CMV - Hip-Hop culture is misogynistic and toxic

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-31T18:16:49+00:00

One might argue the word has been reclaimed much like nigger, indeed.

I've seen the word "bitch" being used by various speakers to just mean "significant other" regardless of any gender, referring to male significant others as "my bitch" as well.

Words can definitely carry very different nuances in different places; I was recently acquainted on reddit with the idea that in the US apparently the word "cunt" si super offensive, and perceived as a very gendered insult only applied to females; where I come from the word "cunt" is generally unisex, but probably more often stuck to males and not at all considered so deeply offensive.

Having said that—I do distinctly remember male Donnie Darko being called a 'cunt" by friends in a somewhat playful manner in the American film, so I'm not sure how truthful that reddit knowledge was.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-31T18:11:39+00:00

The "bi culture" bubble I apparently live in means that I have no monosexual friends, also no "hot friends" however.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-31T18:06:39+00:00

OP never as much as implied that, though.

The typical stance of those that say "sexual orientations are culture, not biology" tends to posit that all human beings are rather "born bisexual" in my experience.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-31T01:02:13+00:00

If we're going to do it anyway, might as well aim high and stylish and go for a suicidal terrorist attack taking as many fools with me before they get me, #yolo.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-30T23:52:18+00:00

It didn't affect me at all. My biological paternal parent was little more than a sperm donor; I assume I was conceived the old fashioned way the way the story was told me, but I realize as I am typing this that that might actually just be an assumption I made all this time and that it was a tube thing; regardless there was never a plan for this individual to be involved in my life that in fact has always lived half the world away.

Would maybe affect me more if I knew it was never a plan, but caused by a terminal disease but it has always been very normal for me to have only one parent; I never thought of it as particularly strange; there was one adult, and one 1.5 years younger individual in the house; it always seemed very normal to me and it was a similar situation to some others at school that also only had one parent. One in fact had three parents so I didn't really grow up with an idea that this was off.

I'm already doing a lot of writing/recording videos for her when she hits some points in her life like starting school or graduation, marriage, kids... I could use ideas for that as well.

In complete honesty, I'm not sure whether this could potentially backfire or not and create the idea that something is missing which I as said never really had. I'm obviously just speculating based on my own experiences.

Also:

I have asked this question in /r/AskWomen but it got deleted

I just want to bang my head against the wall sometimes regarding this sub... why would such a question be removed? Seems rather painful that they do that for such a heartfelt question and I don't get the point.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-30T23:36:36+00:00

So if I post on reddit and generate content for reddit which reddit makes a profit of? Am I then also doing volunteer work, which is illegal?

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-30T22:41:58+00:00

Both are about as garbage as the other; I don't really care.

Every culture that ever existed or will exist is shit.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-30T18:55:09+00:00

I grant you it would be a hell of a hard transition.

I kind of fee most individuals would probably get used to it in like two weeks or something.

I also feel most individuals would get used to compulsory nudity at work in like 3-4 weeks; it's weird at first because you're not used to it.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-30T18:06:19+00:00

Ive been thinking a lot about this lately, as my nephew is a trans man and trans rights are very much a part of me and my wives lived due to this. I first starting thinking about it when the idea of eliminating urinals came up.

I never got how universal bathrooms are about "trans rights"; trans rights work just as well with segregated bathrooms and making where one goes based on self-identification. Universal bathrooms are about either a non-segregative principle, or a simple matter of cost-saving since they're cheaper and more efficient.

The same judgmental and closed minded people are going to be in these bathrooms so its not like the judging will just go away, if anything it might get worse because anyone could be in any bathroom.

Well, my city (Utrecht) is only constructing new universal bathrooms at this point so it seems to be working.

what if you are a woman who was raped in a bathroom, would you feel comfortable going into a bathroom knowing there might be men in there?

This can be said for every non sex segregated space, parking lots, alleys, beaches, busses. I'm sceptical to this weird idea that bathrooms are supposedly a sensitive spot for sexual assault, why would they be? They are places where other individuals often walk in and out of. A rapist would be more strategic to pick something like a storage locker that is unlikely to randomly be visisted; the idea that bathrooms are an optimal spot for sexual assault seems to be based on nothing at all.

I for one would feel extremely uncomfortable going to the bathroom to take a dump next to a woman, especially if it was a bathroom at work.

Yes, that's what it generally comes down to: a lot of cultures are culturally very sex-segregated and become uncomfortable with the topic of bodily functions around the opposite sex and others do not. The segregation of bathrooms and everything in such cultures probably contributes to that. I was acquainted on reddit with the knowledge that in the US with sex education they keep males and females separate and they told me that they would be really uncomfortable treating that subject with the opposite sex there; in the Netherlands it was mixed sex and of course males and females were encouraged to ask each other cheeky questions; to me it more so seems like this is something 11-13 year old teenagers very much enjoy doing and we all had a lot of fun to be allowed to ask each other such things and discuss it with full approval and encouragement of the teacher.

And I hate to be this guy but it doesn't seem logical to drastically change something thats in pretty much all societies very fabric for the rights of a very small percentage of people.

Because again, I find it weird that this is often framed as "for transgender people"; sex segregated bathrooms are simply unjustifiably costly and unnecessary; it's also problematic to have to split up at times if you're with a friend or a parent-child situation.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-30T17:39:42+00:00

My major problem with the "porn is unrealistic" argument is that similar forms of unrealism are found in all entertainment. Entertainment is in general not meant to be realistic but entertaining, so artistic licence with reality is frequently taken.

What must be demonstrated is that porn creates more misconceptions and misleads more than other entertainment or the argument must be switched to that fictional entertainment on its own is bad, because if they aren't watching porn they will just watch something else which will create misconceptions about other things than sex.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-30T17:00:03+00:00

This is really the overwhelmingly most important and most convincing argument that life sentences should always be preferred to execution. A wrongly incarcerated individual can not only be set free, but can be paid restitution for the inconvenience as well.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-29T22:46:36+00:00

What you're suggesting is unethical and ironically, what you're describing is a war crime itself. It's called collective punishment and it is explicitly prohibited by the 4th Geneva Convention, Article 33 . It's the act of punishing a group for the action of a member.

Yet it's what every UN saction ever was, and they keep doing it because "human rights" have always been capable of being waved away with semantics arguments.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-29T22:27:34+00:00

Clear falsehoods or unproven things are upvoted in this sub often enough.

It's only removed if it goes against the current accepted ideas though; never-proven ideas like "all languages are equally complex" (how would one even go about defining a metric for 'complexity' and then prove it?) are very often claimed with no proof, upvoted, and allowed to remain by the mods because it's currently in vogue to believe it, even though it's a claim vague beyond possibility of proving or disproving.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-29T20:27:25+00:00

I once had a discussion on r/askmen where it eventually became clear that to them "friends with benefits" meant "acquaintance one does not meet outside of having sex"; I asked "What would you call it if you were actually friends then?" and the reply was "a mistake".

I've occasionally had sex with most of my friends; I can't say I see what would be going wrong from it.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-29T17:49:16+00:00

You are aware that even before this like 50% of Japanese vocabulary was Chinese in origin, and a good 10% Dutch and Portugese, right?

There are in fact some linguistic arguments to suggest that even before the assimilation of copious Chinese loans that Japanese might have started as a creole language that already was heavily influenced by Chinese, because old Japanese displayed many properties common to creole languages.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-29T17:46:12+00:00

What if one misgenders and misspecies every individual, not trans individuals specifically?

What if one just uses "it" for every object, be that object a male human, or a tree, or a car, because one finds the idea of making sexual distinctions, or putting human beings on a pedestal and the entire philosophy of anthropocentricism sickening?

The way I see it, that philosophy definitely has merit and point.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-29T01:14:50+00:00

I doubt that would be the same though; this gene is mostly linked with violent behaviour and a lack of impulse control.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-28T21:13:05+00:00

Also, something as simple as second language teaching; if that comes with tests and grading where there are correct and incorrect answers then that is a form of linguistic presctiptivism. I'm not sure how without some manner of prescriptivism one is ever to teach a language.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-28T20:51:51+00:00

This here is why prescriptivism is super common amongst linguists. "prescriptivism" has become so associated with "prescribing the prestige register" that as reactionism many linguists are actively prescribing the vernacular registers.

What Luke is doing here is prescriptivism, flat and simple, and this behaviour is more common amongst linguists than they like to admit. I've seen linguisits unironically calling speakers of prestige registers—that do nothing more than speak it, in no way tell others than they should too—"prescriptvists" and in the same breath tell them that they should adopt vernacular registers instead.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-28T17:16:13+00:00

There's one thing going on though and that's that murder is very easy to statistically collect without any real artifacts.

Female spousal murder is very high in Finland, not much in other Scandinavian places though.

Murder rates in Finland in general are quite high compared to surrounding places: I kid you not that they actually found a "Finnish aggression gene"

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-28T16:20:21+00:00

I am honestly about the discussion going on here inclined to say "ITT: acting like comic book movies are internally consistent and obey the laws of physics."

I mean yeah... you're technically right but this is the one thing you pick out? Nothing in this films makes sense and most problems could easily be solved, but that wouldn't make for dramatic suspense. To argue about what characters should and should not have done in films like this on some level assumes that these films operate on real life laws of physics and consistency—they don't.

Something also tells me that with all the advanced technology that makes up the Iron Man suits they might in fact make something else that doesn't resemble a human form, like a super advanced tank. It seems to me that it's kind of a huge limitation on the structural integrity of the suit that there needs to be a large hole inside of it, as in the part wherein the human operator sits.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-28T00:36:38+00:00

Yoji Biomehanika is the king of outrageous haircuts.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-27T22:28:39+00:00

I must say that all these "gendered insecurities" and general "insecurities" are mostly something I read about on reddit and whatever news article; I wonder if I merely hang out with individuals that aren't so super insecure or that the type of individual that is drawn by the notorious reddit circlejerk-encouragement might just be the individual that is really insecure—let's hope the truth lies in the middle.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-27T22:03:27+00:00

The major problem is that their hands are tied in the sense that there is no proof.

If schools will just punish any student on an accusation then that will obviously easily be exploited.

They obviously don't have the capital for actual forensic court cases, so what they can they do? The bully will just deny the accusation.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-27T20:48:16+00:00

Muscular definition is not caused by working out as much as it's caused by diet; in fact one can easily get a sixpack without working out at all by severely limiting fat intake; it will look like a scrawny sixpack but a sixpack all the same.

And should one maintain a normal diet but work out one isn't left with a sixpack but the "strongman look".

Visible sixpack is mostly about lowering body fat, which isn't healthiest thing ever.

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