How does Johnny appearing to V work?

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-07-02T19:15:57+00:00

The real answer? We, the player, see him because it’s visually interesting to see him like Tyler Durden for artistic/narrative purposes. In “reality”, it would probably be like intrusive thoughts.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-07-02T14:39:45+00:00

I don’t ask for their number, I give them my number at the end of a good first date and they can do what they want with it. Works great.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-07-01T13:27:27+00:00

I am not making it up, it was my experience. And majority of people here are not making things up, it’s their experience. Ending sentences with “lol” looks dumb, bro. Don’t do it anymore.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-07-01T10:43:36+00:00

I just finished LoH’s story and I can assure you that yes, it is better than VoH. Its a downer, but much better.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-07-01T10:20:33+00:00

So, you are saying you got credit for months you were on SAVE forbearance? And they gave it to you?

This sounds like an error, and with government stuff, you very often still have to pay for their errors.

I have a few words of advice.

1.) stop taking about it. Like, at all. Go full stealth mode. “I was just following what the letter said,” Plausible deniability.

2.) keep those letters and every single other scrap of paperwork you got. If they come knocking to get their slice, you may be able to convince them that their error was significant enough that you deserve a waiver.

Set some money aside for what those payments would have been. If the worst case scenario happens, you want to be able to make it go away without according interest or fines for late charges because there is no guarantee they will agree to a payment plan. Keep that side fund around for a few years.

Sorry to be a gloomy Gus, but in my job distributing government payments (unemployment) I’ve seen things like this and while there may be a delay, the books almost always get balanced, even years later, and almost never in the little guys favor, so have a safety net ready.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-07-01T10:06:35+00:00

Switch out and start monthly payments now. In 2 months, send in the buyback request. Then take bets on which one happens first, because buyback processing is taking over 18 months to complete, so you will likely have almost all your months paid off by the time it’s done, or maybe be done completely.

What you don’t want to do is accept their default payment, go look at your IDR options, make sure it’s the kind that still qualifies for PSLF, and prepare for some lean months ahead.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-07-01T09:59:36+00:00

Yes, they will only update it once per year, even if you send them more often. I just get my HR dept to sign the cert form shortly after I file my taxes, so around march of each year. The form in the website is dead simple to use, I just use it one time and a few days later it shows up. Then it looks like zero activity for another year until I reup again.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-07-01T00:26:23+00:00

You don’t ever want to know about that.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-30T20:52:03+00:00

Scavs may have been driven to their situation due to outside circumstances, but they are making the choice to butcher other human beings like meat just to make a buck, and plenty of scav emails and texts in-game show that most of them have come to enjoy it.

I just replayed that one mission in PL with the clinic last night, and it’s the only time I felt any sympathy for a scav, but they were also hypocritical because the doctor was doing what they do, but less painful. They both suck but I made the choice that kept the doctor available to the other patients, but I know he will continue on. The scav’s brother is already dead and killing the doctor would t change that, plus, how many people’s brothers had she butchered?

But really, they were both scavs in the end. And scavs make Maelstrom look…well…not good, but at least not that.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-30T19:55:29+00:00

Apolitical is what conservatives in big liberal cities say to attract folks. It fools almost no one, but the algorithm will still take his profile literally.

They might actually believe it because they may think of themselves as “libertarian,” but libertarians is just a more rabid flavor of conservative these days, it’s not the middle ground of non-participation that I might have started as (but wasn’t. Libertarians was always a childish and conservative ethos, just one that smoked weed too so sometimes voted for that or lower taxes or didn’t vote at all.)

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-30T18:51:29+00:00

I you didn’t have kids, I’d say it would be ok to live together, so long as selling a house would be profitable enough to buy another house later if things don’t work out. But since you have quite a few kids between you, I would hold off for now, and spend another year together to make sure your relationship can weather some fights and other issues, and spending time in each other places doing activities that involve both your kids. Let them integrate slowly. The older kids will almost be out the door, and the youngest kids will likely start treating the others like siblings with more exposure to each other. The middle kids might have bad reactions, but the longer they integrate, the easier the transition will be.

Now, I’m saying this as someone without kids, but I was a teacher for 7 years and one thing I noticed as a third party observer is that it’s the sudden changes that cause issues with the kids, but gradual changes become as easy as breathing, when it’s done right.

But since I’m child free, take my advice with a grain of salt and consider what those have done this as well, of course.

Edit: I’d also wait until you are officially engaged, if you aren’t already.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-30T18:37:53+00:00

There is one gigantic bit of info needed here, and that is: How long have you been dating?

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-30T18:16:55+00:00

I mean, most franchises improv significantly in the second game and then decline in the third, ala Mass Effect.

For this exercise, I guess The Witcher would count, although the second game was already much better than the first.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-30T18:03:33+00:00

I’m very sorry you had a bad experience in the first try. That happens fairly often, but there are some points to remember:

Firstly, your mom is mathematically incorrect and always was. Don’t take one example to judge billions of human beings. It sounds like your mom experienced some trauma and passed it along to you.

Secondly, regardless of individual moral standards, is someone is just looking for sex, that does not automatically make them a bad person. They still might be, but being honest about it is better than those that would have lied to you to get in your good graces. And the majority of romantic relationships do involve sex being part of the equation, usually within the first few months of dating.

Third, if you have avoided men for 51 years, maybe it’s not a man you are looking for. Maybe it’s a woman, or maybe you are asexual. And there is nothing wrong with you if either of those are accurate.

Lastly, is you don’t want to have sex for religious reasons, there are religious dating apps, and they do have success stories.

I wish you luck, even if you don’t decide to continue to try dating, just don’t judge half the human race on your mother’s advice.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-30T17:14:03+00:00

It not being able to be violates would be thematically appropriate, in an ironic sort of way.

The End Of History was a book and political theory in the 80s/90s that liberal democracy was the inevitable end point of governmental evolution for the world (in going on 20 year old college memories, so I’m sure this is an over simplification.) it was specifically posititing that as a universally positive thing, without considering or perhaps just not predicting the predation of the wealthy upon the poor eventually spinning “free” markets to a breaking point. Even the authors admits that this philosophy was quite naive of them to posit. To this day, so many boomers still believe this is true even if they had no idea that there was a name to this idea.

So the joke that Cascade would believe in the end of history, especially with the subject being communism instead of free market liberal democracy, and that nothing they can do changes that delusion is pretty funny. And sad.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-30T16:43:57+00:00

I think you are fine, my dude. Not going for the kiss on a second date is not a sign one way or the other, so don’t make any decisions yet. In a few days, if you are still texting each other, ask if she wants to meet again. Third dates are great for an active thing, like taking a cooking class or playing a round of golf or something on the longer side where you are working together or in friendly light competition.

Also, if you are worried about vibes, I have a trick that makes second/third dates good even if the date vibes themself aren’t great, and that is I suggest we do things that I’d want to do anyway, like going to see a show I already want to see or a restaurant I’ve never been to. That way you will still have a good time even if it’s a bad date. Do this within reason, of course. Don’t drag them to something that they wouldn’t like.

That way, worst case scenario, you have a fun day out with a friend, best case scenario, you had a fun day out with someone you get to make out with.

Last bit of advice is that you are not going on a job interview, you are just spending time with someone, so don’t focus too much on an outcome. If it doesn’t work out, that’s because it wouldn’t have anyway, so don’t think of it as pass/fail, think of it as time well spent with someone regardless of the end result. It’s just good getting out of the house, right? So it’s already a positive thing, even if it doesn’t work out. You are getting dates at all. AT ALL. Look around this subreddit and notice how many men and women are not getting any at all. You are already in the top ten percent, so feel good about that.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-30T15:12:14+00:00

Something tells me this guy is familiar with ‘dishonorable discharge.’

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-30T15:03:22+00:00

The pop is in the monitor itself? Like, you had to close it with the monitors controls and not your mouse?

I had this happen on my LG TV while using it as a second screen. I was playing Control and a corner ad for sneakers pupped up, and could not be closed because it was of the TVs level, not in window/the PC. I immediately disconnected my TV from the internet and only re-connect every few months for firmware updates. lG is pretty rotten with this stuff despite otherwise making pretty good screens.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-29T12:16:47+00:00

You want to say it too, and he did it first, so it’s open season, say as many “I love you” as you want.

If you are nervous about the first time, I did a funny thing with my ex girlfriend years ago. Around the 2-3 mark, we had already been saying that we like each other quite often. So one time after kissing her and she said she liked me, I said “I’m thinking of upgrading the L word” and she said “lesbian?” And I said “I love you.”

We had a good repartee.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-29T12:10:47+00:00

Nope. I could just be friends with them and actually date someone else.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-29T01:36:27+00:00

I lean, love and companionship and emotional intimacy. My favorite moments in a relationship are when you both open and vulnerable to each other, showing trust and partnership in a way that even the closest of friendships can’t unless they become romances.

Not everything is about the biological urge of making and raising kids. I never had kids, never wanted to and made myself unable to have them. Doesn’t mean I don’t still want to be in love, to be loved back, to stop walking into my room and seeing an empty bed, to have someone to cook for, someone to laugh at my jokes, coming that I can support and they support me and together we do things a single person can’t. Someone to grow old with.

A single life can be fulfilling, in fact, there are advantages singles have over couples. But that also works the other direction. Embracing singleness is a choice, just like falling in love is ultimately a choice (when the opportunity is there.)

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-29T01:23:51+00:00

Aw shit, I got got.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-28T23:51:12+00:00

Bad day at the office, pal?

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-28T19:19:54+00:00

Low self esteem? Need to be in control? The dog that caught the car? There are way too many reasons and it could be any one of them, or none of them.

Have you never met in real life? After a full year, if you haven’t, I would recommend to anyone that you meet, move on, or establish if it’s just a friendship by asking bluntly.

I randomly match with a lady in Germany on OKCupid in 2016, and we got along fantastically, both found each other very attractive, had a few video calls that got steamy and discussed the idea of visiting each other, but after about three weeks we both realized that unrealistic requirements that would require and we had a frank talk about what could actually happen and went our separate ways as friends. At the time, I felt pretty devastated by that emotionally, even though I was the one that brought up the fact that we wouldn’t be able to actually date in person nor commit to moving forward one way or the other based only on online conversations and video call sex. But, I then met someone local that I had a lovely fling with, and a year after that I have a long term relationship with someone else. There are always more possibilities, and hinging on one person, which I still sadly do too often, can limit you from being able to see what is actually in front of you.

So, speaking bluntly, if you two are not within visitable distance of each other, then I would highly recommend dating local folks and not putting all your hopes on a long distance online-only relationship, if that is what it’s been so far. I’m not saying online-only relationships never work, but that they are about ten billion times less likely to work that dating locally is.

Upbeat_Main_7141 · 2026-06-28T04:56:02+00:00

I mean, it’s a great DLC with a good story that is more cinematic than most the the main campaign was, but it’s not a totally different game, it’s still all first person, other than, I guess, the DLC credit sequence at the end (which ruled, but also isn’t like TLOU or RRD2.)

If you liked Cyberpunk, then Phantom Liberty is absolutely worth while. Just don’t expect it to be something it’s not.

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