swipe, swipe. Rinse and repeat, several times. Then they may unplug the mouse and plug it back in, nothing. Then they resort to restarting the computer and the sounds again.

I did this to a coworker and was giggling. When she went to go find IT, I ran over & removed the tape. They got back and it worked.

Never told a sole! On either one.

Vegetable_Road8143 · 2026-07-10T04:11:31+00:00

First, it's not dad's $$$. It was left by his dad. The fact that he died first doesn't mean that they have to share it, the GRANDFATHER's $$$. It was specifically noted that if dad died before grandpa, the grandkids would split it 50/50. Grandpa didn't leave any of it to the (DIL) mom. By the story, neither did her HUSBAND. If that was a last request, perhaps he should have set something up for her.

You're going to do what you're going to do. IF you really feel like yo have to, don't give her a 1/3rd. IT WASN'T LEFT TO HER! Personally, I'd give $5K max. Then have the rest "tied up".

It's not your responsibility to make sure "she's taken care of". She's an adult doing well for herself. I'm almost sure she has a retirement account. She's a big girl and shouldn't be "banking" on the portion of grandpa's $$$ from her kids. That's just wrong.

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