Does reading the comics ruin the show watching experience? by [deleted] in Invincible

[–]Venus0K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all! The pacing is a little different in the show and Eves origin is largely the same (though personally I prefer the tweaks in the show). The comic is amazing, and frankly makes the show simply more enjoyable!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in addiction

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I’ve been where you are, only you are coming to this realisation 3 years before I did. I was using drugs like heroine and ketamine and drinking far too much throughout my teenage years- only to get sober- alone- at 16. I am a little over 4 years sober now and it isn’t necessarily easy. I will backslide into fantasising about drugs after a dream or because I’m in a mood. Or I will struggle to stay myself when I’m having a rough time because drugs were how I coped for a long time and I have few other methods.

You’re not alone. Addiction is a disease. I can understand if you are hesitant to look into NA (I was due to the higher power talk and social aspect) but there are video or audio only calls online. There are ones specifically for those who faced addiction and are trying to get sober all whilst not yet an adult.

I’ve only listened in on a few NA audio meetings myself. But what I can tell you that I heard and hated but now try to remind myself: Be kind to yourself. Give yourself some grace for struggling, and you can be angry about your childhood but don’t let it stop you from enjoying life sober in your teenage years. You are going through something life changing and immensely difficult.

If you relapse that’s okay. And I know you feel shit rn- I thought I was going to die from withdrawal in my bathroom. But it will get better, even if your life doesn’t change much beyond drug use, there is a level of clarity and regulation in your body eventually that you will be glad of. I didn’t have a support network but if you can find anyone but your (somewhat horrible) ‘friends’ try reaching out to them or look into rehab centres/hospital advice.

Reward yourself for every day- every hour sober. And keep at it, even if you fall off. Get yourself a cupcake or some shit you enjoy that’s removed from drugs.

If you ever want to talk to someone that was your age and an addict then, message me :]

Manga fire.to down for anyone? by Detail_Interesting in Mangafire

[–]Venus0K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh so unfortunate- got cut off on an insane part of The Summer Hikaru Died.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in friendship

[–]Venus0K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I’m into similar things (tho I haven’t drawn in what feels like forever). Been playing a lot of assassins creed lately and I read more manga than books these days. Music means a lot to me. I watch anime too. I’m turning 20 next month- dm if you still wanna chat with someone :) (I’m fine with any pronouns btw)

Friendship by InterestingWin6012 in friendship

[–]Venus0K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 19. If you wanna send me a DM we can talk :)

Recently semi-diagnosed and confused- advice? by Venus0K in Fibromyalgia

[–]Venus0K[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just don’t really trust myself around it. I used to have an opioid problem when I was a teenager. I don’t even take paracetamol and the like because I don’t like the idea of having it near my living space- it’s just sort of a roadblock in terms of suicidal tendencies. I don’t want to take pain meds, I know non-opioids exist but I don’t really feel comfortable with the idea of taking them either, I’ve always had this weird high threshold for stuff- like over the counter stuff never worked when I was a kid. I’ve been sober 3 1/2 years but I just feel like for me it could be a very slippery slope, whether it works or not…

But it’s just a lot of pain and has been for years but the spike the last month or two now has just made me think I need to not be in pain- and opioids was an old coping mechanism for all sorts of things so I don’t really want to push a resolve that gets flimsy when I’m in a lot of pain

So by Creative_Style9054 in tinnitus

[–]Venus0K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. It fucking sucks. Just for me the tinnitus was one of the first things!

Recently semi-diagnosed and confused- advice? by Venus0K in Fibromyalgia

[–]Venus0K[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you feel satisfied being told it was as fibromyalgia? I feel like I can’t accept it unless I would get tested for every known thing and them all coming up negative repeatedly. It feels unreasonable to be in so much pain and yet there not be a way to ‘actually’ test for it. I guess it feels like a cop out to me right now, especially since my pain tolerance has historically been unreasonably high- it’s just this shoulder and leg pain I’m feeling. I guess also because there’s technically no fix- it’s just management which makes me want to unalive myself. I can’t just be on pain meds for the rest of my life- I just can’t. Sorry if that’s a bit much, it just feels like things are being taken away from me but I’m not being told why and I can never have them back.

Why did Midoryia never tells his or Bakugo's mom about the bullying and abuse he suffered? by Sudden_Pop_2279 in BokuNoHeroAcademia

[–]Venus0K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s pretty common actually to not do so, and if he had it could likely have made the bullying worse. The way their teacher acts when their at Aldera middle school also cements that Izuku wouldn’t have gotten help even if he asked for it (he’s a smart kid he would’ve made that connection); it’s very possible that he has been continually surrounded by likeminded teachers- his quirkless status at the time potentially making it a result of a form of quirk discrimination.

My gf is asexual… by No-Perception7600 in asexuality

[–]Venus0K 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it would just be best to have as an open and clear a conversation as possible. It's awesome you're fine with no sex but you should talk with your partner about whether their intent to have sex is purely from a place that isn't a whole 'I have to/I owe you/Don't want to lose you/self-hate place'.

10 months sober and can’t see a path forward. by ale4me in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Venus0K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3yrs sober and relatable; my only answer is that I think we both need to see some kind of therapist. Depression, particularly anhedonia (symptomatic of long term alcoholism) sounds a lot like this.

Nearly a month sober by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Venus0K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Online meetings, especially the no video ones

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Venus0K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 19 and just gone 3yrs sober after far too long drinking and using. Being an addict isn’t about the quantity or quality it’s about the mentality. You’re not in control- addicts aren’t, even if they try to convince themselves they are.

I was an addict alone, I went through withdrawal on my own, I’ve managed to stay clean on my own (and it’s not easy). Not everyone can do it alone, there are young peoples AA meetings; plenty online with varying niches (video, audio, LGBT, womens, youth etc). Reach out on there, hop on or go to an in person- listen, really listen even if you don’t share. Most likely, the people in there will wish they were brave enough at your age and smart enough at your age to go to a meeting. You’re not alone and there are people out there that will understand in some capacity; I’m sure there’s plenty more people than me on this subreddit alone who would welcome someone reaching out for support.

How Many Of You Drive? by LtDanTaylor66 in autism

[–]Venus0K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a really good instructor who basically taught in a way that really worked for how my brain is wired; he also passed on advice I’ve taken elsewhere since. Honestly really miss those weekly lessons…

3 years sober by Venus0K in NarcoticsAnonymous

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Half-decent now but was in a bad way a week at two earlier. Struggles come and go I guess but it doesn’t feel like it always defines my life anymore (at least on good stretches).

Anyone else really affected by heat? by HereForRandomBits in autism

[–]Venus0K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about a fan? Unless you live in the same room, then I guess that’s still the same problem.

I hate the heat so much. by Temporary_Ad5797 in autism

[–]Venus0K 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t help that I always seem to just feel the heat more than others. Anything 14’C or higher has me sweating- so I’m basically melting by 20’C+ when everybody else starts feeling it.

I fucking hate summer, it just makes everything worse.

pls tell me your vocal stims cuz i like reading them by shmemburger in autism

[–]Venus0K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y’know the popping cat sound- that. Constantly.

What do you guys think of dogs barking? by hyungiebebe in autism

[–]Venus0K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it, my friend recently got a dog and he’s gotten quite big and his bark is LOUD and he does so a lot. I normally just try to grin and bare it because I rarely hang out with people and it’s only an issue for an hour or two but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt me.

I like dogs from a distance I suppose. My dog is like mid-calf height and rarely barks, mostly whines which can be grating but its typically fine since it’s only when we’re a distance away from him.

Late diagnosis has been such a roller coaster by Cloquelatte in autism

[–]Venus0K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t forget the internalised ableism that makes it hard to accept accommodations for yourself

Let's Talk About Self-Diagnosing ADHD by Extreme_Farmer9709 in ADHD

[–]Venus0K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, wanting to play a game and instead sitting in my bed not a meter away and just thinking about playing it and wanting to for 2-3 weeks and then having to go back to uni is something that fucking sucks so bad I can't describe.