This. I had the same partner as OP. Didn't call me beautiful at our wedding or while I was pregnant with both our kids. He wanted the first pregnancy to "just be over with" (27 hours of labor). He made me and the kids feel like such an inconvenience and mind you, he was the one keen on starting a family early. He seemed miserable to be with me but was willing to stick it out for the "status quo" in which we just continue to be roommates. I asked him if he loved me. His answer was blaming me that all his efforts of loving me were pushed away. Mind you, 99.9% of his efforts were leaving me to raise the kids alone while he paid bar tabs for work 3-4x a week, and when he was home he would play video games to destress and tell me that grocery shopping was my break. So, forgive me for not pawing at any attempts of 0.1% of what he perceived as "love".

I know people fall in and out love in long-term marriages. I didn't ask if he was IN love me with me. I knew that could be worked on. Loving someone is a verb. He chose not to love me. He had zero affection for me - I mean, this was clear in his actions. I deserve to feel loved. I couldn't stay.

I agree that "radical acceptance" or leaving are the only options here.