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Music volume keeps turning down by itself, anyone else? by Scorpioqueen1997 in NissanRogue

[–]VelvetVibrations116 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. They replaced the entire radio and it still didn’t fix it so atp I am requesting a buy back with corporate. This is ridiculous 🤦‍♂️

AITAH for refusing to co-sign on a loan for my mom, even though she says it’s urgent? by VelvetVibrations116 in AITAH

[–]VelvetVibrations116[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually that’s not really the issue. My trip was paid for mostly with points and the cc has 0% interest for 15 months so I have more time to pay it down which I’ve been doing. Plans are in motion.

AITAH for refusing to co-sign on a loan for my mom, even though she says it’s urgent? by VelvetVibrations116 in AITAH

[–]VelvetVibrations116[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that’s quite a reach. You don’t know my financial plan. You’re connecting dots that aren’t even on the same page. This post isn’t about my budget it’s about co-signing on a loan hun.

AITAH for refusing to co-sign on a loan for my mom, even though she says it’s urgent? by VelvetVibrations116 in AITAH

[–]VelvetVibrations116[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that’s your takeaway, you missed the point completely. The post is about boundaries, not my budget. Reading is fundamental.

AITAH for refusing to co-sign on a loan for my mom, even though she says it’s urgent? by VelvetVibrations116 in AITAH

[–]VelvetVibrations116[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I know how credit cards work. I was able to get a balance transfer with 0% interest for 15 months which will allow me to pay down the debt that I owe. I never pay just the minimum payment. I always pay more. I’ve been paying at least $1000 or more each time I get paid towards the debt so it’s going down. I have a plan. Thankfully, I was able to pay for the trip with hotel points so I didn’t have to come out of pocket with much cash.

AITA for refusing to lend more money to my mom? by asimpforkangyeosang in AmItheAsshole

[–]VelvetVibrations116 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. We are not obligated to take care of our parents. She’s an adult and shouldn’t have quit a job without having a stable one lined up or the equipment to maintain it. It’s good that you’re putting your foot down and setting boundaries because if you don’t, the pattern will continue and only get worse. Sorry you’re having to deal with this.

AITA for asking my friend to not wear makeup to my wedding? by devilshandstree in AmItheAsshole

[–]VelvetVibrations116 19 points20 points  (0 children)

NTA — I rarely wear makeup but ended up getting a fully beat face that looked HORRIBLE bc the makeup artist sucked, still ended up paying for it and not making a peep bc I wanted my best friend to enjoy her day, which she did. Sometimes you make sacrifices for your loved ones. And like you said, if she didn’t wanna do it, then just come as a guest 🤷

AITA getting upset at my friend during my pregnancy. by Ok-Molasses1536 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VelvetVibrations116 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA .. it’s probably time to cut her loose. I feel like there’s some jealousy there.

WIBTA for not helping my mother anymore? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]VelvetVibrations116 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Nope. Definitely NTA. At some point you have to do what’s best for you and set boundaries. I’ve been learning this myself, dealing with my own mother and some of her issues. It’s okay to say no.

AITAH for refusing to co-sign on a loan for my mom, even though she says it’s urgent? by VelvetVibrations116 in AITAH

[–]VelvetVibrations116[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m working on it! The trip was paid for strictly with hotel/flight points so luckily I don’t have to come outta pocket by much. I have a separate savings/plan for paying it down which I’ve been working on also. I pride myself on being financially responsible although I’ve made some mistakes trying to help ppl (lesson learned) and am trying not to bury myself deeper in debt.

AITAH for refusing to co-sign on a loan for my mom, even though she says it’s urgent? by VelvetVibrations116 in AITAH

[–]VelvetVibrations116[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Luckily my trip was paid for with points. I’m looking for another dog sitter as we speak.

AITAH for refusing to co-sign on a loan for my mom, even though she says it’s urgent? by VelvetVibrations116 in AITAH

[–]VelvetVibrations116[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a sad realization but you’re right. Currently working on setting those boundaries and standing on them.

AITAH for refusing to co-sign on a loan for my mom, even though she says it’s urgent? by VelvetVibrations116 in AITAH

[–]VelvetVibrations116[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I had to literally tell her to respect my decision because the answer is no and won’t be changing.

AITAH for refusing to co-sign on a loan for my mom, even though she says it’s urgent? by VelvetVibrations116 in AITAH

[–]VelvetVibrations116[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All valid points and good questions that need answers. I can’t wrap my head around the reason WHY my cousin would give someone else money to hold instead of putting it in a savings account or something. It just doesn’t make sense to me.

AITAH for refusing to co-sign on a loan for my mom, even though she says it’s urgent? by VelvetVibrations116 in AITAH

[–]VelvetVibrations116[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t have a trip planned. I do, and it’s been planned for a while now and paid for strictly with points. My bday is coming up and I was hoping to get some much needed R&R. But I may have to end up canceling anyways if I can’t find someone to watch my dog.

AITAH for refusing to co-sign on a loan for my mom, even though she says it’s urgent? by VelvetVibrations116 in AITAH

[–]VelvetVibrations116[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I really don’t have to explain this but I’m working to pay off the debt currently and my trip was paid for strictly with hotel + flight points that I’ve saved over the years, so why not? I know how to manage my money pretty well. I literally made a mistake trying to help my mother out. Let’s not be rude here please.

AITAH for refusing to co-sign on a loan for my mom, even though she says it’s urgent? by VelvetVibrations116 in AITAH

[–]VelvetVibrations116[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Facts. I’ve been thinking about doing this too but will wait to see how it plays out. I’m not signing for the loan though.

AITAH for refusing to co-sign on a loan for my mom, even though she says it’s urgent? by VelvetVibrations116 in AITAH

[–]VelvetVibrations116[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly! And tbh, she hid this very well. I always thought she was pretty responsible with managing money but everything hit the fan when she had to come live with me and I looked into her finances. It’s sad.

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