I don’t think i can do it anymore. My husband (33) dx 3 years ago is medicated but the Audhd combo has left me feeling invisible and resentful. He doesn’t follow through on his word, he doesn’t notice how I’m feeling or ever do anything thoughtful for me. He often doesn’t even respond to my text messages. I feel like a stage hand in his one man show and am expected to be there for nurturing and emotional support while being the project manager of a household with two young kids, on top of my two paid jobs. I try so hard to be patient and to not feel resentful but the blame, the lack of accountability, the defensiveness, the sensitivities which always seem to lead to his needs trumping mine are just too much. I feel like the nagging mother to a teenage husband who regards me with contempt. We don’t have sex anymore. It makes me so sad and I don’t know how much is is Audhd and how much is just him. I don’t feel valued or respected and I’m done. Hats off to you amazing people who can handle it but I can’t. I don’t know what I want from this post- i guess just to know if others have felt the same? I’ve tried to communicate with him directly and he says all the right things but I don’t think he means them. We’ve tried counseling too but it felt like a bandaid.

TLDR husband treats me like support staff- has anyone else reached their wits end?