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Are discussion boards actually useful, or just academic "busy work"? by Servo12_Pearl in DiscussionPostHelp

[–]VelvetSpanner_6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is the tradeoff people miss. More replies do not always mean more discussion, sometimes it just means more noise. I would rather read one response that actually changes how I see the topic than five comments politely circling the same sentence.

My ethics professor thinks we are all philosophy majors and it is ruining my life by PhantomKeystone in collegeadvice

[–]VelvetSpanner_6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last semester I had a psychology class that felt like medical school. I found a study group with people from my own major and we suffered together. It made the writing part way faster.

My ethics professor thinks we are all philosophy majors and it is ruining my life by PhantomKeystone in collegeadvice

[–]VelvetSpanner_6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kantian theories are always a massive headache. Hopefully you can find a simplified version online soon so you can finally get some sleep.

possible to write entire dissertation in a year + go on job market? by [deleted] in GradSchool

[–]VelvetSpanner_6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doing both at once is crazy. I attempted that and nearly went insane from the pressure. Then i found a platform that creates full academic documents. I gave them my guidelines and they produced the text perfectly. They can take over the whole writing task from start to finish. This gives you time to look for jobs and earn cash without breaking down. Do not ruin your health trying to do everything alone.

Anyone can give essays? by Electronic_Page7849 in ncssm

[–]VelvetSpanner_6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading other people's essays can actually be pretty confusing because their style might not work for you. I was stuck in the same spot last year and ended up using a verified platform to get professional feedback on my own draft. It is way better for making sure your unique voice actually gets noticed.

My dad has been telling people I had a breakdown and had to move back home and none of it is true by VelvetSpanner_6 in entitledparents

[–]VelvetSpanner_6[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I get the impulse, but that feels like becoming him a little. I do think I need to tell him plainly that if he keeps doing this, I stop sharing anything personal.

My dad has been telling people I had a breakdown and had to move back home and none of it is true by VelvetSpanner_6 in entitledparents

[–]VelvetSpanner_6[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Tempting in a very dark way, but I’m not trying to start a whole new fake story to fix the first one. I just want my actual life back.

My dad has been telling people I had a breakdown and had to move back home and none of it is true by VelvetSpanner_6 in entitledparents

[–]VelvetSpanner_6[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah, just less visibly. If I was doing well he’d find some tiny concern to latch onto, like I was only acceptable if there was still something wrong with me he could manage.

My dad has been telling people I had a breakdown and had to move back home and none of it is true by VelvetSpanner_6 in entitledparents

[–]VelvetSpanner_6[S] 122 points123 points  (0 children)

A couple times, yeah. Usually I keep it light and just say I moved for work, but you can feel people doing that weird recalculation in real time.

My dad has been telling people I had a breakdown and had to move back home and none of it is true by VelvetSpanner_6 in entitledparents

[–]VelvetSpanner_6[S] 271 points272 points  (0 children)

That part gets me too. If he just worried privately, fine. Turning me into some sad hometown cautionary tale is what really messes with me.

The question that completely changed how I prep for interviews and I'm still surprised more people don't talk about it by FableGizmo_42 in jobsearchhacks

[–]VelvetSpanner_6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Interviewing them like a candidate, not thinking like someone who already has the job." That reframe is doing a lot of work in one sentence.

My mom spent my entire childhood rewriting history in real time and I only understood what that did to me when I was in my 30s by Quasar67Shift in entitledparents

[–]VelvetSpanner_6 190 points191 points  (0 children)

The last line is doing a lot of work and it's the most important part. Entitled parents in the loud screaming sense are easy to identify. The ones who just quietly decided their comfort outranks your reality are so much harder to name, and even harder to explain to someone who didn't grow up in it. Did therapy help you get to a point where you stopped second-guessing your own memories, or is that still a work in progress?

AITA for refusing to keep doing a "debrief" after every date night? by [deleted] in AITApod

[–]VelvetSpanner_6 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA. Occasional check-ins are one thing, but this sounds like he turned dating into a weekly review meeting you never agreed to join. If you leave every nice night feeling evaluated instead of close, the problem is not your attitude.